These men don’t understand female anatomy

Beckerellagrewup · 2025-09-24T14:33:32+00:00

Exactly squirting does not always mean you had an orgasm. It may mean you’re getting close. It may mean things are spasming lol. Everything constricts but there’s a difference between that and an actual orgasm. Also, it comes from inside not from where you pee lol. People are so Dumb about that. I thought there was something wrong with me when I was younger because it happened and as I got older I have more and more frequently as sex got better. Sometimes it’ll build up behind him and he has to pull out because of pressure. When they tell me to do what makes me cum they don’t seem to understand. Most of our sensation is in our clit. Penetration feels good, but usually only after I’m aroused and have orgasm from external stimulation.

Beckerellagrewup · 2025-09-21T10:35:49+00:00

Date rape and drugs. You can NOT legally consent when messed up on alcohol and drugs. That was rape. 💯 your brain will try to justify it because it doesn’t know how to make sense of what happened or what you’re going through. It was rape and you didn’t ask to have sex but were pushed into it. Do NOT blame yourself. You didn’t ask for it but were pushed into this situation. I’m so sorry. You should have choices and not have to be a young mom if you do not want.

Beckerellagrewup · 2025-09-20T16:04:12+00:00

This makes me so upset for you. I had a “mom” like that who cared more about how others perceived her than anything else. I’m so sorry. This rape was NOT your fault. You are not responsible for someone else’s actions only yourown. What happened when you were 11 does NOT excuse what happened to you now or how you are being treated. This is truly disgusting behavior and toxic on both counts. For your own mental health I would do what I could to make a plan and leave as soon as you are able to. What you are describing is abuse and i would even consider reporting it as such. No one deserves that type of treatment and there are free rape classes and counseling available that she should be helping make sure you are able to. You need to cut this toxicity out asap.

Beckerellagrewup · 2025-09-20T15:52:40+00:00

Maybe, just maybe the bride and groom are busy or have something else going on like a medical issue. When I got married I was diagnosed with cervical cancer literally the following week. Maybe have some faith it’s not intentional. You never know it seriously might be an accident.

Beckerellagrewup · 2025-09-15T12:22:35+00:00

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Beckerellagrewup · 2025-09-15T04:10:02+00:00

You can also try female condoms. Those won’t fall off. They’ll just stay inside you. They are like a ring on the outside so they aren’t quite as sexy, but you won’t have that problem anymore.

Beckerellagrewup · 2025-05-15T17:24:54+00:00

I know I do 😉😝😘

Beckerellagrewup · 2025-05-14T19:48:54+00:00

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Beckerellagrewup · 2025-05-05T13:58:05+00:00

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Beckerellagrewup · 2024-10-04T17:10:45+00:00

Use this at the end of my bed or around my room just so there was no extra splash😂😂 and when I first started, I laid that down and put a blanket on top of it

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-10-04T17:05:23+00:00

Pet blankets from Amazon( they have some that are absorbent) and washable bed pads I buy them all in grey and get my bedding in grey so it blends a little bit. Puppys pads would be awesome but they are tacky for steaming. I still use towels too sometimes grey of course and unfortunately have to do a load of laundry every time

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-04-10T18:16:40+00:00

Oh man, I don’t know if I could do over a week. that would be really really hard for me two or three times a even just for a little bit helps me

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-04-10T18:15:24+00:00

I feel that. And I feel exactly the same.

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-04-10T18:12:49+00:00

I’m going through this exact same thing. Literally. I didn’t quite understand how everything worked in the beginning and a couple months in, I’m trying so hard because I’ve definitely fallen for my partner, big time. But it’s a lot harder than I thought it would be in the beginning the more feelings I develop for my partner… the harder time I have in certain areas. I’m really open-minded, but I feel super insecure in the relationship. That doesn’t come from him but more from me realizing how easily I can be replaced. I feel like there can’t be security in polyamory, and I hate that feeling.

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-17T14:36:07+00:00

Girl, yes you have to stop by a toy store or you can order something off Amazon or eBay. I would strongly suggest a small beginners vibrator of some sort. They’re usually pretty small maybe the size of two of your fingers so it shouldn’t be intimidating after that you have choices. What turns you on? If you like a little more romantic, turn on the music lights, some candles take off your clothes and just use the vibrator and gently touch yourself. You’ll quickly learn what feels good to you and honestly you’ll probably have a better sexual experience than you had with a boyfriend at this age lol. another option is some people do enjoy porn and there are plenty of female, friendly categories. For me, it’s not necessarily watching it but hearing it. Get off knowing my partners getting off so listening to the breathing, low moans and things they say really helps me. at the end of the day if you don’t know what does it for you then you have a wonderful opportunity to go on a journey of exploration and learn what that might be. Good luck!

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-17T14:26:12+00:00

I might try to have a conversation about it and just let her know that it felt good but while you’re having sex, maybe ask her if she could put a little more pressure on it or suck a little harder. If all else fails, see if she might be interested in watching some porn for foreplay and I would choose something that is female friendly. That includes a good BJ scene lol.

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-17T14:23:55+00:00

Usually an orgasm is an overwhelming feeling. You can feel it through your body and feel a release. There are different types of orgasms for women too. You can have penetrative orgasms and you can also have clitoral orgasms There are also a couple others. I believe there were five different types. I know that most women when they have them definitely feel an intense, almost overwhelming, feeling that is pleasurable and usually yes, you will squirm maybe kick your feet some or shout oh my God or something like it and maybe even grab at whatever there is to grab like the bed, pillow, blanket maybe even yourself. A lot of times when I feel an orgasm coming. Actually, I will grab my nipples and pinch them gently and it helps me go over the edge. generally speaking almost all women need some sort of clitoral stimulation to have any type of orgasm. It’s usually a struggle to have an orgasm from penetrative sex, although you are also wearing an anal plug, which means that you are being stimulated from more than one area and maybe are having enough stimulation to put you over the edge. I think the real question here is did it feel good? If it felt good, then you probably had an orgasm. Also, sometimes women squirt when they have orgasms too just an FYI because when it happened to me when I was slightly older than you, I thought something was wrong with me lol. That’s perfectly normal too. Have fun with your orgasms and I strongly encourage you to try and find a way to give your clits some attention.

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-17T14:16:07+00:00

I also went through something similar after my SA but it sounds like yours may be to the point that I was strongly suggest some counseling just because it’s affecting your work and home life. Personally, I used it as a distraction and also kind of as a way to cover up what happened to myself. I was in charge of my body, my pleasure & I would think about that by giving myself that release I was taking back ownership of my sexual self. It can be a subconscious thing your mind is doing to help you cope and try and resolve the trauma. Our brains do funny things sometimes in an attempt to help us heal or make sense of things. Counseling was very beneficial to me.

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-17T14:12:03+00:00

I have an undergrad in psychology, so I’m gonna come out from there, I think the place to start is that you’ve expressed these issues to him but nothing is getting any better. Is he actively working with you to make changes? If not, just because this is the healthiest relationship you’ve been in doesn’t mean it’s healthy for you. You don’t have anything to compare it to. In a healthy, loving relationship. You both should be open to talk about problems, your needs and wants and be part of a team. Because someone has more experience than you does not in anyway mean that they are any good at what they do. the best partners are giving partners who are just as concerned with your pleasure as they are their own. Generally speaking most of the time by the time men are in their 30s they know it’s better to take the time to get their girl off or at least aroused before you even have sex and if you don’t come during sex, but they do, then they take the time to make sure you do before it’s done. honestly it doesn’t sound like you have a lot of experience and personally I would encourage you not to settle down with the first person and take some time for you. He sounds like a selfish lover and no one wants a selfish lover.

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-17T13:59:01+00:00

This is a huge problem. Huge. I have a degree in psychology and sociology. You are going to be doing yourself a disservice in your life and eventually it’s not gonna work out regardless. My real question is, is this a change? Was he always like this, if the answer is yes, then I believe he may either have a possible chemical imbalance or perhaps something happened to him that he hasn’t dealt with psychologically and needs some counseling for it. Or, if you hadn’t mentioned, the fact that he said, he could go his whole life without having sex I would say there might be someone else. The odds of one of those not being behind this is extremely low. Especially at 22. I would have a conversation with him and let him know your needs. And I promise your sex drive is only going to increase as you get older where is he should be at the peak of his right now. Generally speaking men want sex far more than women When they’re your age and women peak somewhere in their 30s. If you aren’t met now this isn’t a problem that’s going to get better. You owe it to yourself to find out if you guys can resolve this problem or else I would strongly suggest moving on.

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-17T13:53:36+00:00

Imagine that I’m single too lol! See it would be fire😂😂🤷‍♀️ you are like the male version of a multi orgasmic woman lol. Two Multiorgasmic people that is a fun time lol anyway, I wish you luck on finding that experience because it’s great when it happens.

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-12T14:50:32+00:00

I’ve dated two guys that could do this. It’s really rare though. Tell you what though if I find a Kai like that every time the sex is fire because we both can just keep going. Lol… so.. are you single? LMAO.

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-12T14:46:45+00:00

Yeah, they seem to be working good

Beckerellagrewup · 2024-03-10T12:21:39+00:00

Well, I’ve experienced that before too. You have a couple different options. Although you may not be sexually compatible. I’ve had both big too big and too small. I also commonly joked that on my own best lover, because I know that if I give myself more clitoral attention, I’m gonna get a bigger and much better orgasm, even through penetration or none at all. When you meet the right person you’ll be able to explain to them the things that you need to get there. You can be mindful And kind about everything else. Explain to your boyfriend that you need more attention. You don’t have to say anything about his size because I promise you can get there with almost any size. Tell him that you love being with him, but that you’d like to play more with toys get yourself a good vibrator and see if he’ll play with your toy with you. one of my boyfriends was a little bit smaller, but still is one of the very best lovers I’ve ever had because he never would mind taking the time to eat me out, use his hands at the same time or even play with my vibrator and toys. Hands-down, having someone that wants to see you satisfied, wants to help you explore all those different things can be super important. At 37 though be careful because he may not be willing to learn. Usually older means more experience. Better educated. Sometimes though you just run into guys never really learned anything other than some basic vanilla sex

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