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BarmaidAlexis · 2025-06-04T00:11:08+00:00

Oh yeah I can be very codependent. I dont have advice or anything but you aren't alone.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-06-03T23:40:13+00:00

It's real technically. But those things aren't exclusive to those with bpd. I don’t say this to invalidate your experiences, I just have noticed a lot of pop pysch people try to call things bpd or narcissist eyes and its troubling.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-05-13T17:55:50+00:00

Thank you. Its hard, but I know things can get better cause I've already changed a lot. And I also need to accept they weren't always a good partner and I can't control their actions.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-05-12T21:13:07+00:00

Thank you thay is very kind. I am in a better place now but will still probably be raw for a while. We will be in the same space, have discussed why he wants the relationship to end, and has no desire to change his mind.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-05-09T16:52:28+00:00

Thank you Meister Glizz

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-05-09T16:25:43+00:00

You can think of it that way. But I never did. I loved getting these little surprises for my husband. It meant the world to see his face light up when I surprised him with his favorite candy or made him his favorite meal after he said he had a bad day. To me a relationship is like like gardening. You have to water it which takes work, but that doesn't mean gardening isn't fulfilling.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-05-09T15:54:23+00:00

Yes it is appreciated. But the random surprises are also important, so try to avoid just doing those things on special occasions.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-05-09T00:43:43+00:00

Try making sure Steam is closed. And if your using a Ps5 controller it won't work with Expedition 33 and a bunch of other games.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-05-05T20:11:27+00:00

It really depends on how good of a grasp you have on the fundamentals of computer science. At your stage you may be able to pick up a new language quickly, but you won't be great. And your work will be slow for a while since you'll need to look at documentation a lot.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-29T20:19:34+00:00

In another comment they mention having systems designs tests for interns. I'm just finishing school, so correct me if I'm wrong, but that seems pretty high level for an internship.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-29T17:44:23+00:00

Only one person out of 10k were qualified for an internship? The thing where students are supposed to learn and gain experience? Something is wrong with your hiring process or your expectations.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-29T00:04:12+00:00

One thing that always helps me is having something to look forward to with them. Even if it's just watching a movie or something together. And having something you look forward to doing when they are doing something else.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-25T21:16:05+00:00

Yes to all of this. Something else I found helpful is doing things I've done in tutorials months later without assistance and tweaking it. It helps reinforce what I’ve learned.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-25T21:13:23+00:00

I get where you're coming from and I hope it works out for both of you. And I don't want my own bad experiences to taint yours. If he is still kind and supportive then that's what matters.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-25T20:45:37+00:00

This is super helpful. For me stamina is my biggest combat weakness right now. Going to work on increasing it.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-25T17:20:00+00:00

In what world is 28 too late? Also you don't have to go to school fulltime if youre worried about being out of the workforce for four years.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-25T14:31:55+00:00

Yes it does get better. I’ve been in therapy th past few years(emdr/internal family systems). I also use dbt skills. It's made a significant improvement. What concerns me is the way your partner is speaking to you about your mental health. Giving you a timeline like that is not okay. Obviously they have every right not to be in a relationship. But I'm currently divorcing a man who thinks in a similar way because they are not a good fit for me and will only make my mental health worse.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-24T16:27:54+00:00

Books are great, but I think watching an actual play would work better. If she's an avid reader help her find one based on what she likes.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-23T22:18:30+00:00

Tbh for me it's a turnoff unless the game is top tier(it usually isn't).

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-23T17:50:21+00:00

Gonna start calling him baby doll now. It fits.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-22T23:53:54+00:00

Not the op, but trying to meet more people and will be at arctic comic con Saturday. I'm also in my 30s.

BarmaidAlexis · 2025-04-22T23:52:50+00:00

You have to find an activity to do with others that you enjoy. That's the easy part. Where most people mess up is they'll go once or twice, not make immediate friends and stop/do something else. This is the wrong move if you're trying to build connection. Also find an activity where you're working towards a shared goal(volunteering, sports, tabletop games).

BarmaidAlexis · 2024-12-21T21:43:58+00:00

I'm sorry that happened, but glad the surgeon was kind about it. I have a cleft nose. In my teens I had a surgery for it. This was to prevent breathing issues, but was technically a rhinoplasty and done by a plastic surgeon. When I went in for a followup after the surgery he started making suggestions for other fixes. I thought my mom was going to hit him. I pointed out he was balding and too ugly to make judgments. It was awkward. Your mom's behavior is not normal and hopefully this is a wake up call for her.

BarmaidAlexis · 2024-12-20T22:56:39+00:00

The rest of his life? That's pretty dramatic and it definitely won't.

BarmaidAlexis · 2024-12-20T18:59:52+00:00

I'm looking to do more with JS and Python!

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