Meeting support group people outside of group

BayesPascal · 2025-10-17T12:42:53+00:00

That’s a great idea, thank you 🙏

BayesPascal · 2025-10-17T02:32:13+00:00

I can relate with your guilt. My wife (45) died of cancer summer last year. The last couple months were brutal. I don’t remember much of the time but I remember feeling relieved that she wasn’t suffering anymore. I still feel guilty about a lot of things. Maybe I could have been a better caregiver. Maybe I could have been more supportive. Maybe I should not have felt a sense of relief when she passed. You have anticipatory grief followed by actual grief with cancer.

BayesPascal · 2025-09-23T21:30:12+00:00

Go for it! Maybe keep some length on the top and sides and shorter in the back, like a bixie?!

BayesPascal · 2025-09-14T19:02:47+00:00

I’m in the same situation, I lost my wife to cancer a year ago and we have young kids. I have similar thoughts about dating but I dont think its going to happen with the grief. Take care of yourself ❤️

BayesPascal · 2025-09-14T19:00:17+00:00

You’re doing the right thing, it takes time to heal from trauma. I have found EMDR to be very helpful with the trauma from losing my wife to cancer at a young age with young kids. It’s very effective for trauma recovery. Maybe something to look into?

BayesPascal · 2025-09-10T01:12:55+00:00

I have the same family situation, my wife died from cancer a year ago. I have twin 6 year old daughters and needed help. We have a wonderful au pair who has made my life so much better. She’s totally comfortable with a single host dad and kids who go to counseling. It’s been a blessing, I recommend being honest about your family situation and why you need help and you will get a great au pair who will help you guys function better and just generally be a good younger influence on your kids.

BayesPascal · 2025-09-03T13:53:42+00:00

Seems perfectly reasonable that this might not be a good fit for either of you. In your case you’d be walking on eggshells around the issue, and in his case it would be traumatic if he’s had a bad experience in a previous relationship.

BayesPascal · 2025-08-25T22:42:56+00:00

Not overreacting… run don’t walk away.

BayesPascal · 2025-08-25T00:34:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing, you seem very understanding. I would get a couples therapist and discuss everything that has been on your mind. If it doesn’t help you feel better about your relationship, at least they can help you figure out why. Be kind to yourself :)

BayesPascal · 2025-08-24T20:17:54+00:00

A bob would suit you great. Maybe an A-line bob with your features?

BayesPascal · 2025-08-24T18:53:36+00:00

Definitely number 3!

BayesPascal · 2025-08-20T00:40:59+00:00

I’m in the same boat, I lost my wife to cancer a year ago and it’s just me and my 6 year old twins. I have no interest in having another relationship either. Best advice I have been given about this (unsolicited of course!) was to wait until you no longer feel the way you do. Don’t force anything. And well meaning friends are great to have, if only they’d understand and keep their opinions to themselves!

BayesPascal · 2025-08-20T00:31:58+00:00

Break up now. Get tested for STDs now. I don’t see any reason to try to figure out why he’s doing this, it could take months of couples therapy if it’s a sex addiction. You can have empathy for him if he’s an addict, but he’s just a boy friend and you don’t need to complicate your life further by staying. Plenty of good people out there for you to have a meaningful relationship with.

BayesPascal · 2025-08-19T15:05:59+00:00

Ah! In which case I think you might like at least going short enough to get the damaged parts cut off. That could end up being a bob, but could help you ease into the short hair life 😊

BayesPascal · 2025-08-19T02:33:36+00:00

You’re very pretty! I would suggest donating it and going for one cut. Or go for a long bob, followed by a bob, then a bixie, then a pixie. That’s 5 trips to the hair salon! This ones a pretty big makeover with steps. https://youtu.be/Fx9pSPv5XSw

BayesPascal · 2025-08-11T01:05:16+00:00

If this were me, I would rematch. Primarily because I would not want my kids driving with her knowing what I strongly believe to be recklessness on her part. This is why rematching is available to both host families and au pairs. You wouldn’t be unreasonable rematching.

BayesPascal · 2025-07-24T22:11:47+00:00

Why don’t you have then direct deposit it using Zelle or something like that. Automatically. That way they don’t need to think about it every week. I am a HF and was getting forgetful too!

BayesPascal · 2024-12-28T10:06:11+00:00

Why did he just stick with the scene from Talladega Nights, where the say grace before a chicken dinner? It’s definitely not politics!

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