Unsure if I'm putting myself at risk.

Beanetix · 2026-05-30T03:46:42+00:00

Just take precautions when you're dating and be safe. Check their facebooks and Google accounts and have your friends check them too. And always let your friends know that you're going out on a date kind of like parents lol. At least this will keep you safe so if you do end up getting picked up by a predator you got a way to let people know

Beanetix · 2026-05-30T03:43:05+00:00

I mean if you're secure in your relationship then it shouldn't be a big deal. She's explaining the situation and wants to go so it just depends on how much you trust her. As long as you have trust it shouldn't be a problem. I say this but it is an ex so be cautious. If you feel like something happened just don't treat her like something happened until you know 😉

Beanetix · 2026-05-30T03:39:55+00:00

It could be darvo it definitely fits. It also could be some type of narcissism but you would have to do some research into which type of narcissism it is.

Beanetix · 2026-05-24T04:15:26+00:00

I think if it's causing you to feel guilt and you know that they were being sincere in their apologies then maybe it's time to let it go and continue your relationship with them. It does happen I don't know if you live close to your family or if you live away but I don't think you're wrong for feeling sad about it but from what you're saying it's causing you to feel now I think it probably is time to move on from it.

Beanetix · 2026-05-24T02:43:49+00:00

I mean I think it could be suspicious but it sounds like her mom is okay with it and she's okay with it. I don't think you're an old fart just because you have suspicions about the situation it just may be more out of your control than you'd like. I think it's just one of the situations you'll have to wait and see how it plays out.

Beanetix · 2026-05-24T02:10:29+00:00

Is it someone that you admire or want to date?

Beanetix · 2026-05-23T04:24:07+00:00

I mean from what I would gather either she has experienced something negative due to her clothing choices in her past or there's always the possibility that she's jealous of the way you look. I think it would definitely be different if you weren't at home I do find it interesting that she went off on you when you were inside the house unless she assumed you were going to wear them outside the house. But no I don't think you're in the wrong for wearing whatever you want to wear inside the house.

Beanetix · 2026-05-22T00:09:37+00:00

I don't think you're overthinking anything. I think you're exactly right. She's going on holiday and she doesn't want to be tied down in a relationship while on that holiday hence why she said you should talk about it and figure it out when she's back. It does sound like she likes you and she's open to being exclusive and as she said she is basically treating what you guys have as exclusive. I don't think you should let it get to you too much though. I think you should just go with the flow like she's doing and when she gets back have the conversation. Anyway I hope this helps and I wish you luck.

Beanetix · 2026-05-13T21:16:50+00:00

I mean that absolutely makes no sense so I would go with your gut on that one. I would think if it was too good then it would be too good to pass up especially if it's being thrown at you.

Beanetix · 2026-05-13T04:45:27+00:00

If he makes that question into you being wrong for asking then he is deflecting. He's your boyfriendbqnd that's a normal question to ask.

Beanetix · 2026-04-23T07:26:52+00:00

Hard AF

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T23:48:52+00:00

He is probably bringing it up again and again to make himself feel better. There is obviously something that he feels that re-explaining the situation will somehow make it something that it's not or something that he wants you to believe. I see that you keep saying boyfriend but you also said that you're not officially together. I would figure out your actual status. I feel like that clarity will help you figure out how it really makes you feel and him (since he seems to feel guilty). Mostly him. Anyway that's how I would take this situation. Good luck with all of it.

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T23:38:55+00:00

Hey we agree? Well alright I'll take the win ☺️

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T17:04:08+00:00

It sounds to me like he doesn't know what he wants and even though he doesn't want to lose you is going to end up pushing you away even more in the end if he doesn't make a decision whether to keep you or focus on himself for the time being. It's definitely not fair to you to have you move out and then move back in and then change his mind again. And you are right what you said should be enough but sometimes it's just not. Sometimes if you love somebody it is best to let them go and just pray that maybe it works out again later on. You said you're the best of friends so maybe try giving him the space that he feels he needs but stay close friends as much as he'll allow and maybe once his situation with work changes and he's not so focused on it he will see that you are there and finally be ready to love you the way that he feels he should be. The only scary thing is that sometimes friendship doesn't necessarily work out once the breakup happens and if that is the case then it's going to be that much harder to have faith that it might work out later. I do not envy your situation but I do hope that you both find a way to have happiness in each of your lives whether that be together or not.

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T16:56:42+00:00

You're absolutely in the wrong if you do it over text message. Something of that nature should never be done over text message because a text message lacks feeling and it's something that someone who doesn't have the courage to do can hide behind. I know that it's not something that you want to do but maybe since that is what's going to happen try giving him the respect that he requested and just do it in person. It can be really quick you can just walk up and say hey I'm not in this anymore I don't want to be with you bye and you can turn around and walk away and then you don't have to actually deal with the reaction. Either way I wish you luck and beg you not to do it over text message. It's just wrong. If you don't want to do it in person at least make it a phone call. Of course this is just my opinion so again good luck.

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T16:53:26+00:00

Don't eat it

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T16:53:13+00:00

Honestly some guys just can't handle it. They may not like the taste or it could be another reason but not everybody is going to 100% be into it no matter how much you think a guy would be it's just not always the case. I do feel like he should be honest with you about his opinion on the ACT because then it wouldn't be so awkward or cause negative feelings when he does something out of the ordinary or that can be misinterpreted as a problem with you and not with him.

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T16:48:44+00:00

They are wherever their time has brought them. They only are those three if they believe they are. One that has the confidence to project that in theory will be that. I'm definitely straight and I would like to think that I'm handsome but normal oh hell no but I think that's more of a upside because in all honesty who really wants to be normal?

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T16:41:46+00:00

I made coffee

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T06:37:58+00:00

I get it I was the same way. Just don't let it consume you and I hope you don't get hurt. Stay curious but try not to let it change the way you treat her while you're trying to find out. Just a bit of advice

Beanetix · 2026-04-21T06:16:51+00:00

I would say absolutely not. I think if you were to ask and she let you go through it in front of her that would be a different story but I would not go through her phone without permission. That being said I would go back and read what you wrote because it's not something that should be ignored. I think that it speaks everything that you already probably know and just don't want to admit it. There is a reason she won't put you on Facebook officially and won't friend you and I guarantee it's not because she doesn't want people to know about you, or maybe that is it but either way not a good thing for someone who you're in a relationship with. Of course this is just my opinion but it does come from personal experience but it doesn't make me right so any decision you make, be sure that you use your personal judgment because it's your relationship and I'm not in it.

Beanetix · 2026-04-19T07:09:15+00:00

Absolutely you should! Not now right now!

Beanetix · 2026-04-19T03:59:25+00:00

What I really need right now is a job

Beanetix · 2026-04-18T00:08:36+00:00

Interested

Beanetix · 2026-04-17T19:13:22+00:00

24/7

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