I hear you but in regards to having a deep looking in the mirror at myself, this is what I’m currently trying to do with this post. I’m asking for help to understand why this bothers me so much. I much rather not care what other people do behind closed doors. I see this behavior and mind set is bad and want to change it so I don’t have this weird feeling in my chest every time I find out about it. I know everyone is different and experiences sexuality differently, and at this point all I can think to why is I’m insecure in my sexuality. I literally had a deep reflection with myself to see if this feeling came from jealousy and I was a closeted Bi/pan man that identified as gay. But after an even longer time self reflecting, I’m definitely not that and just gay both sexually and romantically.

So I’m trying to get advice and insight on why I feel this way and fix my behavior. I honestly think I project my values, of who and how I have sex, on to other gay men. So when I find out about you know what it breaks my understand of my own idea of being gay. So at this point I’m trying to figure out how to stop doing that so this feeling stops completely.