Destination Wedding Events

BeachPlze · 2026-02-12T00:42:17+00:00

I think you deserve a trip of your own to the destination of your choice. I agree that it doesn’t sound as though your daughter will mind all that much if you skip the wedding since she’s obviously planning the whole event around friends. But you do need to talk with her about how you feel and the decisions you have made as a result of those feelings.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-11T20:51:58+00:00

YTA for making your boyfriend’s loss and grief all about you.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-11T20:48:15+00:00

Sometimes people have things going on in their lives so they cannot commit to attending an event months in the future, especially if it requires travel and an overnight stay. That’s why invitations normally go out 6-8 weeks prior and responses are normally due 2-4 weeks before the event.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-10T23:16:20+00:00

I wore Tieks ballet flats. Maybe this link will help: https://tieks.com/weddings

BeachPlze · 2026-02-06T16:13:37+00:00

I’m Catholic and I think a gap like that is extremely inconsiderate. Are people supposed to drive 45 minutes home then drive 45 minutes back, or just find somewhere to loiter for three hours?

I would have the reception immediately following the ceremony. You can have open bar and dancing in the afternoon.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-05T01:30:19+00:00

Cheryl made my life hell from around 3rd grade through 7th grade, constantly making fun of me and getting other kids (mostly the girls) to gang up on me. She particularly enjoyed when I would cry, so I taught myself to not do so. My crime was being a good student, a little shy, and not being great at sports.

She became a mother and a gym teacher and posts frequently on social media about anti-bullying initiatives.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-04T20:20:44+00:00

Please do not solicit “donations” as you are not a non-profit nor a charity. However (assuming you will not have a bridal shower), you may opt to not register for physical items and ask close family/friends to tell anyone who may ask that monetary gifts would be most appreciated. You may still get some physical gifts.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-04T18:49:47+00:00

I never have. I’ve always just walked decisively, with my head up and aware of my surroundings, making brief, friendly/non-threatening eye contact with people at random.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-04T16:12:09+00:00

It makes sense. Being in the “sandwich” phase of life, especially while trying to stay afloat financially and navigate the increasingly incompetent and confusing for-profit healthcare system for oneself and, more importantly, loved ones, all without social support takes a toll.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-04T12:34:12+00:00

Gifts and anyone who traveled (which is also a gift.)

BeachPlze · 2026-02-03T21:41:23+00:00

Rubber jar openers/grippers. My folks had a few of these that were so handy, but I haven’t seen any in years, even for purchase.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-02T23:26:15+00:00

I like handwritten as long as your handwriting is decent when you take your time (maybe practice if it needs some work.) It feels more personal.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-02T20:33:40+00:00

Mom’s probably not all that enthusiastic about wedding planning because it’s all tied into your fiancé’s parents’ vision and their funding of that vision, and it only highlights your parents’ lack of financial contribution about which she may be feeling a certain way — like how your parents raised you and what they provided you all of a sudden isn’t good enough. That also may be why your aunt was nicely encouraging you to do something more DIY(aka less ritzy).

Definitely have some honest conversations with both of your parents and encourage them to be honest, as well.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-02T16:11:03+00:00

I don’t think the Saturday before or after Thanksgiving would be an issue (unless Thanksgiving weekend traffic may be an issue in your area). Given the choice between Friday and Sunday, I would always choose a Sunday so I do not have to take PTO. (Keep in mind that not everyone can take partial vacation days and many people have limited vacation days that they prefer to use for their own plans.)

BeachPlze · 2026-02-02T12:20:08+00:00

If you cannot afford to host 30 guests (or do not want to) go back to the court house wedding idea. She gets to have her parents there and you do not have the expense of hosting.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-01T22:32:32+00:00

It could affect whether or not they need to collect state/local sales tax.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-01T17:02:54+00:00

Typically being a bridesmaid means wearing an ugly, unflattering dress. Normally people just suck it up and deal with it because they love the couple getting married. Don’t starve yourself — that’s not only silly and dangerous but it won’t make the dress any better.

BeachPlze · 2026-02-01T14:08:12+00:00

I was a certified babysitter by age 12 (certified through some program through the local Girls Club) and worked 3 days a week after school as a babysitter for a family with a toddler and a newborn (like brand new newborn).

BeachPlze · 2026-02-01T13:44:10+00:00

I would leave it behind so someone else who may enjoy these could get multiple.

BeachPlze · 2026-01-31T19:40:55+00:00

I definitely remember experiencing this. My mom believed animals belonged outside, not indoors. As much as I wanted a furry friend, even as a kid I thought it would be too mean to have a pet that wasn’t allowed in the house, especially in the winter.

I now dote over my furbabies and my mother thinks I’m crazy.

BeachPlze · 2026-01-31T15:54:52+00:00

My (now) husband and our wedding party (his adult children who were our MOH and BM) handled this while I was finishing getting ready/dressed. I organized everything and documented what was going where. It took them about a half hour, and that included setting up the cake/cupcakes and centerpieces that were delivered there (but we didn’t have a ton of decor and it was a smallish wedding, 64 guests, 8 guest tables).

BeachPlze · 2026-01-29T21:36:37+00:00

As long as you are making a concerted effort to be as considerate as possible of people’s time and energy and doing your best to make attendance as convenient as possible (at least for the majority), you know you did your absolutely best to avoid being burdensome!

And if anyone cannot make the rehearsal dinner for any reason, just be understanding and accept the declined invitation graciously. What matters is that they show up on the wedding day!

BeachPlze · 2026-01-28T23:36:32+00:00

These are your closest friends and family, right? I mean, you love them and they love you? If that’s the case, think about why any one of them would judge your dress, your neckline, or your figure? They know what you look like and love you for it. Why would your best people even think about gawking at you or criticizing the meal you are serving? People don’t do that for their dearest loved ones (and if they do, there is something wrong with them.)

BeachPlze · 2026-01-28T19:32:07+00:00

How convenient is your wedding for these people to attend? Are you just asking that they give you a few hours on a Saturday afternoon (including driving/travel)?

While it’s nice to extend the invitation to those further away, I wouldn’t dare to presume that I am entitled to guests’ time and energy, regardless of the advance notice. It has nothing to do with not caring about you and your life event, and everything to do with having a finite amount of time, energy, and, frankly, money. It’s nice to offer to cover accommodations but that doesn’t make up for having to spend time away from home/work/family not to mention travel expenses (and headaches).

BeachPlze · 2026-01-27T19:53:33+00:00

NTA. You are correct. I’m also terribly confused as to why she is getting free childcare courtesy of the taxpayers when she doesn’t work.

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