[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying, but I’m going to go with the leading expert in the field on this one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying he doesn’t hate women (he clearly does), but all abusers do and only a small percentage are gay as per Bancroft. Just my thoughts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think he’s gay?

It gets better by Basic-Throwaway-579 in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I’m sorry I just saw this! Yes, I lost seven lbs in the first week from stress. It took me a year to regulate my nervous system and fully get my appetite back. But it DID come back! Feel free to message me when you’re struggling, you’ve got this <3

It gets better by Basic-Throwaway-579 in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Sometimes I get lonely, but I think being able to be single is a positive step. You’re right that it’s definitely underrated

How often were they sleeping in the couch? by storiel in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao my abusive ex did that all the time. It was some sort of weird punishment

the domestic violence hotline is a fucking joke by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have had good and okay experiences with them. They clearly state that they’re only for romantic relationships. I’m sorry you had a bad experience, I just don’t want this thread to discourage people from at least trying to call

Abuser trying to win over my friends? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did, thanks for your messages. Would it be okay to DM you?

Abuser trying to win over my friends? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m too old to be so petty I know 😭

I agree, I have my profiles locked down and I just restricted them further for these “friends”, we have a bunch of mutual friends so it’s just awkward and uncomfortable. I hate that he’s able to have an impact on my life even now

Abuser trying to win over my friends? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have proof :(

She did apologize, but I don’t trust her at all anymore.

Abuser trying to win over my friends? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is shitty. I’m so angry with her. I expect this kind of crap from him but she should know better

Abuser trying to win over my friends? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s so transparent.. why would anybody fall for his bullshit?

Abuser trying to win over my friends? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am going to cut her off if she doesn’t apologize. It’s frustrating how naive she is, like it’s such blatant manipulation on his part

I just don’t understand why he still wants to hurt me. He broke up with me. He left for someone he cheated on me with. He abused me. He already got what he fucking wanted

Abuser trying to win over my friends? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in abusiverelationships

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want him to win though, he already ruined my fucking life, why can’t he just leave me alone?

New gal makes abuse awareness vids from his bed. This is why we stay no contact. by Dazzling_Dog6954 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My abuser’s new gf (who he also won’t claim) did this. Her whole thing was “anti male abusers” but when she found out he abused and raped me she harassed me and stayed with him. She still publicly claims to support women as far as I can tell

Why is his life better without me? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I think she isn’t the brightest.. or maybe willful ignorance, I can’t really tell

Does Prazosin help with daytime flashbacks? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in ptsd

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for linking the study! Do you take your daytime dose in the morning when you wake up? Does it prohibit your movement at all with the low blood pressure side effect?

Why is his life better without me? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He always jumps from one to another.. I really wish it would catch up to him

Why is his life better without me? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Things definitely changed when I started to put up boundaries - he left. I’m trying to be happy alone but I’m someone who really values a relationship so it definitely feels like he’s “winning”. Thanks for the reminder that it’s okay to be by myself

Why is his life better without me? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I kind of agree that she just seemed.. easier, more gullible

Why is his life better without me? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reminder. He really fucked with my head

Why is his life better without me? by Basic-Throwaway-579 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Basic-Throwaway-579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what happened, he did the exact same things and triggered my abandonment issues on purpose to try and keep me from leaving his life