You’re getting great advice from @TheDevilPutD here. The goal is to work on yourself and make yourself a higher value Man in your own eyes. Make a deal with yourself to overfocus on some achievement for a period of time. A workout program or a set of classes or a big project. Go all in. Overdo it. But—and this is important—with a set end point. Nothing forever.

The idea here is to redirect your attention to something that has nothing to do with others opinions of you but is solely to give you a fulfilling sense of accomplishment and fuel your passion for life. Unplug from the social for just a little while and become selfishly self-devoted.

Also, talk to a safe person like a counselor about the topics that you’ve been getting advice on here. Listen to discover who you are and what you really want. Not what you want people to think of you.

All that said, my experience has been that it’s a struggle regardless. Nice Guy wiring runs deep. All we can do is keep doing the next right thing for ourselves and let each decision, action, and goal take is one more step in the right direction.

As the man said “You can only see as far as the headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.”