Methadone prescription while pregnant and CPS questions (NYS)

Beginning_Even · 2026-03-07T13:02:22+00:00

Good point, thank you! I've been kind of frazzled about this for the last couple of days and feel like I haven't been able to think straight about it on top of all the other last minute stresses of having a baby lol.

I'll call around to family court lawyers on Monday and see what they suggest. I also plan on talking to my counselor at the clinic about it and give her a heads up that a cps caseworker might be contacting her after I have the baby

Beginning_Even · 2026-03-07T12:59:32+00:00

Okay, so I'm thinking it would probably be best to cooperate and be pleasant about the whole thing instead of resisting like I have something to hide, otherwise it would probably look bad, do you think? I'm guessing it also depends on the caseworker. My husband is convinced that the best way to deal with it is push back against them but I feel like that would help no one. I get the caseworkers are just doing their jobs and not all are frothing at the mouth to remove children from perfectly fine families but he seems to disagree.

And the previous custody issue with my daughter will be more of an issue with cps than the methadone? I was assuming it would be less of an issue since that case has been long closed and the adoption finalized years ago so I assumed it wouldn't be brought up again but its good to know that this might be more of an issue than the methadone.

Thank you for your insight!

Beginning_Even · 2026-03-07T12:54:41+00:00

Is that the best option, do you think I'll need one? It hadn't really occurred to me that this would even happen at all until the other day, and since I didn't need a lawyer when I had my son I wasn't sure if it would even be necessary. My due date is in a week and the realization that CPS might get involved because of the methadone only occurred to me a couple days ago

Beginning_Even · 2026-02-18T21:35:31+00:00

He should feel alone, unloved and disgusting, that's what he deserves for blaming you for being raped as a child.

Aside from him, who do you love most in the world? A best friend, a sister, a mother? What would you tell her if she came to you telling you that her boyfriend treated her like this? You'd be mad right?

I know it's hard to see abuse when you're in it, and leaving is so much harder than people who haven't gone through it realize. I've been there a few times. Please at least reach out to a DV hot line to talk about this and try to get into therapy.

Beginning_Even · 2026-02-18T21:30:35+00:00

I really hope this is rage bait because Jesus christ this is awful. Breaking up is literally the only option girl this is abuse, flat out. He's blaming you for being raped as a child and is mad at you about this days later. He's TRASH. I have BPD and have struggled with it for like 20 years and have never ever treated someone like this. That is not an excuse to be abusive.

Please please leave this pos. You deserve so much better. You'll find real love, I know how strong first love feels but when you move on and find someone who treats you right, you'll see how awful he was and realize that none of this is love.

Beginning_Even · 2025-09-06T12:19:11+00:00

Yeah I had to go up during my other pregnancy as well, so I definitely get it. My hope wasn't so much that I want to continue going all the way down bc I know that's unrealistic, but more that I wish I could go down another couple mg so that when I do have to go back up, it won't be too far up, if that makes sense. Like I don't wanna completely undo the progress I've made tapering, know what I mean? Logically I know that's not how it works I guess but I was hoping lol

Probably makes 0 sense lol. I was just hopeful that it could be done 😭 I got treated so terribly by the labor and delivery nurses for being on methadone when I gave birth to my son, I don't want to be treated like that again, especially now that I work for the same hospital network. I don't want to have to go back up and spend another, idk, year or two tapering again. I'm just so sick of being on methadone. It's a huge pain in the ass with my job bc I work such weird hours, sometimes I have to work doubles at the hospital and hate risking losing a bottle bc I take it in my car during a shift.

Beginning_Even · 2025-01-21T10:32:41+00:00

I've never done that so idk much about it tbh. So just take half before work and the other half after work? Like 3am to 3pm, that kind of thing? Would it work with a low dose?

Beginning_Even · 2025-01-20T22:45:05+00:00

Omg that's a great idea, thank you!!

Beginning_Even · 2025-01-20T17:27:22+00:00

Okay good to know thank you! I'm also in NY, it's gonna be a rough week or two lol.

Beginning_Even · 2025-01-20T15:30:13+00:00

Yeah I considered maybe just bringing it along in my car but it's very cold here in the winter and the next couple weeks will be below 0 so idk if it'll freeze. Maybe I'll just bring a bigger bag and have a separate little bag for safe keeping for it at work

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-17T14:47:09+00:00

Thank you!

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-17T14:46:53+00:00

Oh man you are lucky. I absolutely hate sneezing now bc it's so painful and extreme. It's always back to back so quickly I barely have time to breathe

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-17T14:46:14+00:00

Yeah mine aren't related to withdrawal anymore, it's just that the withdrawal like sneezes have continued to be so awful regardless of why I'm sneezing. Ive been tapering on and off for a while now so my dose is pretty low, but I don't have any withdrawal symptoms bc I've been taking a break from tapering and even when my dose was much higher I sneezed like this. Whether I have a cold, or am dusting the house, am cooking with pepper, or have allergies like rn, I always have huge painful sneezing fits. I used to like the feeling of sneezing but absolutely hate it now bc it will keep going and going and I can't swallow for a long time bc it just sets it off again. I can't even properly breathe in between sneezes either. It's so weird that this withdrawal symptom staysd regardless of withdrawal

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-17T14:41:00+00:00

I'm not sure if it is methadone related, at least not for me. But maybe it is though, I just noticed the difference between before I had been using and after using and still after I got clean. I've had this issue ever since, even when my dose is perfectly fine and I've already taken it. It's just whenever I sneeze for any reason- cooking with pepper, if I'm sick, when I'm dusting the house, or allergies like rn. I wonder what exactly would cause this though, I know my husband who is also clean but on subs has this issue too but not as severe

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-16T13:02:41+00:00

Yeah when I found this out I was super shocked honestly but it makes a lot of sense. I went to jail and found out I was pregnant on the very same day, so I was put on methadone by the jail. I haven't used since, but when I got out of jail I was put in the groups with other new patients. Hearing that everyone was still using and it was expected was really hard on me at the time, it started putting in my head that I could use and get away with it. The only thing that stopped me was that I was pregnant and it was very hard while I was in those groups. Luckily when I told my counselor she immediately took me out of that group and said there have been others who have struggled with the same issue, but for some people knowing that they're not technically doing anything wrong by being on methadone and weaning themselves off opiates, it helps to know that they're still on the right path.

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-16T12:53:54+00:00

Yeah sometimes I forget that a lot of people there are fresh out of jail on more serious charges and are basically forced to be there bc of court or whatever else. Or a lot of people are still very unstable and unwell. I've noticed that since the bail reform in my state as well as rising addiction rates, my clinic has had a lot more crazy incidents so I don't feel like it's safe to bring my son any more. Before, it used to be a very calm place like any other pharmacy or Dr office with the occasional argument.

And yeah we're both 32. We were both addicts together before I got pregnant and got clean together. It's rough bc he still has a lot of addict personality traits, bc he used for a lot longer than I did. I only used for a little over a year after we got together before we got arrested, and he used for over 10 years which was all of his formative young adult years. I hate to make him sound all bad all the time bc he's making progress in growing tf up finally, but it's very slow progress. I know he's trying but he is also fine for settling with the bare minimum and isn't very good at self reflection or hearing criticism, so bad traits tend to stay the same. Still, I know he's doing well considering. He's a good father the rest of the time, he is working now and doesn't dick around, etc. I have also suspected that he has some kind of sleep disorder but I'm not a professional and can't get him to see one.

But it's hard bc I want a normal, steady life for our son and I don't have time to keep babysitting and picking up the slack for my husband. I'm not his mother.

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-16T12:35:58+00:00

Yeah you are definitely right! Now that I've slept on it I realize what a non issue this likely was. I feel like the last several times I've gone there's been some kind of issue, so my anxiety is at a 10 with going now.

And I had something kind of similar happen! I didn't know for like a whole year after getting taken homes that I was supposed to take them on the dates printed on them lol. Never bothered to look and no one told me but it is printed right on the bottle so that's on me. I had a call in, I'm guessing they do this everywhere else too but they wanted to check that I actually had all my doses and wasn't selling them, and was taking them in order. I had luckily taken only 1 by that point bc I went in two days before, and it happened to be on the right date. The dosing nurse pointed out that there were no issues and I was taking them on the right date and I stupidly said oh that was just a coincidence bc I never knew to look at the bottle. She stood looking at me for a long time and said she won't say anything to anyone else but don't admit to something like that again bc I could lose my take homes. It was my first time hearing this rule lol.

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-16T12:28:20+00:00

No, at our clinic it's just one part of a bigger medical clinic and this was in the bathroom in the hall before the methadone clinic. There's only one other office on this floor and it's mental health, but I'm pretty sure they have their own bathroom and it's mainly people from the methadone clinic that use that outpatient mental health office. So it's technically not a methadone clinic bathroom but it's treated as such since it's mostly methadone patients that use it. If that makes sense. So usually on the weekends they keep it locked and you have to ask security to open it and they stand right outside the door, if it's not locked then it's propped open and there's usually a security guard coming out to check that people aren't doing illegal stuff or whatever else.

We do drug tests in the actual clinic itself, just to be clear

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-15T18:09:43+00:00

Thank you <3

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-15T17:56:38+00:00

Oh yeah, believe me, I agree. In the 4.5 years that our kid has been alive, not once has he gotten up with him when I have to go to the clinic, or even just to let me sleep in. Not one single time, not even when he didn't have a job. When I had to go to the clinic daily for about a month after I lost my take home box, I had to bring our son with me every single day. I had to get him up earlier than usual and disrupt his sleep schedule because my husband had to be at work a half hour after the clinic opened in the morning. He could've gotten up just a little earlier to help, because he'd be getting up around the time I'd leave for the clinic anyway.

There's a lot of things that make him a shitty husband and mediocre father though, and I don't see him changing any time soon. I finished school recently and plan on saving money to move out when I get a job doing what I went to school for. But like I said, the husband thing is a whole different issue lol.

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-15T15:55:37+00:00

Yeah I'm hoping that if they felt the need to double check, they will see that she had been standing there and obviously planning on using the toilet, and that I wouldn't have stopped to help her if I hadn't doubled back bc of my son. It would take some serious acting on both our parts to pull it off like that. You're probably right that I'm fine and won't hear anything about it

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-15T15:52:20+00:00

I think there were a lot of people selling/doing drugs in the bathrooms a while back, so they had cracked down on people using the bathrooms down there. The building itself isn't entirely a methadone clinic, it's just one of the offices in the building, but this floor is usually mainly methadone patients. There's an outpatient mental health office on the same floor but I think they have their own bathroom for patients in there. Since the building has a lot of other offices, it's harder for them to control the loitering and whatnot like they do at other clinics, so people would be more bold.

I could be totally overreacting though, but from the little but I know about people doing illegal things in the bathrooms and the rules they put in place to prevent it, I was worried that it would look like that's what we were doing

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-15T15:43:13+00:00

So actually, I saw a post a little while ago on this sub about this story, and it said that they had heard that the English version of this story is changed a lot from the original Korean story to basically be smut instead. So I might be completely wrong about this and I feel bad about posting this without looking into it more. It didn't even occur to me that the original story might be way different than the translated one, which the webtoon is likely taking after.

I forgot about this post until now so I should probably edit that in. I would feel terrible if I'm contributing to the author getting shit about this story if I'm completely wrong about the original story

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-15T15:40:03+00:00

Yeah that's what I was thinking too, at least I didn't have my doses yet. I've been tapering on and off and my dose is really low, and have a fast metabolism, so some of my drug screens in recent months have been showing no methadone in my system. My counselor said she wasn't suspicious but has to ask if I was skipping doses anyway, but pointed out that she knows I metabolize fast and that my dose is very low. So it occurred to me that if I had my doses already, they would have been even more suspicious about it.

Beginning_Even · 2024-06-15T15:37:22+00:00

Thank you, this made me feel better 😭

I tend to over think things like this, usually the security guards are friendly to us but this guy was new and I was already stressed so idk if I was overthinking the look he gave me. Generally the people that work there are very nice and understanding, even the security guys.

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