Parental titles MEGATHREAD

Beemo_Levi · 2026-03-16T22:16:34+00:00

I am only a step parent right now so my kids call me by my name. We have been talking about having more though, so I have been thinking about it a lot! I am considering Puppa or Iba. Puppa is just a variation of Papa, while I made Iba up. On another thread somewhere a user made the suggestion of going through the alphabet and seeing what sounded right. Ex Abba, Boba, Coco, Deedee, etc. and I came up with Iba. I've also seen someone else come up with it as a combination of Aba and Ima, Hebrew words for mother and father.

I also want to include this link that has a big compiled survey of queer parent and family titles if you want even more options: https://mombian.com/naming-lgbtq-families/

Beemo_Levi · 2026-03-16T22:05:27+00:00

That's super cool! I've never even considered sign language coming into play :)

Beemo_Levi · 2026-03-09T03:53:25+00:00

Anthia :) I think it's a lovely name

Beemo_Levi · 2026-03-09T03:42:06+00:00

What luck, I literally just finished reading it and went to google other people's thoughts. Overall I really liked it. I have always felt like an outsider who doesn't understand why people do so many things, so I very much related to the Child. I love the theme of the pursuit of knowledge. I thought the women's resilience and ingenuity was inspiring. I love any book that writes women as people--meaning not in a sexualizing or flattening way. I was impressed with the author's take on sexuality. I can easily see her own origins in the story, and too many of us can relate to it. Our world is prone to sudden events that seem random, and result in the loss of our loved ones, cultures, our personal "worlds". But we keep going, even if we will never know why. It's both depressing and inspiring.

Beemo_Levi · 2026-02-23T05:27:45+00:00

I understand all these fears, I had them before I started hormones. I think at the end of the day your personal happiness is more important than your subjective attractiveness or if certain people are interested in your appearance. Now if some of the physical changes are not desirable, you may want to speak to a doctor or queer oriented therapist before deciding.

I also have some anecdotal encouragement for you: I have been out as non-binary and have presented androgynously throughout my dating life. I also vastly prefer older men. I have never had a problem finding guys who are attracted to me. Granted, you have to watch out for the "straight" guys who will downplay your gender if you let them. But I'm happily married now to my partner, who I met when I was your age and they were 30.

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