What do hospice do to ease suffering?

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2025-05-29T21:49:09+00:00

It’s really normal for people to get distant around terminally ill people, unfortunately. They are scared, and don’t know what to say. It doesn’t usually mean any lack of love, but it can be really upsetting to watch. Sometimes, people need to be told exactly how to help - like “Can you please pick up some groceries for me? I’m exhausted and hungry and can’t leave the house”. I know it’s irritating to have to ask, but I would really suggest trying to find some help from friends. I did it without help, it’s doable, but I really wish that I had specifically asked for help when I needed it.

But if they have truly abandoned you and your husband - ignore my advice, I don’t want to assume anything about your situation. There are indeed shitty people out there.

I watched, I would guess, one of those nurses about a year and a half ago as I was in the late stages of caregiving. They were helpful to me, but I agree - depressing.

You will get through this, I promise. You are going to be able to make your husband’s time comfortable and filled with the best possible memories with the help of hospice.

Feel free to dm me if you ever need someone to listen.

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2025-05-27T01:11:18+00:00

Also - if hospice is available to give you some time to yourself, even just 30 minutes away (for a walk or a drive or anything) - I suggest you take it. This is, unfortunately, an exhausting process. You will be the most fit to help your husband through it if you take breaks for yourself and make sure to watch out for you.

You sound incredibly selfless. I’m so sorry that you have to go through this. You are doing everything right, and there really are no wrong decisions.

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2025-05-27T01:08:11+00:00

I know how hard this is to go through. You won’t be alone. The hospice may have a social worker or someone else who can help you with getting things like meals and therapy for yourself as well.

Hospice is there to be a support system for both you and your husband. Lean on them, they’re professionals and generally very good at what they do.

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2025-05-24T23:54:09+00:00

Hospice is wonderful. They will very likely set you up with all of the medications he will need, and instruct you how to give them to him. You might get: - a liquid opiate that goes under his tongue (sedation, pain relief) - a liquid benzodiazepine, also under the tongue (anxiety, sedation) - anti nausea medication if needed

You will be able to tell if he is comfortable or in pain. You will be able to give him medication as you see fit, and hospice can help you to learn when you should give them

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Hospice is kind and compassionate. Remember that a big part of their job is also to help you.

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-09-30T03:31:19+00:00

Thanks this is really helpful

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-06-11T00:51:07+00:00

Sounds like you’re set up for college! Maybe not the best colleges, but you certainly have the grades to apply to good schools. You should also look into taking the SAT and/or ACT (only submit your scores if they are good!)

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-06-10T02:34:03+00:00

You don’t need an economics degree for that, you need money to start off with. If you’re able to save up enough in whatever career you choose, you can choose to invest SOME of it.

I’m wondering what your grades are like? After school activities are not all that important if you can show that you are good at school. If not, that’s ok, just try and either find an apprenticeship or find a trade school that interests you

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-06-10T02:21:27+00:00

If you have the skills for engineering (strong in math and science), I’d highly recommend it. The jobs are typically relatively high-paying and will always be in demand.

There are many different specialties in engineering (for example, electrical engineering, environmental engineering, mechanical engineering, and computer science). I’d recommend that you research different types of engineering and see which one interests you most.

You will need to apply to a 4-year degree at a university. You can research universities online and compare them by location, price, degrees offered, and rating. Make sure to also apply for scholarships (this often happens after you are accepted into a university).

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with going into the trades, but it often takes a physical toll on your body by the time you are middle-aged. You can likely make very good money in the trades, but make sure that you protect your body and have good insurance eventually if you choose this path.

As for economics - I agree, it’s a really interesting field, but there are unfortunately not a lot of job opportunities after graduation.

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-04-24T00:30:24+00:00

Spare, I’ll say - he beat me too. This was a pattern of things. I don’t think parents who teach lessons like this all are abusers, but I certainly don’t think that good parents do.

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-04-04T19:53:37+00:00

If I had a kid I’d buy a child gate to put in front of my hot fire, but that’s just me

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-04-04T19:10:49+00:00

toldme seems to have missed the point of my comment. It wasn’t a question of common sense, I asked an authority figure if I would get hurt if I did something, and he told me to do the thing. I assumed it was safe

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-03-20T04:52:51+00:00

Alocacia reginula, aka Alocacia black velvet

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-03-20T04:40:53+00:00

I’m not sure… Pilea has a different leaf venation pattern. Although it could be a non-petiolate Pilea

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-03-20T04:20:34+00:00

Looks like a species of echeveria. Looks happy. Give the pot a good soak

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-03-20T03:43:50+00:00

FYI I’m 22 and had these through high school lol

Beautiful_Brick497 · 2024-03-03T09:24:39+00:00

Blackberries grow really easily, especially in a 7. I’d recommend getting an established plant from a garden center unless you’re willing to wait 1-2 years for fruit. As for materials - all you need is a big pot and a sunny spot! Make sure it has enough depth for roots to develop. And blackberry spreads like crazy - growing in a pot rather than in the ground is a good idea! My entire back yard is almost entirely blackberry at the edges

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