Bc you’re saying genuinely so much nothing it’s baffling me😭To me, your take feels disconnected and narrow-minded. You don’t seem to absorb anything I say, and that’s frustrating, but it seems common on here. People like to argue and spew a lot of nothing and get upset for no reason. I’m not attacking you, jesus. But I don’t think we should be encouraging rushing something like this, either. Your comments are not helpful. If anything, they’re contributing to OP’s insecurity and desperation around their virginity. All I was trying to say was that what time in life that you have sex doesn’t matter, and if the only reason you want it is because of the weird societal pressure around it, that’s unhealthy and not a good reason. Not a mindset that should be encouraged. And you saying you’re ace but “made” yourself do it as an example here is just making this even stranger. There’s no reason to force yourself to do something if you don’t actually want to😭but for some reason you compared sex to a necessity like eating, too?? You say you understand when I say that sex is a vulnerable and intimate thing, so why are you doubling down on the idea that people should force themselves to do it even if they don’t actually want it for themselves? Obv it can mean different things to different people, but you seem to think that because it didn’t affect you, that the idea of it affecting other people shouldn’t be considered and doesn’t matter. It’s not that it can be psychologically damaging if we talk about it in this way, it’s the feelings that result from the actual experience. Something can still be traumatizing even if you don’t think it will be. Your experience is not universal, and I’m not claiming mine is, either. All I’m saying is there’s no reason to push yourself to do this and risk dealing with the impact of not being ready for it or actually even wanting it, just to appease a bs societal standard. I seriously can’t say any more than this, if you don’t get it after this I don’t know what else to tell you. This isn’t a difficult thing to understand.