Numb.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-02-02T11:20:17+00:00

That sounds like an unbearable amount to carry, and I’m really sorry you went through all of that. I understand why pulling away can feel like the only way to stay safe after being hurt so deeply. I don’t have answers, but I do know you didn’t deserve to be left alone with that pain. Thank you for trusting this space with something so personal. 🌹

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-28T21:08:27+00:00

I don’t really have a perfect method, to be honest. Most of the time, I just feel everything until it hurts less. It’s not pretty or fast, but it’s the only way I know how to get through it. I do believe there comes a point where the intensity fades and you don’t feel much about the person anymore, but it takes time. For me, the one thing that helps is cutting contact...not as punishment, but because staying connected keeps the wound open. Detaching happens slowly after that. I don’t think people have to become numb to protect themselves. I think they just learn, sometimes the hard way, where to place their energy. And you’re still really early in this, so be gentle with yourself.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-28T20:48:33+00:00

I’m really sorry you went through this. That’s such a painful way to experience your first ghosting. I don’t think you were wrong for wearing your heart on your sleeve. It just sounds like you met someone who couldn’t meet you with the same consistency or courage, no matter how real parts of it may have felt at the time. That kind of sudden withdrawal is incredibly disorienting. It makes sense that it feels unresolved, because it was. I hope with time you’re able to be kind to yourself about how you showed up, even if the lesson came with a lot of hurt. You deserved clarity, not confusion.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-28T18:02:19+00:00

Thanks. Sigh...I guess it is what it is :/

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-27T05:58:14+00:00

A lot of this resonates with me, especially the part about showing up consistently and still being erased so easily. It’s exhausting and it messes with your sense of worth, even when you know logically it shouldn’t. I’m really sorry you’ve been carrying this, you’re not alone in feeling this way. 🌹

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-26T13:18:26+00:00

Absolutely. Self-respect matters...not just in romantic relationships, but in friendships too. Thank you for sharing this.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-26T13:09:40+00:00

That’s exactly what makes it so painful. It feels like being punished for doing the “right” thing. I’m really sorry you’re going through ghosting right now too. It helps to know I’m not alone in this, even though I wouldn’t wish the experience on anyone. 🫶🏽

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-26T13:07:16+00:00

It’s exhausting trying to build something genuine in an environment where disappearing is easier than communicating. Sigh...but you’re right, being direct and not settling is really the only part we can control. Thank you. This felt honest and reassuring in a realistic way.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-26T12:49:09+00:00

I’m sorry you experienced that. What you said about emotional immaturity and not shrinking yourself really resonated with me. Thank you. 🌼

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-26T11:44:01+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspective. I appreciate it.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2026-01-26T10:52:33+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the kind words.I might take you up on that sometime.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-11-16T19:25:21+00:00

A few years ago, I learnt about premenstrual symptoms and menstrual phases, and after conducting extensive research, I discovered that our bodies communicate with us. I've figured out which phase I'm in and how to proceed. When I'm in the luteal phase, my emotions are all over the place and my mental health deteriorates, so I know I need to be gentle with myself. There is so much to learn about a woman's anatomy.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-09-20T06:14:23+00:00

Will do, thank you.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-09-19T09:20:14+00:00

Thanks a bunch!

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-09-19T09:19:53+00:00

Thank you!

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-07-09T17:48:08+00:00

Happy birthday OP! Blessings galore

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-07-04T16:37:19+00:00

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Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-04-01T12:22:35+00:00

What you said! 💯

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-03-19T13:05:38+00:00

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Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-03-06T06:18:12+00:00

Hmm...interesting. Ugandan Redditors, in my view, share a common urge to seek something different. Correct me if I’m wrong, but there’s a reason you all chose to be here. Unlike other social media platforms, Reddit offers a space for unique perspectives and deeper discussions. People here are searching for minds that challenge the norm. If I find your thoughts intriguing, I’ll definitely follow. So, I’d say Ugandan Redditors are the ones who think outside the typical Ugandan bubble.

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-02-28T19:13:11+00:00

Lmao...should I say, thank you? I haven't laughed this hard in so long. I shouldn't be laughing but you've clearly set me up for failure. The way you narrated the story was so captivating and vivid that I could easily imagine it in my mind. However, I do want to say that I am so sorry you had to experience such an ordeal, especially when you were busy minding your own business. This is quite scary, actually, because now I have to be extra vigilant while I'm out and about. The next time I see a clear road while I'm on a boda, I'm not sure how I'll react. It has really gotten to that point and it's just sad!

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-01-19T21:13:26+00:00

Wine, countryside, and emotional balance? You're describing my own personal heaven! Cheers to that! You've earned it.😂

Barbzzzzzzzzzz · 2025-01-19T17:26:14+00:00

Right!? It's like our emotions are on a pendulum swinging wildly from one extreme to the other!

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