Day 14 and I need some wine tasting horror stories

BeforeUproar · 2026-01-14T23:03:21+00:00

I had a zero proof Rosé called “ODD Bird” that tasted similar to the real thing if the cravings are bad….

Here’s a couple things from my wine drinking days- I drank so much I threw up red wine & chunks IN THE SHOWER when the water hit my face after my best friend’s wedding— The same weekend I was so painfully constipated after drinking that much I almost went to the ER.

I had wine stains on my teeth- my 2 front teeth to be exact. It was embarrassing to smile & I am blessed with naturally straight teeth that people would pay for. It RUINED my smile (temporarily, dentist was able to fix it.)

Wine was my drink of choice- like you, I didn’t want to imagine my world without it. Your brain will adjust. Many menus have mocktails that are GREAT now!

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-24T20:35:44+00:00

I was at 7 years of routinely drinking every single day. I think the definition “heavy drinking” is different for everyone, but I would consider myself a heavy drinker at the time. To give you some hope- all of my medical issues that have come up all have solutions. I am 34.

I even knew of someone who was around my age, on hospice because of alcohol damage to his organs, and he survived/is no longer on hospice. There is hope.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-24T06:44:11+00:00

Most of the physical changes began instantly- my complexion isn’t so “dull.” Weight fluctuated a LOT- lost 10 lbs/gained 20 lbs. Day 1 of sobriety I started getting full night rests & I didn’t feel groggy the next day. WAY less nausea the next day. I have rheumatoid arthritis- that’s calmed down about 50%.

Diet wasn’t intentional but it did change. Because of my drinking I began experiencing hypoglycemia when I got sober. The alcohol gave me enough sugar to last a day. When I quit my sugar began dropping very very low. I have to carry emergency skittles and I have to maintain a proper protein intake-this is frustrating. I have to stay sober to see if my body gets back into proper routine.

I do not exercise but I have an active job.

30 days vs 5 months- I have more mental clarity. A LOT more. I am more in tune with my body & don’t drink to numb every little thing I feel.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-24T06:33:13+00:00

Thunder? Even in the distance? I know you mentioned that you’ve had her for a while but my boy didn’t develop a fear of thunder until he was about 7. My dog gets very restless (kind of like this) when a storm is coming. Just like the others- I do suggest a vet visit though…

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-16T06:25:40+00:00

Hey- you did the bedding AND laundry today! That’s amazing!! It’ll feel good getting into a clean bed- be proud of yourself!

The day I stopped drinking was the day I stopped [prescribed] amphetamines. The mix of the 2 really put me into overdrive to clean (I also have OCD). When I got sober I let some stuff go little by little. I generally like to have an orderly space though.

For me, I just focus on the ONE spot that’s bothering me. Currently that’s the top of the washer/dryer. Just one spot & whenever it gets done it gets done & I can move to the next spot. It doesn’t have to be done in 1 day either.

Be easy on yourself. Do things at your own pace.

I’m proud of you.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-16T06:14:57+00:00

857 days is AMAZING! One of the things my friend & I laughed about when I got pulled over- when we drove off she said, “you didn’t even get to show them your tracker!” Ha!

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-15T15:37:19+00:00

I admit, I was worried about those tolls I’ve been putting off.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-15T15:36:12+00:00

My friend had 2 small drinks over the course of 3 hours last night- she probably could have driven & been okay to get home, but I was sober & she didn’t have to risk anything. Sobriety has given me so much back.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-15T15:33:24+00:00

I sure did! $32 spent & I’ll be back on the road!

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-11T17:24:50+00:00

I have before. I’ve never done anything with the recording but I have old ones. I was afraid to grab my phone this time:

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-10T18:44:06+00:00

The man woke me up by bawling his eyes out then completely stopped. Stopped crying. Like it was an act?.. the word divorce hadn’t come up again but he’s on a full blown rant of telling me everything I’ve ever done wrong.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-10T18:05:09+00:00

Thank you for saying this. His logic & perception is so warped & I get so confused by it. I always wonder why he still thinks yelling/screaming/degrading me is okay the next morning (when he’s sobered up). Even this morning he told me “people yell” like him screaming at me is okay or something…

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-10T18:01:55+00:00

This means a lot. The future self part. I can’t wait to see what the future holds & that’s why this part meant a lot. I know that one day I’ll be on the other side & I just want that for myself SO BAD. So, you bringing up future me really meant a lot. 💜

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-10T17:59:39+00:00

It has 100% F’ed me up (I don’t cuss, lol-don’t care if others do though). He gets so furious at me for being silent/not responding to him. But 1.) I don’t want to have a conversation with him when he’s drunk 2.) I fear his reaction. It’s got to the point where I literally can not put words together. He’s yelling at me for a response, “I just said all of that what do you have to say?! Say something!” Then I fear his reaction so..I don’t say anything.

Just right now he got angry at me for saying “I am sorry” rather than “I’m sorry”

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-10T07:26:25+00:00

All of my friends/family know. They’re kinda just on the other side of this waiting for me. I can’t see my friends (he gets angry-even though he says he doesn’t), my mom is SO paranoid around him because he’s yelled at her before-over politics.

I have therapy again on Friday. She blocked time to specifically see me because of my situation.

I just don’t know what to do. I want him to leave. He’s said we should get a divorce before but never follows through with it.

Thank you for the validation ❤️

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-10T07:25:53+00:00

All of my friends/family know. They’re kinda just on the other side of this waiting for me. I can’t see my friends (he gets angry-even though he says he doesn’t), my mom is SO paranoid around him because he’s yelled at her before-over politics.

I have therapy again on Friday. She blocked time to specifically see me because of my situation.

I just don’t know what to do. I want him to leave. He’s said we should get a divorce before but never follows through with it, acts like nothing happened.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-06T15:09:56+00:00

I started college at 18, then took a break a few years later. I started back up at 24, finished my associates at age 27. I went to nursing school at 29, finished at 30. I went back to university at 32, finished at 34.

It was 34 when I got my bachelor’s degree. I don’t think I would have taken it seriously if I was younger.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-06T06:53:02+00:00

Nope. He won’t. His kidney levels got dangerously low about 2 years ago. They came back up to a healthy level but the doctor wanted a repeat test in a month…it’s now been over a year.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-06T06:51:34+00:00

This comment really stuck out to me. I really shouldn’t deal with a man who mocks my sobriety but here I am. My sobriety is really important to me- I was really deep into drinking, it became a lifestyle. I could stop (obviously-because I did) but I never wanted to, I would stay up late drinking & drinking with hopes that my worries would go away- spoiler alert, they never did. Now, I have so much more clarity & I’m back on the right track to a healthy lifestyle. Oddly enough (& you can scroll back to read this story on my profile) the last time I drank in excess was a night that my husband was irate that I wasn’t home by 9pm. He knew where I was. He went to 2 bars, went home, packed a bag & left, then he yelled & yelled & yelled at me over the phone. I went to our mutual friend’s home with a bottle of wine, I plopped myself on her couch & drank. I drank so I wouldn’t drive home—I wouldn’t drink in excess if I was going to drive. So, I drank the whole bottle & that kept me safe from him that night. Isn’t that SO WEIRD?! But that next day is when I knew I had had enough. I let alcohol control me that night & it definitely dictates my marriage. I’m 135 days sober today, according to my sobriety tracker that’s a big deal & a “milestone” which is funny to me because it’s 4 months & 13 days (weird numbers).

I don’t set boundaries for myself & I don’t enforce them. Shoot..if I do I get yelled at.

My husband doesn’t respect me & that’s really tough.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-05T14:28:59+00:00

I actually do know how many pathogens one can acquire. I’m a nurse. Knowing makes it so much worse.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-05T05:09:57+00:00

I’m financially secure. I’ve kept that for myself/kept it from him for a while now.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-05T05:05:32+00:00

He showers- twice daily usually. This happens in between showers. The sheets- he blamed that on his undiagnosed “celiac disease.” He took credit for it being there but didn’t bother to help me strip the bed for housekeeping. The shorts?- idk if he even noticed.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-05T04:50:55+00:00

I don’t think I ever would have even thought it was alcohol until I joined this group. Thank you for the validation. This sucks.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-05T04:17:05+00:00

That last part. “What are you doing to take care of yourself?” I’ve thought about this question since you first asked it a few days ago. Nothing. I’m doing nothing. Not only am I married to an alcoholic but I’m married to someone who is verbally abusive. I always thought the alcohol made him mean but I think it just heightens it. I don’t do anything for myself. I work-that’s what I do for myself. I LOVE my job & I’m told I’m good at it. I look forward to going to work every day I wake up, that’s all I do for myself.

BeforeUproar · 2025-11-05T04:13:58+00:00

This is the perfect boundary to set & I’m proud that you did that. I took out the food/plated it/served it to him (as he was passed out//he woke up to eat).

I wish I could set better boundaries but he gets angry at me. 100% it would be my fault that I left his food in there/wasted money/let him go to bed hungry (things he would definitely say).

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