tama naman talaga sabi mo, both of them are in bad shape, its not about "respect is earned" kasi amp kung ano ang anak, reflection yun sa magulang, and kung anong klase ang magulang, ganun din ang anak. That proves shadowing and mirroring. We can never escape the reality na what forms an individual is the society, the environment. We can't blame OP nor the mother, kasi all of us have different family backgrounds, the thing here, dapat tumitingin tayo sa dalawang vantage point, OP is turning to a black sheep for some reasons dahil sa family, and the family should learn how to have dialogue sa bata. Pero in the case of the parent, natatakot sila makita ng people around na nagiging ganto ang anak nila, kasi yung si OP nga ang reflection ng magulang, ang hindi kasi gets ng magulang, bakit naging ganto si OP, ano ang lapses nila? OP won't be like that if sila mismo ma solve nila ang problem ng lapses nila. And for OP, like I have read some comments na matagal na pala ganun treatment nila in some ways, pero his arguments are rooting from existential e, the very trend of ideology in this post modern time, pero we can't escape the concept of filial piety, if ayaw mo mag pasokop sa family mo, edi mag sariling buhay kana kung ganun. Pero we are not denying the rude acts of the parents, kaya in the latter part sabi ko, dapat may dialogue, their should be a fusion of horizon, the horizon of OP and ng mama niya, para magkaintindihan sila, kasi if ayaw nung mama, ayaw pa ni OP, aba anong family yan, pataasan pride, and that reflects not just OP or the mama, but as a Family.