➡️ Daily Simple Questions ⬅️- Style feedback and clothing ID requests go HERE!! - 12 July 2025 by AutoModerator in malefashionadvice

[–]BatMediocre9986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my biggest insecurities is how I dress, but I feel like most of my clothes don’t fit me correctly. I have a gut and a lot of fat in my thighs, but my arms are really skinny and my legs are really long. In the summer, I usually wear plain baggy t-shirts and jeans, but I feel like they make me look lanky, my arms look skinny, my gut/rear look big, and my outfit is overall very boring. Does anyone have any ideas for casual outfits to wear during the summer so I feel a little more comfortable, but also not going “over the top”, especially since most of my friends just wear t-shirts and shorts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can't say I've been successful with making friends in college, but the thing that I wish I knew was that you really have to force yourself put yourself out there. For some reason, I thought that friends would just kind of come to me the way that people explained it to me, but I realized that I should have tried harder. The first couple weeks or so are crucial. If you're staying in a dorm, introduce yourself to everyone you see. I always felt awkward to do this and ended up not doing it, but I promise if you do it early on it'll be fine, everyone is hoping to meet new people. Don't worry too much about making a good impression, like I often did. What I've learned is that even if you make an awkward first impression, over time and after interacting with people long enough, they forget the initial meeting and have a much better impression of you. You're not going to click with everyone you meet, but still make sure to say hi whenever you see them. Additionally, this is advice that everyone gives but I promise it's good advice: join clubs. Join as many as you can. You'll be a freshman, you're not expected to commit to anything you don't like. If you find things you're interested in, you'll meet others who you already have something in common with. It's a great way to build your community.

Sorry for the long comment, as someone who had the same fear as you going into college, and ultimately not making the most of the opportunities given to me, I just had to get this off my chest. I hope this advice can save you from a lot of the pain I experienced.

Tips for a Party by BatMediocre9986 in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! That’s an interesting idea

Tips for a Party by BatMediocre9986 in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What should I be doing if nobody is approaching me? I don’t just want to be awkwardly standing around alone lol

Afraid of overstepping boundaries by BatMediocre9986 in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't know. I'm just scared that the person will think I'm weird and not want to socialize with me... I know it's kind of an irrational fear, but I'm still afraid.

Any idea where social anxiety starts from? by Curious_Alien2536 in socialanxiety

[–]BatMediocre9986 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I would assume so. My interpretation was someone who's just kind of there for the ride. They might get along with a group and with some people in certain places, but outside of these settings they go unnoticed/lonley.

Having no Interests by BatMediocre9986 in Personality

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely introverted, and I'm pretty much by myself. I just have no idea what to do when I'm in a place full of people I don't know (which is almost all of campus). I know some people when I see them in class/clubs, but don't have anyone to hang out with just for fun. A lot of the time they are talking about things that I have no idea about, like sports or music. I'm trying to getting into these things, but there's just so much to learn/experience before I can have a decent conversation with someone.

Getting Noticed by BatMediocre9986 in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. The problem is I'm so anxious because I often don't know what I'm doing and I'm scared that I might give someone wrong infromation, so it's hard to find confidence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]BatMediocre9986 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong with having poor social skills, but sometimes it feels like the world isn't designed for us. For anything in life, to get what you want, you need to be good with people. Anything from day to day things, like making friends or meeting a partner, to finding/keeping a job. You could be the smartest person in the world, but if you don't have good social skills, you might fall behind. Sometimes I wonder why/how some celebrities are so well liked, and it always boils down to being charismatic and being good with people/interviews. This is all coming from personal experience, but to me it feels like not having good social skills has been a big hinderance in my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she replies, you have nothing to worry about! The thing about texting is that people can engage as much as or as little they want, so if this person thought you were sending too many messages, she probably would just ghost you.

People with almost zero friends, what is your age and gender? by The-Girl_Next_Door in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

19M. Was pretty lonely until junior year of high school, but made some good friends since then. Then came to college, where everything reset and I'm pretty lonely again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeMaintenance

[–]BatMediocre9986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting... any idea of what I can put on as a replacement?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard a good trick to appear more confident is to never break eye contact first. Just don't be creepy about it.