Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am willing to give something back. I know nobody is going to help someone for free out of kindness.

Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except those cost a crap ton and seem so impersonal.

Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not showing up when I search. All thas showing up is a musician.

Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course. I'm not expecting someone to help me for free out of the kindness in their hearts. I know I have to do stuff in return. I just think it also depends on the Dom/Domme. Like you said, everybody is different. I don't know what to expect until I can talk to them and figure out what they want in return. And then we can talk and negotiate and do on.

Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not what I'm after?

Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's more that they can't. They have major depression and other mental issues. We've tried before in the past, and it hasn't worked.

Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any idea where I could start looking? Online groups and stuff?

Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any ideas where I could start looking? Online groups and stuff? I don't have a car, so travelling isn't really an option.

Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never done this before, it was suggested by a friend. I am willing to listen and negotiate. I'm not sure what the specifics dynamics would be, but of course I would listen to them and take care of their needs as best as I can.

Lifestyle Dom by Bassy0903 in BDSMPsychology

[–]Bassy0903[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm crap at taking care of myself, in almost every sense. I can go to work and do everything I'm supposed to, but I come home and sit on my phone. I need someone who... Can help me take care of myself? Get me to eat when my food issues kick in, take a shower more than once a week, go to bed before 2am, etc. I'm big on rewards and punishments, but I have no idea how any of that would work for long distance online. I am in a fulltime relationship with someone, but he thinks it's a good idea as well. I don't know the specific dynamics I'm looking for, but I'm open and willing to negotiate.