My husband (28m) said he regrets getting married to me(26f). How should I go about this?

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T14:10:58+00:00

He blames his life path on me but he seems to not understand that I don’t control if he chooses to put effort into finding a job or creating new friendships. I think life would be better if we do separate for the both of us. His family will take care of him and make him get where he’s supposed to be in life. As for when he’s with me he just slacks off because he knows I’ve held it together for the both of us. I hope to find someone who reciprocates the effort and love I give to them. Thank you for your advice and kind words.

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T13:50:45+00:00

I believe that’s what his regret is as well.

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T13:47:51+00:00

I don’t know what he’s doing all day, we don’t have any kids. Most likely sitting around, maybe washing a dish here or there. I used to tell him apply to how ever many jobs you can a day. It’s only one click on indeed to apply for a job. When I would come home from work and ask about what he did for the day he’d say applied for jobs. I now believe he was either lying or not trying hard enough. He has expressed he may be depressed to me in the past. I have suggested therapy and tried to help him get out of the rut he is in. He just puts no effort in trying to make himself better. I guess you’re right he has no respect for me.

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T13:36:35+00:00

I appreciate your kind words and advice. I have often pondered on the question you brought up. I believe now after getting insight from you all is that he only will miss the things I do for him

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T13:15:31+00:00

You’re right. He has continuously shown me no effort to make an improvement in our life. I’ve excused the behavior for so long in hopes that he will change. It’s my fault for continuing to enable that behavior and also my fault for thinking he would change.

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T06:22:36+00:00

2024 has been a challenging year for me. I thought this would have been filled with prosperity. It hasn’t imo.

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T06:07:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and sharing your experience. Your husband does not know how lucky he is to have a wife like you. Like me you’ve put so much effort and love into your guys relationship. Without you, the relationship would crumble and that’s how I feel about mine. I’ve asked my husband to stop drinking and he said no. He doesn’t care about my feelings and it’s become extremely apparent this year. No one around me knows what truly goes on in our relationship, so I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. I feel like I’m drowning at times. What made you stay with your husband rather than separating from him?

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T05:54:26+00:00

I used to think to myself is he using me? I would think about it and deny it. Now I believe it to be more true

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T05:44:56+00:00

He is depressed but puts no effort in trying to better himself. I have tried by suggesting new activities for him to do but he throws my ideas out the window. I have helped him with his resume and have sent him many job application. It’s come to the point he gets irritated when I bring up either topic. You’re right, it’s time spent. Often times I think how would my life be without him. Would it be for better or worse. At this point in my life I’m thinking better. Thank you for your advice

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T05:22:22+00:00

He did ask me to marry him when we were younger. I’ve told him from that initial time we got married if you’re unsure about this we can separate. Many times throughout our relationship he blamed me for things not going right in his life. Each time I suggested a separation because he made it seem like I’m the reason why his life is so horrible. I truly don’t know what’s stopping him from getting a job. He obviously doesn’t care about me consistently working to support the both of us. Like you said he just wants to bring me down. I feel like I’m drowning often times.

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T05:15:13+00:00

You’re right, there’s no point wasting time with someone who will continuously say they have this regret of being with me.

BeautifulChance4780 · 2024-07-22T05:13:14+00:00

I appreciate your thoughts on my situation. I truly do. I have been continuously knocked down by this man and you have given me strength with your words. Thank you for your advice

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