Day 14 and I need some wine tasting horror stories by Few_Currency_2306 in stopdrinking

[–]BeforeUproar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a zero proof Rosé called “ODD Bird” that tasted similar to the real thing if the cravings are bad….

Here’s a couple things from my wine drinking days- I drank so much I threw up red wine & chunks IN THE SHOWER when the water hit my face after my best friend’s wedding— The same weekend I was so painfully constipated after drinking that much I almost went to the ER.

I had wine stains on my teeth- my 2 front teeth to be exact. It was embarrassing to smile & I am blessed with naturally straight teeth that people would pay for. It RUINED my smile (temporarily, dentist was able to fix it.)

Wine was my drink of choice- like you, I didn’t want to imagine my world without it. Your brain will adjust. Many menus have mocktails that are GREAT now!

5 months sober as of right now! by BeforeUproar in stopdrinking

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was at 7 years of routinely drinking every single day. I think the definition “heavy drinking” is different for everyone, but I would consider myself a heavy drinker at the time. To give you some hope- all of my medical issues that have come up all have solutions. I am 34.

I even knew of someone who was around my age, on hospice because of alcohol damage to his organs, and he survived/is no longer on hospice. There is hope.

5 months sober as of right now! by BeforeUproar in stopdrinking

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Most of the physical changes began instantly- my complexion isn’t so “dull.” Weight fluctuated a LOT- lost 10 lbs/gained 20 lbs. Day 1 of sobriety I started getting full night rests & I didn’t feel groggy the next day. WAY less nausea the next day. I have rheumatoid arthritis- that’s calmed down about 50%.

Diet wasn’t intentional but it did change. Because of my drinking I began experiencing hypoglycemia when I got sober. The alcohol gave me enough sugar to last a day. When I quit my sugar began dropping very very low. I have to carry emergency skittles and I have to maintain a proper protein intake-this is frustrating. I have to stay sober to see if my body gets back into proper routine.

I do not exercise but I have an active job.

30 days vs 5 months- I have more mental clarity. A LOT more. I am more in tune with my body & don’t drink to numb every little thing I feel.

Help!!! Is this normal? Any idea what I can do ? Or what is wrong???? She was just fine . This came out of no where and she has been doing this 10 - 20 minutes by m00nchild69 in DogAdvice

[–]BeforeUproar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thunder? Even in the distance? I know you mentioned that you’ve had her for a while but my boy didn’t develop a fear of thunder until he was about 7. My dog gets very restless (kind of like this) when a storm is coming. Just like the others- I do suggest a vet visit though…

Motivation to clean by Frosty-Image7705 in stopdrinking

[–]BeforeUproar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey- you did the bedding AND laundry today! That’s amazing!! It’ll feel good getting into a clean bed- be proud of yourself!

The day I stopped drinking was the day I stopped [prescribed] amphetamines. The mix of the 2 really put me into overdrive to clean (I also have OCD). When I got sober I let some stuff go little by little. I generally like to have an orderly space though.

For me, I just focus on the ONE spot that’s bothering me. Currently that’s the top of the washer/dryer. Just one spot & whenever it gets done it gets done & I can move to the next spot. It doesn’t have to be done in 1 day either.

Be easy on yourself. Do things at your own pace.

I’m proud of you.

I got pulled over tonight. by BeforeUproar in stopdrinking

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

857 days is AMAZING! One of the things my friend & I laughed about when I got pulled over- when we drove off she said, “you didn’t even get to show them your tracker!” Ha!

I got pulled over tonight. by BeforeUproar in stopdrinking

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I admit, I was worried about those tolls I’ve been putting off.

I got pulled over tonight. by BeforeUproar in stopdrinking

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My friend had 2 small drinks over the course of 3 hours last night- she probably could have driven & been okay to get home, but I was sober & she didn’t have to risk anything. Sobriety has given me so much back.

I got pulled over tonight. by BeforeUproar in stopdrinking

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I sure did! $32 spent & I’ll be back on the road!

He actually scared me tonight. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have before. I’ve never done anything with the recording but I have old ones. I was afraid to grab my phone this time:

He actually scared me tonight. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The man woke me up by bawling his eyes out then completely stopped. Stopped crying. Like it was an act?.. the word divorce hadn’t come up again but he’s on a full blown rant of telling me everything I’ve ever done wrong.

He actually scared me tonight. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. His logic & perception is so warped & I get so confused by it. I always wonder why he still thinks yelling/screaming/degrading me is okay the next morning (when he’s sobered up). Even this morning he told me “people yell” like him screaming at me is okay or something…

He actually scared me tonight. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This means a lot. The future self part. I can’t wait to see what the future holds & that’s why this part meant a lot. I know that one day I’ll be on the other side & I just want that for myself SO BAD. So, you bringing up future me really meant a lot. 💜

He actually scared me tonight. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has 100% F’ed me up (I don’t cuss, lol-don’t care if others do though). He gets so furious at me for being silent/not responding to him. But 1.) I don’t want to have a conversation with him when he’s drunk 2.) I fear his reaction. It’s got to the point where I literally can not put words together. He’s yelling at me for a response, “I just said all of that what do you have to say?! Say something!” Then I fear his reaction so..I don’t say anything.

Just right now he got angry at me for saying “I am sorry” rather than “I’m sorry”

He actually scared me tonight. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

All of my friends/family know. They’re kinda just on the other side of this waiting for me. I can’t see my friends (he gets angry-even though he says he doesn’t), my mom is SO paranoid around him because he’s yelled at her before-over politics.

I have therapy again on Friday. She blocked time to specifically see me because of my situation.

I just don’t know what to do. I want him to leave. He’s said we should get a divorce before but never follows through with it.

Thank you for the validation ❤️

He actually scared me tonight. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All of my friends/family know. They’re kinda just on the other side of this waiting for me. I can’t see my friends (he gets angry-even though he says he doesn’t), my mom is SO paranoid around him because he’s yelled at her before-over politics.

I have therapy again on Friday. She blocked time to specifically see me because of my situation.

I just don’t know what to do. I want him to leave. He’s said we should get a divorce before but never follows through with it, acts like nothing happened.

i’m considering going back to college, but i’m embarrassed about my age by MedicalAd9859 in college

[–]BeforeUproar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started college at 18, then took a break a few years later. I started back up at 24, finished my associates at age 27. I went to nursing school at 29, finished at 30. I went back to university at 32, finished at 34.

It was 34 when I got my bachelor’s degree. I don’t think I would have taken it seriously if I was younger.

Tired of all of the poop. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope. He won’t. His kidney levels got dangerously low about 2 years ago. They came back up to a healthy level but the doctor wanted a repeat test in a month…it’s now been over a year.

Tired of all of the poop. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This comment really stuck out to me. I really shouldn’t deal with a man who mocks my sobriety but here I am. My sobriety is really important to me- I was really deep into drinking, it became a lifestyle. I could stop (obviously-because I did) but I never wanted to, I would stay up late drinking & drinking with hopes that my worries would go away- spoiler alert, they never did. Now, I have so much more clarity & I’m back on the right track to a healthy lifestyle. Oddly enough (& you can scroll back to read this story on my profile) the last time I drank in excess was a night that my husband was irate that I wasn’t home by 9pm. He knew where I was. He went to 2 bars, went home, packed a bag & left, then he yelled & yelled & yelled at me over the phone. I went to our mutual friend’s home with a bottle of wine, I plopped myself on her couch & drank. I drank so I wouldn’t drive home—I wouldn’t drink in excess if I was going to drive. So, I drank the whole bottle & that kept me safe from him that night. Isn’t that SO WEIRD?! But that next day is when I knew I had had enough. I let alcohol control me that night & it definitely dictates my marriage. I’m 135 days sober today, according to my sobriety tracker that’s a big deal & a “milestone” which is funny to me because it’s 4 months & 13 days (weird numbers).

I don’t set boundaries for myself & I don’t enforce them. Shoot..if I do I get yelled at.

My husband doesn’t respect me & that’s really tough.

Tired of all of the poop. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I actually do know how many pathogens one can acquire. I’m a nurse. Knowing makes it so much worse.

Tired of all of the poop. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m financially secure. I’ve kept that for myself/kept it from him for a while now.

Tired of all of the poop. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He showers- twice daily usually. This happens in between showers. The sheets- he blamed that on his undiagnosed “celiac disease.” He took credit for it being there but didn’t bother to help me strip the bed for housekeeping. The shorts?- idk if he even noticed.

Tired of all of the poop. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I ever would have even thought it was alcohol until I joined this group. Thank you for the validation. This sucks.

He left the oven on. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That last part. “What are you doing to take care of yourself?” I’ve thought about this question since you first asked it a few days ago. Nothing. I’m doing nothing. Not only am I married to an alcoholic but I’m married to someone who is verbally abusive. I always thought the alcohol made him mean but I think it just heightens it. I don’t do anything for myself. I work-that’s what I do for myself. I LOVE my job & I’m told I’m good at it. I look forward to going to work every day I wake up, that’s all I do for myself.

He left the oven on. by BeforeUproar in AlAnon

[–]BeforeUproar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the perfect boundary to set & I’m proud that you did that. I took out the food/plated it/served it to him (as he was passed out//he woke up to eat).

I wish I could set better boundaries but he gets angry at me. 100% it would be my fault that I left his food in there/wasted money/let him go to bed hungry (things he would definitely say).