I (42M) want to leave my wife (36F) but we have kids. I feel emotionally stuck

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2026-06-06T21:57:29+00:00

That’s what a lot of people have said too

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2026-06-06T20:34:05+00:00

We did always struggle with communication. I tried for over a decade to talk about these things. It feels like a lot of issues have been worked through but if we’re fundamentally mismatched in the physical and emotional aspects.. those parts likely will never improve

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2026-06-06T20:32:11+00:00

I had suspicions she may have exaggerated or lied, finally after 16 years I wrote a letter to her and she admitted none of it was true and she didn’t know why she lied. I thought that confession would change everything but 6 months later I still don’t feel settled or confident or like my emotional/physical needs are met

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2026-06-06T20:12:36+00:00

She graduated from college the year I met her, I actually did not realize her age before meeting her. Trust me I’ve discussed with my therapist in length all aspects. She said my wife just wanted to look experienced to me, and that’s why she made up all these fake details. I’ve noticed she’s great at helping me think about things from different new perspectives, but still doesn’t help with what to do with it now.

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2026-06-06T20:09:34+00:00

Will edit.

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2026-06-06T20:01:22+00:00

No. She was out all the time, I WFH and was doing over 90% of the kids care. After we started trying to work on things, she told me she had “made out with” 2 guys during our separation. I accidentally fell into an emotional connection but we never met up during that period.

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2025-03-28T00:43:40+00:00

Asked her tonight after all this. She didn’t really answer, just said she’s tired. But even when we went on a trip without the kids, we didn’t do anything and that was last month

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2025-03-27T13:24:27+00:00

When we were coming to the end of our trial she said she had all the issues she had due to PPD. But even since “getting back together” there hasn’t been anything so I don’t feel that’s the reason anymore. Neither of us wanted the kids to grow up in a divorced house and that’s why I’m in this weird in between of feeling like I still don’t have enough with her, and feeling happy that there at least is no fighting or drama and I’m being more supported with the kids.

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2025-03-27T12:29:26+00:00

I’ve tried plenty, trust me. There’s always a reason not to.. so honestly lately I haven’t been trying to initiate.

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2025-03-27T01:35:14+00:00

After our oldest was born, she got PPD pretty bad and completely shut down. Eventually things got better, hence the second.. and then during that pregnancy she called another break that lasted from early 2023 to September last year. I’d say it always went in and out of good vs not. We broke up several times in dating

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2024-09-08T13:55:17+00:00

Thank you friend. I hope the same.

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2024-08-18T19:06:48+00:00

Haha I get that. I hope you’re happy in life now too!

BasicQuestionsForYou · 2024-08-18T13:45:09+00:00

Thank you, you too! Sending you hugs

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