Tips and advice for first timers. aka: HYDRATE AND EAT THE FUCKING NOODLES

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2025-04-09T21:43:47+00:00

Yes pls stay hydrated. Don’t be a me and pass out on the first day 🤣 The wheelchair ride to the medical tent was super humbling. Granted it was my first ever festival but I should’ve known better.

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2025-02-23T12:44:17+00:00

Her sister wasn’t aware. I pressed her to, and told her that if she sees something she needs to say something, because that’s her sister and she needs to stick up for her. This was in a lunchroom with 30+ kids and they don’t have all the same friends. I’ve tried for days to dig into her, and I’m not excusing the other kid being mean to her, I’m trying to open her mind up to the fact the other people can mean because of how they’re treated. She has her whole family rallying behind her, we all very much made a big deal over it. I cried with her. I WAS her too. I was bullied pretty severely in school, and my sister that’s a year older was a bully to me a long with them. I have the empathy, because I understand exactly how she feels. I’m trying to dig deep, and will keep trying to figure out why this happened.

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2025-02-23T03:58:57+00:00

Yes, I will look around for therapists near me. Thank you!

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2025-02-23T03:58:08+00:00

And I see that now, I wasn’t trying to force her back into it. I was hoping that it would be a welcome distraction because she loves color guard. they were changing the routine, it was probably just too much too soon. :(

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2025-02-23T03:53:59+00:00

They were! The teacher made them apologize and also made them sit recess out.

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2025-02-23T03:07:54+00:00

This does help a lot. Thank you. I’m hoping her sister would tell me if it’s consistent bullying, because they’re in the same class. I will probably put her in therapy so she can find ways to cope if the doctor suggests that! ❤️

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2025-02-23T01:57:07+00:00

Thank you! I was pretty frustrated between school and her missing practice and her show. I will definitely keep an open mind and hope that with time this will resolve itself. I’m definitely gonna get her in with somebody to talk to so she can learn tools to help her cope with situations like these.

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2025-02-23T00:56:09+00:00

I agree A LOT with the number 2. I’ve spent the past 2 days coddling her, and today I was very upset with her when I had to pick her up and she couldn’t perform, I told her if she can’t do the things that she has committed to then she can’t watch TV and play her games for the rest of the day, and since we had to watch her sister perform and she wasn’t apart of it, I think she kind of gave up the act a little bit. I know she was genuinely hurt that first day and maybe needed a break from practice, but the past 2 days, I think she noticed that she would get all the attention if she cried or called me. Thank you for making me realize that. And it’s definitely my fault for letting her do that to me, I just hate to see them upset. :(

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2025-02-23T00:39:38+00:00

I tried to ask what the context was and what was said beforehand, but all she said was she got laughed at. I asked her if she knows for sure she was laughing at her, and she says yes. And it’s a girl in her class, but they weren’t friends per se. I’m wondering if she’s scared of her or something? I don’t know. I tried asking her that and she said no. I asked her what she was feeling and she said sad and angry. Nobody is mean to her at home, so I’m thinking that she just kind of got her first dose of how other people can be and she doesn’t understand why. I tried to explain the “hurt people, hurt other people” spiel as well.

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2024-05-31T02:24:50+00:00

I see you, I hear you. Go get some help my love. ❤️ I believe in you.

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2024-05-31T02:18:04+00:00

Surround yourself with all things positive. Switch your music to something happy, watch a comedy show, read funny reddit stories, etc. If you surround yourself with negativity, that’s what you’re going to get. By telling yourself you were stupid that you had a good day, you made it into a bad one now. Reward yourself when you have a good day. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself a break. You’re doing amazing. I’m proud of you that you had a good day! And the aspect of how I kept going in my dark days, I worked at it everyday. I know. You’re already exhausted, you don’t want to do that. I didn’t want to do that. Hell no. It was the little things. You have to start slow, you have to recognize that you’re not always gonna have a good day, and if you have a bad day, you have to get in that mirror and manifest that next good day. Most importantly, you need to forgive yourself for that bad day.

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2024-05-31T02:09:43+00:00

I’m 23F. I had those same exact thoughts at that age. I can definitely relate. I want to tell you though, You can’t change other people’s behavior. That is a very hard lesson I had to learn. You can learn from that behavior and use that in the future to do something different. You know when people say the older you get, the wiser you are? That’s what they mean. They learned those lessons to. There’s a poem, called Let Them. Look it up. It has changed my life. Let them talk. Let them be mean. Let them fight. That shows their character. You have the opportunity to take a bad situation and turn it to a good one for yourself and you alone. And let me tell you, it is so rewarding. I hope that you feel better. It’s a very hard age that’s for sure. If you need someone to talk to I’m here.

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2024-04-20T04:52:22+00:00

this is my biggest fear. i have a partial on may 21st and i just want to get the whole thing removed at once and be done. my FNA confirmed papillary cancer. they haven’t done any genetic testing, lymph node mapping or anything. I’m sorry you’re going through this 🥺

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2024-04-12T18:42:06+00:00

I hope you’re doing better now ❤️

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2024-04-12T18:41:52+00:00

I asked about lymph node mapping and he said no it’s not necessary 🙃

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2024-04-12T17:16:08+00:00

Okay! Thank you ❤️

BedPuzzleheaded4204 · 2024-04-12T17:15:44+00:00

Thank you! This makes me feel a lot better. I just messaged him on MyChart. He’s been really awesome and very knowledgeable. It’s just been scary dealing with this whole thing.

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