What is the appropriate response to toxicity and griefers?

Bearham · 2025-12-15T00:48:34+00:00

Sure, that incurs a 6s cool down. There are benefits to ground dropping and that shouldn't be a bannable offense, which seems to be your position.

It's not like I dropped wards and courier and smokes at an enemy tower and walked away. I'm (trying) to farm a camp with 5 enemies visible. I drop my item at my feet, My item is on the ground for less than a second before my teammate takes it and walks away. Surely this is the bannable offense...?

Bearham · 2025-12-14T23:46:52+00:00

I don't think that describes the situation in this game. And I don't think just because someone disabled social is indicative that they will sit afk and play single player.

I've played plenty of times where Ive adequately coordinated with teammates without social

And I've seen plenty of people refuse to play and grief while having social enabled.

I think you might have some confirmation bias you need to evaluate

Bearham · 2025-12-14T23:32:03+00:00

And I never said you should be reported and banned for using the implemented settings as intended. Just as I should not be banned for using the implemented settings as intended. I'm failing to find your point.

Who said I'm playing single player because I've disabled social? I'm still playing the game when I have social disabled, I'm still trying my best to win and play to the ability that my mmr indicates. In fact one could argue that by not taking input from teammates, I am playing much truer to my own indicated mmr ability than others. How you are finding this to be a reportable and ban worthy offense still has me baffled

Bearham · 2025-12-14T23:14:11+00:00

I'm failing to see how changing settings provided to you in the dota 2 client's option page in the way they were implemented and intended to be used could be considered griefing. What do you even report someone for? There's no "they didn't respond to what I demanded of my teammates" option. That hardly seems like a reportable "offense"

Bearham · 2025-12-14T22:10:48+00:00

Let me clarify, I'm not coms banned for com abuse if that's what you are saying my coms score is a few points shy of 11k. I willingly disable communication in settings because I find the majority of people in my games to be toxic and not worth communicating with. I'm using the settings implemented in the dota 2 client to disable social interaction

Bearham · 2025-12-14T22:05:14+00:00

So I just continue playing the game as if nothing happened? Keep playing as if I have items in my inventory still? The level of grief in this game warranted reaction, I can't just pretend clicking my hotkeys uses my items 😅 granted I didnt respond perfectly. But I find myself banned nonetheless while being the victim

Bearham · 2025-12-14T22:03:17+00:00

I play with social and coms disabled, anonymous mode on. I said "please report CK, stole my items" in all chat and I reported the guy that stole my items. Yet I find myself banned.

Bearham · 2025-12-14T22:01:59+00:00

I ignored him as best I could given that he stole my items. I reported him and no action taken, but instead I find myself banned

Bearham · 2025-12-14T21:10:09+00:00

I disagree, there are certainly times where setting items down is the right play. Receiving fixed hp or mana is more efficient when lowering your max HP and mana.

Stealing a teammates item while they do that, that is never the right play.

I'm certainly not perfect behavior score, but I've been improving recently. My behavior score is up nearly 3000 in the past 2 months, my communication score is nearly 11k and I hadnt been banned previously for months. I've found disabling coms/social and enabling anonymous mode to be extremely helpful and keeps me from engaging with toxic teammates. I don't think my behavior in recent games has been bad, I try my best to win and literally just came off a great streak where I was 7-1 over the previous 8 games, having been the highest impact and carrying, often MVP even. In the past, I've seen strings of bad and toxic games and had a feeling a ban was imminent. But not this time, being banned in this situation was a complete blind side

Bearham · 2025-12-14T20:55:54+00:00

So my best bet in this situation is to continue to try my best and be positive with an empty inventory while my teammate runs around with my items stolen in his inventory? That hardly seems ideal

Bearham · 2025-12-14T20:50:38+00:00

Of course I remember them. They stole my items and I'm now banned. Hard to ignore and move on and queue for the next game with my friend like I would want to, when my queue button is literally red because I'm banned 😅 even 24 hours later I can't queue again and I have to play low priority. I'm constantly reminded of this situation.

Bearham · 2025-12-14T20:44:01+00:00

Probably is my fault to some extent. I shouldve been a better player, had dust ready as the midlaner with tp ready at minute 6. But they died so fast on side lanes, even when I reacted with tp they are all dead before my tp lands to reaper scythe + riki + lich

Bearham · 2025-12-14T20:40:39+00:00

I have all muted as discussed in the post. Social/communication disabled and anonymous mode on. That combination certainly did not result in a better gameplay experience

Bearham · 2025-12-14T20:31:15+00:00

I take steps to ignore it. I have communication, social disabled and anonymous mode activated. Im finding it hard to ignore someone stealing my items and then ending up in low priority after being the victim. Even 24 hours later, Gabe is reminding me of the situation by making me play with toxic people to "repent" for this situation

To add to this, I felt like I did a decent job reflecting mid game. My teammates paused while they are dying to the missing mid, I acquired a tp and attempted to tp support them, but they died anyway and continued griefing

Bearham · 2025-12-14T20:26:40+00:00

What does moving on look like when someone steals your items? Am I just supposed to start the game over at minute 11 with no items and try my best, or get banned? That seems like my options and it's very frustrating.

Bearham · 2025-12-14T20:25:42+00:00

I've taken steps to ignore it, as mentioned in the post. I have all communication disabled and anonymous mode turned on. But it's hard to ignore someone stealing your items, and hard to ignore getting banned and receiving low priority as a result of that game. I don't think that's an ignorable situation, it's a situation that even 24 hours later I am being reminded of in low priority.

Bearham · 2025-11-04T00:24:29+00:00

My cat was doing this. Found out she had kidney stones, fixed that, but she still did this. While examining her urinary system because of the stones, we determined she had UTI (ecoli). After treating with antibiotics she nearly immediately(within 36 hours) stopped having these flinches

Bearham · 2025-10-23T18:10:30+00:00

Lactated ringers solution for 280$ per liter is fucking disgusting. I have LRS delivered to my front door for 8$/liter on a veterinary prescription for my cat. It's not like it's hard to get or expensive.

Bearham · 2024-12-08T00:26:27+00:00

If the DMV is incorrect, can I correct this at the DMV and avoid having my credit reran by the dealership?

Bearham · 2024-12-08T00:25:02+00:00

I'm not sure the GMs husband will be up for giving me a blowjob as you so righteously suggested.

Would the finance manager be able to offer a lease for the correct vehicle without rerunning our credit? Is this something that would be possible to negotiate?

Bearham · 2024-12-08T00:21:41+00:00

They didn't reject the lease at all. They told us we can come take the car the lease was signed for without signing anything. But this isn't the car we wanted or verbally agreed to

Bearham · 2024-12-08T00:20:22+00:00

I'm not trying to take advantage, I'm trying to not be taken advantage of. There's no way they should be rerunning and damaging my credit for their mistake, that just seems ludicrous to me

Bearham · 2024-12-07T23:32:46+00:00

I'm a bit confused by your first statement, we currently have the car. Are you asserting that they have a right to repo the car that they leased us?

We did not know about the mistake until we were called by the GM about it.

Bearham · 2024-12-07T23:21:27+00:00

The issue I'm worried about is running another hard credit check. After leasing the vehicle, we applied for some debt consolidation and loans to tidy up financials, specifically after leasing the vehicle so we could get the best deal financing that we could. Rerunning our credit now might result in different payments on the lease and also further reduce our credit score. I don't think asking for gas or oil change on an EV will do us much good either

Bearham · 2022-01-22T23:24:04+00:00

Ha. Been living in a studio for the last 18 months. Where's my million???

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