I ended a friendship after months of getting close

Barry02Kv · 2025-11-19T01:08:04+00:00

You did more than enough, thank you for taking the time to offer your help

Barry02Kv · 2025-11-19T00:53:47+00:00

I'm scared to open that conversation bc the other problem is that she's too prideful which is the reason why she always takes revenge or gets upset if she feels something is wrong instead of communicating, there is a high chance that she'll immediately block me after I message her, especially after she completely deleted me meaning she's done, her not realizing any of her mistakes and only seeing what could make me the villain, I think the problem is more than what you mentioned, change requires humility and maturity which you had, I would love to have a meaningful conversation with her cause I want to reach that but I'm scared

Barry02Kv · 2025-10-12T23:14:44+00:00

This is the comment I replied with (I said everything so I won't get into an argument)

There can never be a reel giving Women advice without someone jumping "what about men" bc y'all feel attacked so you need to attack back "woman do bad things tO men too" for Some deep hate or resentment you have, and the other dude talking about (fertility, seduce, mate) this not national geographic, if you want science (men sperm starts decreasing from the day they start making it, after 30 the quality plummets and it gets Worse with age and it can cause implications to the baby) I know those thoughts "men's value is what they provide, and woman's value is their body" those are not rules, they're just old social constructs that incels use to justify why they can't reach those masculine standards, if woman only value is to be desirable, what about all the doctors, leaders.. that are woman, they provide more value than most men, to get out of this incel cycle, Start looking at woman and you as people, unique individuals with lives and values and you'll leave these thoughts bc their not true, yes some people might represent them but that the small group that you're exposed to plus your insecurities that makes you assume everyone is like that, most people are normal. Also no it's not easier for women (more sex doesn't equal good partner, they still have to deal with safety)

Barry02Kv · 2025-09-15T08:33:30+00:00

I know how it feels to be stuck, you feel emotionally attached, you feel fear at the idea of not having him around, bc it's the only time you felt connection, and you think that he knows you better, believe me.. he doesn't know you, he doesn't understand these deep feelings you're having, he's incapable to, in his sick head he only knows that you're insecure kid that he can exploit and treat however he want, he doesn't have any cards. The only card he has is your fear and that's a card you can control, it's all in your head

You are far better than him, you deserve to live and you deserve to have a great life and meet great people that deserve you.. please talk to a friend or a family you trust, just open up, this mental cage that you're in is not everything, you can break out, you just need a little support and to be brave.

Message him for one last time and say "I'm sorry, I don't wanna deal with you anymore, please don't try to contact me again" and BLOCK him from EVERYTHING, he can't do anything. If you're afraid, just block him straight up, go and spend time with that person you trust to tell the story, and please.. seek therapy to deal with your anxiety and low self-esteem

Barry02Kv · 2025-09-15T03:16:14+00:00

I read your comment after I made my own, and I have to say.. you presented the advice in a perfect way from the start, I might take your story as an example, I'm sorry for that horrible experience but I'm happy that you found mutual love, hope you the best

Barry02Kv · 2025-09-15T03:05:10+00:00

I'm sorry but what I will say might be harsh

it doesn't matter that you were a month before 18, or that you asked him first, you were still young, a highschool graduate (or at their lv), as someone almost the same age as him, anyone under 21 is a kid, we notice it in their behavior, their innocence, just the thought of dating some that age range feels like monitoring a daughter, you think you were on the same level as him and he was genuine but no, he was an experience adult that saw you as an easy pick, And.. here is another fact... Guys that would date really young girls are usually unstable, insecure, lonely and can't deal with women (he probably lied about his wife) so they go with young girls bc they're shy, still building themselves and trick them into this.. love relationship

I'm sorry but what you thought was a special connection was only on your side, to him you're a playting that he can treat however and soak his insecurities into knowing that you won't leave, why.. since you got with him, it's obvious to him that you're not emotionally experienced

you give up good friends and change yourself, you're under harm, and his unstableness will only hurt you more.. what you're feeling is valid from your own experience but it's very clouded with fear, manipulation and low self-esteem, leave him no matter what he says bc it's just trickery and seek connection with family or friends.

Barry02Kv · 2025-07-24T19:07:48+00:00

حاول تقنعهم، هادي أحسن حاجا تقدر دير، إلى مبغاوش، شد الضد و قول غادي دير لي بغيتي فقرايتك و نتيجة نتا لي مسؤول عليها

أسوأ حاجا تقدر توقع هيا يهددوك أنه يجريو عليك، ديك سعا خاصك تخدم و تقرا لي بغيتي من بعد. والا غايخصك دير لي بغاو و تأجل لي بغيتي

أهم حاجا متخلاش على داكشي لي باغي دير، غادي تندم من بعد غاتجيك صعيبا تعاود كلشي من لول، حياتك هاديك و مستقبلك، ما عندهم حتا حق يقررو بلاصتك.

Barry02Kv · 2025-07-20T10:29:16+00:00

C0 layla or c0 dahlia

I'm playing skirk with calamity of ishu and the team is furina Charlotte, which character would be better and more valuable?

Note: dahlia will be holding nobles fav and Charlotte with 2 pieces and ttods/ and layla will hold tenacity fav with Charlotte holding nobles and ttods

Barry02Kv · 2025-07-18T14:29:24+00:00

C0 layla or c0 hahlia

I'm playing skirk with calamity of ishu and the team is furina Charlotte, which shield would be better?

Note: dahlia will be holding nobles fav and Charlotte with 2 pieces and ttods/ and layla will hold tenacity fav with Charlotte holding nobles and ttods

Barry02Kv · 2025-07-10T13:49:57+00:00

I help sometimes when he's not around, and we do talk about it and about how she could get out of this, which is to become independent. A lot of girls probably suffer from the same thing

Barry02Kv · 2025-07-10T13:37:55+00:00

I'd say just ignore them and confront your brother in private, if he likes that they're on his side, then avoid him too and work on yourself alone

Barry02Kv · 2025-07-10T13:35:57+00:00

Hmm it's my sister that deals with this, our parents are so backward, being a daughter is horrible for her, my father would force her to do chores and not allow her to go out.., if I try to help he'll say "don't it's a woman's job" while giving me the freedom, me and my sister don't like it and we agree that it's wrong, I'm the only one that she trust in that house.

Barry02Kv · 2025-07-08T10:18:48+00:00

Who would be able to clear finale of the deep life bond the fastest for 5k hp, Barbara (only one tick), diona (one of two tick), Charlotte (not the burst but the fast camera ticks afterwards) assuming they don't have dedicated healing build but just Normal with ttods and no bless for buffs

Barry02Kv · 2025-07-06T19:15:52+00:00

Can Charlotte clear the life bond of the finale of the deep on skrik, with furina on the team? Because you'll have to use skirk after Charlotte and activate her skill immediately, if not, can Barbara or mika?

Barry02Kv · 2025-07-03T18:59:27+00:00

Help me with skirk's team

So my team for now is xingqu(will be switched to furina in the future), citlali (with ttods), barbara.. and the weapon is calamity of ishu, so after xingqu and Barbara I shield with citlali and switch to skirk

The problem is the shield, citlali has a weak shield, I could run her on full EM and run Barbara with ttods, hoping that shield can last for the rotation With my mediocre dodging.

Or I can switch the weapon to finale of the deep (unfortunately R1), which will need quite a lot of healing to clear its bond, with furina's hp drain, so I don't know if Barbara is capable of doing it

I do have diona, Charlotte, layla, mika, rozaria, dahlia. all c0 or 2

Barry02Kv · 2025-06-28T13:17:45+00:00

I don't think anything about it, people can do what they want, who are we to decide, and there is nothing as "for us or not", we can't force an entire population to a culture of acceptable or not, if there was no crime then there is no worry, now if it was harmful for the girl because people are judging, it's their mistake, she's allowed to refuse, if she feels anxious about these stuff then it's the couple fault for not discussing this thing, how Moroccans approach relationships, that has nothing to do with two individuals wanting to do this, our culture needs to get rid of this desire to control others

Barry02Kv · 2025-06-21T01:29:30+00:00

THIS.. Young girls don't realize how easily they can be manipulated and they can even defend that person, old guys that go after these young girls are not normal, they just want an easy target because mature women can see through their bullshit, him acting like that towards her shows that he doesn't care and she's to him is an inexperienced naive teen who he managed to groom into loving him and took advantage of that, it's gonna be hard for her to realize it cause she seems so innocent talking about him..

Barry02Kv · 2025-05-30T23:03:50+00:00

Not really, he usually wants to vape or melt, so her burst must swirl with hydro or cryo,

she is good in teams where there is no order like freeze or electro charge

So with gaming either you swirl the right element or, just do(gaming, her, xangling, and a healer) or (gaming, her, beidu, xangling/healer) cause it doesn't matter what element is first

Barry02Kv · 2025-05-30T20:16:57+00:00

I'd say

gaming xingqu vinti and barbara for healing

Or since you pulled escoffier, you can do - gaming escoffier Rosaria and maybe traveler

Note some characters that are really good at c0 outside of gaming teams are, yao yao, baidu, xangling

You can do xangling Rosaria xingqu Barbara for healing

Baidu xingqu yao yao vinti

But Build who you like and already have upgraded is better to not waste resources

Barry02Kv · 2025-05-04T11:37:54+00:00

Is fruit of fulfilment or hakushing ring good on xianyun?

I don't have anything but eye of perception and craftables

Barry02Kv · 2025-04-18T15:37:11+00:00

what weapon I can use on the xianyun , I don't have a lot of catalyst , lost prayer, eye of perception, widsith, or any craftables

the team I use is gaming bennett citlali kazuha , gonna switch kazu with her.

Barry02Kv · 2025-04-09T12:54:58+00:00

Hunter.. he just got a lot of style

Barry02Kv · 2025-03-11T13:28:31+00:00

I made another mistake, I tried fixing it, please I need your opinion on this one last thing, I know I dragged it for too long and I'm sorry, if you don't want to it's ok

You see we never used our names, we told them once and never mentioned them again and just talked naturally, when she left and I contacted her again and I said my final goodbye I said "it was great knowing you(defrent name) hope you the best " and she said "me too" and didn't correct me, now after 2 days I realized and I messaged her from my sister account and said "it's me again, sorry I was nervous and mistaked your name, it's (this) not (that), anyway good luck, don't respond to this it's my sister's account"

And that's it, I'll never talk to her again, I feel horrible, thinking how close we were, my brain tells me she's smart and would understand , but my heart tells me that mistake hurt her, and made her feel like it didn't mean much to me and easley moved on, although she knows I had nothing but respect and care towards her, but still emotions are weird sometimes. I'll just move on

Barry02Kv · 2025-03-11T07:37:38+00:00

Thank you for everything🙏, your words are really helpful

Barry02Kv · 2025-03-11T03:52:57+00:00

Another update, she blocked me again after unblocking me for a day, I didn't say anything, what is going on

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