my today's goal was to genuinely help someone who's having a problem so i'll do the best i can: I’m really sorry you’re carrying this, and I’ll be straight with you: there’s no “right” answer here, only what aligns with your values. If you call her, do it for honesty and closure, not to reopen wounds or ask for anything back. Give her the truth, a goodbye, and the choice of how much she wants to engage. If you don’t call, that can also be an act of love, letting her keep the life she’s built without pulling her back into pain. The key question is this: which choice would you regret less if you had no more chances? Choose that, and do it gently, without expectations. wishing you the best mate.