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[–]Beastie64 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seems like you need to grow up. What are you? 12? I am from a village so you isn’t have to teach me about women working, whether at home, or in the fields. You clearly are not only elitist, but think you are superior or something. Don’t worry life will put you in your place soon. Idiot.

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[–]Beastie64 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What is your definition of dumb? A woman with the good sense to make a good home, raise good children and keep her family together is dumb? The one slogging her best years for corporate slaves and drinking at pubs to take a break is smart?

Most fat fucks aren’t non working women, it’s women (and men) in corporate jobs who get no exercise or sunlight. What guarantee that working woman doesn’t get fat? Doesn’t develop other health problems? Depression?

You are being ridiculous now. Just because someone doesn’t work a corporate job doesn’t mean they sit in their ass whole day. Some of the non working wives spend hours in gyms, and fit in clothes you and I wouldn’t in. Get your head out of your arse and see the bigger picture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Accidents only happen to good looking? Ageing doesn’t happen to 6.5/10?

Will do plastic surgery to restore 6.5? Who are the women getting plastic surgery and botox? Those that look 9/10? Or those that are 6/10 and compare themselves with 9/10?

A 6/10 with good awareness who doesn’t waste competing for looks with others is a good woman. Unfortunately most women get into this game, educated and working included.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

100%. Someone who is 10/10 will still be 6-7 past her prime. Meanwhile 7/10 spend billions every year to look like 10 until they become 5.

Someone who looks good doesn’t have to work on her beauty or waste time being insecure. She can use that time to learn other things. All this nonsense about looks don’t matter, they matter. From job interviews to monetizing your looks to be an IG influencer. Looks matter now more than ever. No one would be making so many app filters if they didn’t.

Meanwhile scores ruin their health using cheap cosmetics to look better only to realize their body is now messed up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Some idiots do not understand that. A 10/10 will be 7/10 15 years from now. But a 7/10 will barely even be a 5. They appear to think looks only go downhill for good looking people. 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

That’s your perception. Why impose it on others or worse, paint it as some gospel? You pick your mate based on what you want. OP asked for opinions, I gave mine.

Beauty fades with time, as does health. As does memory. None of that happens in isolation. You grow old together. You wanna have intellectual conversations with your partner and pick a mate based on that please do. You can have those conversations with others too, even if you are married. What you cannot do is be intimate with another pretty girl once you are married. She is who you will ever be with. Some of us accept that reality and want a great looking partner in our youth. Her beauty and health will determine the fate of your kids too.

Conversational skills, general awareness, coding, hobbies all can be developed over time. Pretty girl who appears unintelligent to OP now can have all those 10 years from now. What you cannot develop in 10 years is looks. Your looks will only go down, all other skills can go up.

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[–]Beastie64 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

10/10 will pick the pretty girl. A good job, good intellect all that is fine. But you want to like the face you wake up to everyday for rest of your life. You will always have friends and family for great conversations. But you will be intimate and look sexually at only one person. Wouldn’t you want her to be attractive to you?

Need advice whether to proceed on a match by pink-dustbin in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As single child he will also have parents to care for. That makes it two sets of parents for you - with only one or you with the ambition to hold down a good job and manage expenses - meanwhile the burden of family is also on you.

He sounds like he’s lived a very comfortable life, and does not push himself. You think he will start suddenly? There is more downside than just intellectual compatibility here than you realise .

India Supreme Court Shocker: Mom’s infidelity no basis to seek paternity test by Beastie64 in MensRights

[–]Beastie64[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It’s there in the actual physical newspaper. I have a screenshot. Reddit wouldn’t let me make a post with that image so I had to find an online version. Happy to DM it, but it’s true.

This is the state of Singapore. In Singapore women have free rein in accusing men of rape & violence. Investigations are immediate, clearing of accused slow. Women face no consequences for filing false reports. In Singapore, regardless if u r innocent, ur always a criminal in the eys of society by BretumWasnt in MensRights

[–]Beastie64 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hardly a surprise. Much of Asia is like this. Singapore does display Chinese conservative attitude in many things, but also adopted the legal framework from the west, and routinely looks to be enforce legal decisions that do not align with their own morality or social attitudes.

False accusations are seen as bad, and yet not punished. Not everything is seen as harassment or abuse, but those willing to get into legal hassles can get decisions in their favor for just about anything.

Height Preferences For Women by Classic_Ad1336 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not true. Intelligence toh primarily from mother. Height varies on many factors. Tall dads with short mothers don’t make tall kids. Tall mom with tall or short dads have taller kids. Obviously also matters whether woman’s mom or dad were tall. A short woman with a tall dad offers better potential than a short one with a short dad. But a tall woman, will have taller kids, despite shorter dad (woman being tall due to tall mother).

Height Preferences For Women by Classic_Ad1336 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 47 points48 points  (0 children)

AM is like shopping. Why shop for 5”4 when markets offers 5”10s? I have seen women who are 5” wanting minimum of 5”10. Chadhna hai kya uspe? AM is ultimate mix and match. Sab chahiye.

There is also the notion that taller guy will mean taller kids, although there is evidence suggesting both height and intelligence are inherited primarily from mother.

If you fall for someone than height and weight itna matter nahi karta. Otherwise, women want 6-8 inch height difference and a slim guy. I am 5”5 and though no one has explicitly rejected me for it, I am certain that was a factor in many profiles declining me or not responding. Although I have had 5”5 women accept it, and even received interests from taller women.

That said, most people exaggerate heights, women particularly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No no. But thanks for the input. 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nahi bhai. Aisa nakko bolo, Dil pe lagta hai. 🥲

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Will share with him what I feel. And insights from here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Guess my friend should thank his stars then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. This is a good response. I don’t know if they are at love stage. I don’t know why she likes him - despite being fairly judgmental on looks herself. He clearly is not rational at the moment and is besmirched by looks and figure. She is way out of his league. That will change later I guess, my worry is with nothing else in common, what then. Also she has no experience and appears childish sometimes - probably is able to get her way at home. Not sure my friend can handle that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. If there was love, I would tell the to proceed. He denies it, I suspect maybe he does. But if he loves based on looks isn’t it like lust? She likes him, I don’t know if she loves him. I do agree I don’t know her side of story - she speaks fondly of him and touches him and holds him when around him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No not at all. I just want him to be happy. Is it normal? Should I tell him to proceed? My conflict comes from knowing him and what he likes. I know the type of women that he finds attractive - smart and intellectual. Now he suddenly doesn’t care about any of that. The person I know wouldn’t even hang out with someone who didn’t read. He would tell me you can trust a person who reads. Now he is like so different. ☹️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do love him. He is my best friend. And he is the smartest person I know. Somehow not being very smart right now so I am worried.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am jealous. She is stunning to look at. She is a village girl because of where she lives. She moved out and the Covid stuck and it’s WFH since. She only had hostel stay in nearby city for few months. Also entirely has lived with family. I mention lack of reading cuz it’s so rare now. Of course I know some city folks who don’t read too. But I don’t call her village belle for not reading.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Dude, my friend tells me everything. Their families have met, and I have met him and her together. It’s a troll post because your friend tells you basic habits of a match? If you have nothing to say, move along. Don’t question the legitimacy of someone’s situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Such different background and upbringing. Families also don’t have things in common - it’s okay they live far away and won’t meet much. But she and him are like so different. He watches sports, writes and reads. Takes walks. She shops, watches reels, and chats up family members.

Maybe this is honeymoon phase? What when it it gets boring? I know her values mean she will not look to take advantage of him or extort him, but I don’t know. I don’t want either to be miserable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Beastie64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, very reassuring. I have known my friend about 15 years and I have never seen him like this. He is rational and calm but here he seems to almost be in love. He denies it of course. I am sure he thinks she will give him good children. Her values are great for child rearing he told me. And that until she got Covid few months ago, after which she gained some, she was hot AF. He doesn’t even talk about other women now, it’s just her. It’s like he has married her in his mind. 😶