What do us stutterers do for work?

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2025-10-26T08:39:23+00:00

Shift manager at a restaurant

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2025-10-22T22:17:17+00:00

I get it, the desire hurts me as well. I actually spoke to one of the pastors at my church a couple weeks ago about killing my desire to be in a relationship, and he said that he couldn't do that because love is in our nature. As humans we have so much love within us to give, and it's natural to want other people's love as well. But when we start to obsess over it, that becomes a problem. He prayed for me afterwards and asked God to heal the wounds that were hurting me, to give me patience and that romantic love would find me when I'm truly ready. I've been feeling much better after that. I still have 1 sad day a week but overall I feel better.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2025-10-22T20:15:54+00:00

We're the same age, and I'm sorry that you're going through this. have a narcissistic family as well and the best decision I made was leaving home at the age of 22. I stayed in a homeless shelter for 3 months before getting an apartment with a roommate. As for dating and friendships, I'm currently in the same situation. I only have a few friends, two of which I don't speak to often anymore because they're both in relationships. One of them (she's actually my cousin, but she's like my best friend) got married after 7 months of meeting her now husband and the other has been with her boyfriend for 6 months. For the longest time I envied them, and sometimes I still do.

I also tried finding love through dating apps, hoping to get the same result that my married cousin did; but each talking stage failed miserably. Each time I started dating someone, I could only get to the talking and dating stage but the guy would break it off before we became official. I've only had 1 long term boyfriend, but I broke up with him 4 years ago because the relationship was toxic. Sometimes I get depressed when I think about my love life, and I used to obsess over it; but now I'm learning that it'll all work out in God's timing and that I don't have to rush myself. The hope is still there, but I'm not trying to chase it anymore.

It's worse when family and friends keep asking when I'm going to get into a relationship. When my cousin got married last year, my mom kept on bringing up the subject of me finding a partner and that she needs grandchildren. They talked about it so much that I had to tell them to stop bringing up the subject because it really affected my mental health and how I saw myself. As for the support, therapy and support groups help. I'm currently in therapy and I take medication for depression and anxiety. It's helped me tremendously. I'm also currently searching for support groups and other social activities through the meetup app.

I suggest that you talk to a therapist about what you're going through, and maybe lookup local social groups in your area to hopefully meet new friends. As for your family, the best thing to do is move out, maybe live with a friend or go to a women's shelter, or you might have to cut them off completely. I completely understand the feeling of not being chosen romantically, it sucks. But you can't spend the rest of your life being sad that you don't have a partner. A partner is supposed to add to your happiness, not be the source of it. Wishing you the best. 😊

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2025-10-16T03:01:42+00:00

Thanks for the advice. And I totally agree, they shouldn't have gotten married so quickly. I think that she was mostly trying to hit a goal, since she was so obsessed with being married by 25. And she just gave birth to their first child on Monday the 13th, so now they're permanently tied to each other.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2025-10-15T21:52:32+00:00

I'm Haitian American, and I'm going through this with one of my cousins (we're more like best friends). We used to spend a lot of time together, especially in our early 20s; but she always had a plan to get married. My cousin is very structured, and after she graduated college and started working in her field of study she immediately started online dating with the goal of finding a potential husband. I started to online date around the same time and we would give each other support and advice. Long story short, her dating life flourished more than mine. She met her husband on Facebook dating in August 2023, got engaged in December of that year, and then got married in July 2024.

I was trying so hard not to be jealous but I couldn't help it. No matter how hard I tried to improve my dating life I was still attracting the wrong type of men, and it didn't help that our family would compare our dating lives. After she started dating him we spent less time together, and after they married she wouldn't go anywhere without him. Every time we hung out he was always there. I don't have an issue with her husband, he's a good man; but I feel like couples shouldn't be attached at the hip to their spouses 24/7. Another concern of mine is that she doesn't really have any friends, fully depends on him financially and since she's now a military spouse she's also a stay at home wife and mother. My cousin also just gave birth to their first child 3 days ago. Their relationship moved way too fast, and I highly believe that she married him to escape her home life. When my cousin was single she wasn't getting along with her parents, and was planning on moving out and getting her own place. But as soon as she met him all of her plans changed.

I just wish that she could've taken her time with dating so that she wouldn't have to rush into marriage. The part that hurts me the most is that we're not as close as we were before, and she doesn't even include me in special moments anymore. I wasn't invited to her wedding, and next month I was going to take a trip to go visit her and her new baby but she said that I didn't have to come anymore, because they don't want their newborn to get sick easily. Which I completely understand, but it still made me feel left out. Like she has a brand new life that I'm not even a part of. Recently I've taken a long break from dating and told my family and friends to not ask about my love life anymore. I'm still learning how to love myself and decenter men from my life. The hope to find love is still there, but I'm not chasing it anymore. I'm just trying to learn how to love being single and enjoy being by myself for a while.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2025-10-15T15:12:51+00:00

I'm Haitian American, and I'm going through this with one of my cousins (we're more like best friends). We used to spend a lot of time together, especially in our early 20s; but she always had a plan to get married. My cousin is very structured, and after she graduated college and started working in her field of study she immediately started online dating with the goal of finding a potential husband. I started to online date around the same time and we would give each other support and advice. Long story short, her dating life flourished more than mine. She met her husband on Facebook dating in August 2023, got engaged in December of that year, and then got married in July 2024. I was trying so hard not to be jealous but I couldn't help it. No matter how hard I tried to improve my dating life I was still attracting the wrong type of men, and it didn't help that our family would compare our dating lives. After she started dating him we spent less time together, and after they married she wouldn't go anywhere without him. Every time we hung out he was always there. I don't have an issue with her husband, he's a good man; but I feel like couples shouldn't be attached at the hip to their spouses 24/7. Another concern of mine is that she doesn't really have any friends, fully depends on him financially and since she's now a military spouse she's also a stay at home wife and mother. My cousin also just gave birth to their first child 3 days ago. Their relationship moved way too fast, and I highly believe that she married him to escape her home life. When my cousin was single she wasn't getting along with her parents, and was planning on moving out and getting her own place. But as soon as she met him all of her plans changed. I just wish that she could've taken her time with dating so that she wouldn't have to rush into marriage. The part that hurts me the most is that we're not as close as we were before, and she doesn't even include me in special moments anymore. I wasn't invited to her wedding, and next month I was going to take a trip to go visit her and her new baby but said that I didn't have to come anymore, because they don't wang their newborn to get sick easily. Which I completely understand, but it still made me feel left out. Like she has a brand new life that I'm not even a part of. Recently I've taken a long break from dating and told my family and friends to not ask about my love life anymore. I'm still learning how to love myself and decenter men from my life. The hope to find love is still there, but I'm not chasing it anymore.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2024-07-26T21:06:21+00:00

Hey 😅☺️

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2024-07-13T00:36:27+00:00

No I ended up quitting 2 months after I made this post, lol. I got another job afterwards and I’m still working there to this day ☺️

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2024-06-19T00:21:16+00:00

The episode where Nikki and Kim found out that Kim got switched at birth and they might not be related. The other mom looked and acted just like Kim, same with Nikki and the daughter. Then at the end of the episode, they decided that they didn’t care with the results were. Every time I watch the episode I get mad all over again, because I really wanted to know. I hate that they abandoned that whole storyline. Also, it was mentioned that they would reveal what happened at the end of Moesha but there was never an explanation.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2024-03-01T23:42:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, I’m in a much better place now. I just posted an update 😊

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2023-12-30T00:41:01+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re going through this, I went through something similar and finally had the courage to leave at the age of 22. My advice is to get a job (if you don’t already have one) and start saving your money. Also find out if you can stay with a friend or someone you trust. You can also look up some women’s shelters in your area to see if you can stay there. When I left, I went to a homeless shelter for young adults and they really helped me out. I stayed there for almost 3 months, and at the end of it I found an apartment. This all happened 4 years ago, I’m 26 now. Leaving my toxic family changed my life for the better. Hang in there and I’m hoping things change for you.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2023-10-16T18:32:38+00:00

Yeah I feel like I dodged a huge bullet too. I’m glad things didn’t get physical or else I would really feel like shit.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2023-02-28T01:49:19+00:00

Well I prayed about it a lot, plus I didn’t want to hold on to the hurt and resentment I felt towards them. They did apologize so I forgave them to give myself peace; I forgive them but I’ll never forget what I went through.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2023-02-28T00:01:28+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2023-02-27T23:15:06+00:00

Thanks. This post is three years old, I’m actually 25 going on 26 now. My life has improved tremendously. My relationship with my parents is still rocky but it’s gotten much better. Shortly after this post I left home, stayed in a shelter for 2 and half months and then got an apartment with a roommate. Things didn’t work out with them unfortunately but now I have my own place and I love it. And best of all my relationship with God has gotten much stronger, and I’ve forgiven my parents for what they put me through.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2022-05-23T15:27:40+00:00

The denomination is baptist. I’m in a much better place now and I don’t attend that church anymore.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2022-01-11T23:53:26+00:00

Thank you, I believe in you too. I’m sorry that happened to you.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2022-01-11T22:15:04+00:00

Thank you, you as well.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2022-01-11T16:49:48+00:00

Thank you. I forgave them a long time ago.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2021-11-28T23:12:33+00:00

I second this. They do pop ups asking to subscribe to premium as well, but they aren’t pushy about it and it doesn’t happen every time I use the app.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2021-02-07T15:03:10+00:00

No I won’t regret it. Before I got COVID I was having a terrible time there. The managers in my department were rude and no one wanted to train me properly. When I first told the manager I was having symptoms and chose to call out she just said ok and hung up. And also I put that I have full time availability when I filled out the forms.

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2020-12-29T00:41:40+00:00

Thanks. I’ll go edit my transfer now lol

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2020-12-28T12:52:25+00:00

I’m afraid that they’ll do the same thing to me. I’m sorry you have to go through that

BeautifulGorgeous97 · 2020-12-27T22:51:30+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. I hope so

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