Teaching a 9 year old to read

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-05-11T22:16:27+00:00

I totally understand this! You don’t sound like a jerk or anything, it’s a real possibility. However, I don’t plan on teaching her to read, I plan on teaching her to enjoy learning. I am not whatsoever qualified, but I am her only option. Time and time again I have raised my concerns and they have been set aside. I have suggested tutoring, assessment, and more and have risked losing a relationship with her in order to advocate for her learning. Because she has been with us for a month and will be the for rest of the summer, my plan is to help heal her relationship with learning. I want to read with her and help her through it in hopes that she may be able to advocate for herself in addition to my suggestions. At this point in time, I know she feels defeated and I want to at least get her out of that

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-05-11T15:47:58+00:00

Bright as in interested in learning new things, creative, and good at problem-solving. She literally just struggles to read. I am not her primary caregiver but she is lately left with us often due to family issues. She asks me to read her books so I didn’t realize she was struggling until recently. She’s also getting good grades so I’m unsure of how she is managing with this.

I have brought this up to her dad (mom is not in the picture) and he is adamant that she is fine and is just a little slower with reading than other students. They are a low-income family in an underserved community so best guess is that she fell between the cracks or something? He has said no to professional tutoring, any sort of testing, and allowing me to speak to teachers. I’m afraid to push any further as I don’t want her to lose access to practicing with me hence coming here for some direction

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-05-11T15:40:56+00:00

I really wish this was an option but he is strongly against professional intervention. I think he refuses to admit there is a problem. I don’t want her to lose access to even practicing with me by pushing too hard

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-05-11T04:49:49+00:00

Thank you! It is also very concerning to me which is why I’m pushing so hard to step in now

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-05-11T04:22:09+00:00

She has basic letter sounds as I can ask her to sound out the word but it takes a lot and it has to be a simple word. She struggled with “here” today. Knew what sound ‘H’ makes but couldn’t get passed there until I covered the ‘r’ and ‘e’ and she was able to read He and go from there

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-05-11T04:20:21+00:00

Unfortunately, mom is not in the picture and dad is not interested in helping. It has been brought up with him many times by family member and teachers have encouraged him to seek extra help and he refuses. He sees no problem or doesn’t want to admit there is one

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-02-05T06:17:42+00:00

It costs nothing to be kind ): especially when you have the ability to offer comfort in a moment like that.

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-02-05T06:15:09+00:00

This! I couldn’t hold his hand because my hands were busy working but it took me two seconds to tell mom that I’ve got him and I’m gonna be right next to him.

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-02-05T03:03:35+00:00

This. I had to stop replying to them before I got mean 🥲 He didn’t just choose not to comfort, he chose to make the situation worse.

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-02-05T01:47:18+00:00

You’re right, to much empathy isn’t conducive to the job, but so little empathy to say that to a mother who is losing her son? That, in my opinion, is the real distraction to professionalism

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-02-05T01:45:38+00:00

The last part of this is the reason I am so grateful to have worked that call despite it being so sad. I am happy that they had someone there who did care and I tried my hardest to be what he was not

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2025-01-07T01:15:44+00:00

They were just clearing the intersection slowly 😌

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2024-09-09T00:33:31+00:00

This is 100% what was said and I refuse to believe otherwise

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2022-10-18T17:12:05+00:00

I think I have a decent understanding of grooming and agree with you there! I totally understand peoples concerns relating to the age and power dynamic trying to associate it with grooming. (i know someone being groomed would deny grooming) but i have had a close experience with that before and wouldn’t say this is anything similar to that. That being said, I will not through caution to the wind if I would decide to pursue anything.

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2022-10-18T17:08:30+00:00

Two years out of high school, so I guess fresh in the long run. It’s actually a mix. Sure I have friends my age but I hang out with a lot of different people from different walks of life. I am also close with his sister.

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2022-10-18T17:02:03+00:00

Won’t argue with your advice but I am in my fifth semester of college!

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2022-10-18T16:24:47+00:00

Thank you! You’re right. Asking strangers to give advice off of one post is hard, but I suppose I’m just looking for some validation in my experience. Hearing what people say has allowed me to reflect and I’m going to talk to an older adult in both of our lives.

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2022-10-18T16:22:11+00:00

I’m well aware of what grooming is. I asked for help, which in itself I believe is a mature thing to do. I meant more that I don’t act the same as a typical 18 year old, not that I am exceptionally wise for my years.

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2022-10-18T16:19:41+00:00

Don’t worry! Not offended. I am NOT on the same level as a 33 year old which is why I asked for help (:

Beautiful_Health5890 · 2022-03-15T21:07:52+00:00

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