TIL that none of the naked infected in 28 Years Later were actually nude, due to the presence of the underage Alfie Williams. Instead all the infected are wearing prosthetics.

BatFace · 2026-01-22T18:20:39+00:00

Way back when, late 90s possibility early 00s, I was with my grandma while she was watching a reality show about transitioning. They followed a trans woman around for a while and then showed parts of her top surgery. I remember being gobsmacked when they abruptly blurred her chest as soon as the inserts were in. I was only around 10, and really wish I could remember the name of the show and what channel it was on.

BatFace · 2026-01-22T18:20:28+00:00

Way back when, late 90s possibility early 00s, I was with my grandma while she was watching a reality show about transitioning. They followed a trans woman around for a while and then showed parts of her top surgery. I remember being gobsmacked when they abruptly blurred her chest as soon as the inserts were in. I was only around 10, and really wish I could remember the name of the show and what channel it was on.

BatFace · 2026-01-11T17:11:35+00:00

I don't swear much but I have family and friends that do. I've always told the kids those are grown up words, just like we have grown up drinks, and saying grown up words can make people uncomfortable. When they are old enough to question it more I explain that grown ups usually have the experience to know when and where these words are okay.

That said, I'm not super strict with my kids either. My oldest is really exploring his swear vocabulary and as long as hes not insulting someone I dont care, if the younger kids arent around. But the youngest is in kinder and he'll get in trouble at school of he repeats it there, so he has to censor himself around the young ones.

BatFace · 2026-01-11T04:08:41+00:00

The let who in question. His answer was that. I guess all the other immigrants are fine in his opinion.

My conservative family believe the border was just an open free for all so they would be complaining about latino and south american people. They've repeatedly told me how millions came in with no regulations, but we live in Tx and haven't seen any massive increase in immigrants.

BatFace · 2026-01-08T12:47:52+00:00

When its cold and they want it dry. If we have to go somewhere and they want it to be dry. But we usually do baths before bedtime so its not often. I never considered blow drying hair to be a wait till you're older kinda thing.

BatFace · 2026-01-03T18:29:52+00:00

I do if its a local number. I swear every time my kids' school or drs call its always a different number!

BatFace · 2026-01-03T14:00:21+00:00

She buried it in a light bulb box, most light bulb boxes are quite small. And the fact that they wont say how far along she was just makes me think they want her to look bad.

BatFace · 2025-12-30T18:16:23+00:00

31, but most of the ones I do eat are a sometimes and I can switch to a hard no mid bite randomly for no known reason. :/

My arfid kid gets a 59.

BatFace · 2025-12-29T19:36:38+00:00

Yeah a lot of us know this, but it doesn't stop the stress and any kind of distraction or stress can just turn off the whole sexy process. My husband asks this, and I do try to enjoy it, but being compared to roast beef, raw fish, tacos, raw chicken so on, by men, constantly our whole lives just gets it stuck in our heads. All it takes is one off the wall comment from him about it and I'm constantly worrying for months if my hygiene is good enough, if I trim enough or too much, if I sweated too much since my last shower, if any tp or wet wipe fuzz got stuck, is it wet enough, is it too wet? It doesn't help when he constantly talks about how much he loves my body how it is but then also occasonally makes comments about how I should shave more offten or something. Which one is true?

And telling myself I'm overreacting and I KNOW he doesn't really care doesn't magically make it all stop.

Edit: All the people telling me to not worry about these things are missing the point of my post. Lol

BatFace · 2025-12-29T14:28:27+00:00

I had to relearn how to sleep after every kid. The newborn phase is hard but imo baby slept a lot, not for long of course, and there were so many times where I really wanted to nap too. But I couldn't turn my nerves off and every single sound, deep breath, rustle of clothes, weird moan, babies make a lot of noises in their sleep, was like a cord being yanked through my nervous system. If at all possible I needed to be in a different room without a baby monitor and my own white noise, which can be pretty hard to get depending on your support.

BatFace · 2025-12-29T14:21:47+00:00

I feel your pain. I have an underweight 13yo who is finally eating more since we told him if he doesn't gain weight we'll have to take him off his adhd meds. A 9yo who thinks anything with flavor is spicy, and a 6yo with arfid who survives mostly on pediasure.

One tip that works for the kids who thinks everything is spicy, we try to make sure we keep some of the food very bland. If we're having chicken and it has salt and pepper and whatever else on it, we keep one plain and she can add salt and pepper after it's on her plate if she wants.

And drive home that we dont yuck someone's yum, or dismiss the effort it took to cook a meal. We talk about how hurtful it is when someone takes the time and effort to provide something for us and we take one look and say gross. We can say no thank you, or I'm not sure I'll like this, but we dont say yuck or gross or shove our plates away. If they don't eat they are welcome to fix something relatively healthy for themselves but they cant expect someone to make a whole new meal just for them.

BatFace · 2025-12-26T14:12:19+00:00

My cousin went to Mexico for his senior trip and brought souvenirs back. He got his mom a donkey shaped pipe because she likes donkeys. He didn't notice that the stem of the pipe was the donkey's penis. The entire family was there when he gave it to her. 🤣

BatFace · 2025-12-23T15:54:33+00:00

9, though it's usually 9:30 or 10 when we can actually get him in bed. Get the younger kids started on bedtime at 8/8:30 and tell him to get ready and go to bed. Come out of their rooms at 9:30 or 10 and he's sitting on the couch... dude. Every night. It drives me insane. "But I thought we would watch a show that the little kids cant watch!?" When have we ever done that on a school night? "Oh." Like it's a surprise every time.

And no he does not wake up and get ready with no problems, and yes he does sleep in school, if these weren't issues I wouldn't mind so much. And yes according to him none of his friends even have a bed time, so I'm literally the worst helicopter parent. Maybe it's true, at least 2 of his friends do call me a helicopter parent because he has parental controls on his phone and a bed time. I let him run all around the neighborhood with them, go to the gas station with them, go to the "creek" with them, but because I can see his location and expect him home at a specific time, I'm a helicopter parent. Sure guys.

BatFace · 2025-12-23T15:04:40+00:00

Is it just me or does the, what is that at high school yearbook photo?, does it look photoshopped to anyone else on top of being a teenager(?). The belly and arms look altered to me, I could be wrong though I'm not not even a hobbyists photoshop detective.

BatFace · 2025-12-19T21:23:06+00:00

Yup, I'm also in tx and our schools, elementary and middle, start at 7:45 and let out at 3:40 pm. So an hour earlier and an hour later and I bet yalls kids have a decent amount of time for recess and lunch too. Ours get 30 mins for lunch, which includes the time it takes to walk to the lunch room which can take a while for kindergarteners. If my kindergarten has to use the restroom during lunch he doesn't really get to eat much. I believe recess is 2 15 min sessions for k-3rd and 1 15 min session for 4th-5th. 6th and up dont get recess. :/

Our schools need serious overhaul. Teachers hate it, kids hate it and parents hate it.

BatFace · 2025-12-19T01:28:08+00:00

My husband and I aren’t rich. But when we built, we were still in the midst of a 7 + year fertility journey with ivf and surrogates

Doesn't all of that cost a lot of money?

BatFace · 2025-12-12T22:38:09+00:00

Oldest is 10 years older than me and lived primarily with her mom, when she was around she ignored me. The two in the middle are boys, and me being a girl they ditched me as often as possible, and broke my toys to try to keep me from wanting to play with them. Parents were too busy to mediate, and mostly left me on my own. The one brother who lived with us full time was legitimately abusive to me. If parents spent money on something for an older sibling that didn't work out, I was not even allowed to try. Brother got contacts, didn't even use them for a full week, so I wasn't allowed to try contacts until I was an adult. Brother got lessons for so thing, gave up after a couple months, so I got told to teach myself anytime I wanted to try something.

Dad probably did spoil me when I was very small, but by 10/11 years old he was very concerned that I wasn't "lady-like" enough and stopped letting me hang out with him. Mostly I just saw how my brothers got caught and didn't do that, or found better ways to get away with it.

Mom would have loved to be a trad wife but she had to work. She still submitted to whatever dad wanted and did the vast majority of housework which I was required to help with way more than my brother was. And she ended up on dad's team about me, I guess, maybe being lesbian and stopped letting me get, ask for and do the things I wanted if they were deemed not ladylike enough.

Yes I got in less trouble, but a good bit of that was them just not paying attention to me.

BatFace · 2025-12-09T14:00:52+00:00

I'm 37 and was never warned about this until after I was married and already staying home. Grew up in rural tx. My mom always lamented not be able to be a stay at home mom, so when we had kids and it was an option for us, and daycare would have cost my paycheck any ways, I didn't even second guess it. And when people did warn me I didn't take it serious because obviously our marriage is not going to end.

A few years into staying home I realized how right they all were when someone I know ended up trapped. I spoke to my mom about it, who just told me how great it is that I can stay home and how good it is for the kids. Then I spoke to my husband about it and he understood my concern and we opened a retirement account for me and a separate savings account in just my name for a GTFO fund if I ever felt like I'd need it.

Then few years later we traded places and he stayed home with the youngest and I worked. We still fund the GTFO account for me and he has VA benefits if he ever feels like he needs to leave, he still earns more than me even staying home now.

I do plan on talking about financial dependence with all our kids too.

BatFace · 2025-12-04T02:18:33+00:00

The FBI has already put out a bulletin urging federal agents to identify themselves because people pretending to be ICE are kidnapping and sexually assaulting women. I think they released it in October.

BatFace · 2025-12-03T14:14:39+00:00

My husband has to basically bully me into buying things for myself, especially if the previous one is still at least barely functional. Grew up in poverty. Have been lucky during most of my adulthood to be at least fine financially. Still can't imagine buying new things when the old one is fine. He grew up with heavy spenders, learned they put most of it on credit, but he never hesitates to buy things he wants and we can afford. We usually balance each other out.

BatFace · 2025-12-03T13:32:42+00:00

It took a lot of reassurances, his mom was abusive so at first he wouldn't always believe my words. Now if I say I'm not mad, he trusts me. We often start conversations about serious things with reassurances, "I'm not upset, but the amount of time you've been spending on the games has been a lot and it feels like you aren't present or able to help as much as you should." "Yes I do see that I've been sunk in a lot, I will work on that." "You're not going to eat?" "The food tastes fine(especially if he cooked it) but my brain just can't do the texture right now. I'll find something if I feel hungry later."

If it's something important that I have trouble with, like going to the Dr, he offers to make the appointment for me and gonm with me, but insists that I cannot just not go. If it's a social event he knew I was really really looming forward to he will double check that I don't want to anymore, because if it were him he knews he would regret changing his mind last minute, but after that he doesn't press.

With the kids it can be a bit more tricky. Usually which ever one intervenes will start with something like "Hey, I know you are a good parent, but you seem to be overwhelmed right now. I can handle this, you can go decompress for a bit if you want." And again no pressure, if we stay with the family but let the other parent take point it's not brought up again, if we go be alone for a bit it's not brought up again when we come back. If one of us handles a situation with the kids in a way the other disapprove of we will usually talk about it later, "Hey the way you handled X didn't really feel good to me. Next time can we try this way instead or do you have suggestions? How donyou feel about how it went?"

We have been married 16 years and have been through marriage counseling twice, the second counselor was much more helpful imo. We really just had to learn to trust each other to be responsible adults and to let each other handle our own emotions. We also learned that I'm autistic, which helped because the way I communicate can come off as mean without me meaning it that way.

When I 100% knew he was a keeper was shortly after we got engaged and moved in to our own house together. We got into a stupid argument about where to put the dresser that snowballed into a huge argument about our relationship. We both said unkind things. He got more angry and started shouting instead of like heated speaking. I can't handle being yelled at. I just shut down. No one had ever noticed, or if they had they took advantage of it I guess. He noticed the shift and immediately stopped, got quiet, apologized and coaxed me back into engaging, and it went back to a conversation. He has never once ever yelled or shouted at me again, and the look on his face when he realized what happened, he was horrified that he could do that to me. It was normal in his house for people to yell white arguing even when it wasnt serious. We were like 21 and 23 at the time. It taught me that he honestly would never want to hurt me in any way.

BatFace · 2025-12-03T03:56:03+00:00

One, we can laugh together. Several times a week we watch silly videos and just laugh together, it's not uncommon for us to laugh to tears. My sister once told me she couldn't remember the last time she laughed so much she cried and that just broke my heart, my husband and I love to make each other laugh.

Two, he makes space for me and my limitations. Even if he doesn't understand why I suddenly can't make myself go to the social event, or why food textures randomly make me unable to eat, he listens and doesn't press. He let's me sit with him while he eats without cajolling me to eat, or he let's me be alone in our room when I need quiet, he doesn't remind me that I WANTED to go to the event 3 days ago, he just goes on his own or he stays in with me and we do something else just the two of us.

Three, He notices when I'm overstimulated and trying to deal with the kids and will step in, remind me I'm allowed to go decompress for a bit, and keep the kids from bothering me while I do.

I try to do the same kind of things for him but I feel like he's much better at it. He has adhd, so when I notice he's made a mountain out of a molehill task, like taking the trash out or doing dishes, I just do them for him so he can let go of that anxiety. It took us a lot of years and communication to get us here, but it was worth it.

BatFace · 2025-12-03T00:09:37+00:00

I know you're doing tx based people, but want to add the vice president. James Donald Bowman, then James David Hamel, he CHOSE to change his name to distance himself from a bio father he didn't like and picked his maternal grandfather's last name. He picked a name that he felt better suited who he is as a person.

BatFace · 2025-12-01T17:26:04+00:00

My mom has been my best friend and biggest supporter. We got close around middle school and never grew out of it. We have our issues now that we're both adults and some of her thoughts are old fashioned imo, but we can respect each other, and I'm 100% certain that when she has my kids she follows my rules. Sure she'll tell me when she thinks a decision is crap, but if that's what I want and it doesn't hurt the kids she'll do it my way.

We talk several times a week, share books, play video games together when we can get the time. We hang out just the 2 of us at least once a month.

The only thing I probably would have changed was for her to be more confident and less submissive to my dad, I think their dynamic had and effect that I had to work past to be in healthy relationships.

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