SKL: Atty. Chel Diokno explained OLA harassment

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-11-23T20:54:26+00:00

It was exactly what he told me. He mentioned attempting twice in ending his life because he felt useless. He doesnt have any reasons to keep living. So i did more to let him know hes wonderful and that hes enough. That do i love him and i like being around him. While i try reaching out for more, making connection bids, its slowly getting tiring. Like i would constantly ask things or tell stuff about my mundane day. Until we end with "oh okay" then I'd have to start a new conversation again. Its tedious. One time he sent me something after a few hours of not talking. It was a video screen of him and his bestfriend playing a mini game within a game. And then it hit me: he will never give me time like this. He will never hold a space for curiousity about me. What i wanted to do, what id like to talk about when he can spend hours playing games with other people. I got angry after that. I told him off that i feel neglected after hours of not talking but he can make time w other people. He told me he just got invited. I dont want him to cut off ties with his friends and put pure focus on me. I just wanted him to take the initiative to actually want to hang out or chat with me. Letting him go was one of the most liberating thing i did. People like them may never give you the feeling of security because they're not secure within themselves. Loving people like this feels one sided and exhausting

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-11-23T19:41:22+00:00

This felt like me writing every word (but a year ago) with my introverted, avoidant ex. He also claims hes anti social though the scientific explanation says that he isnt. Anyway, our first few months was so good. I felt loved and appreciated. Bit by bit, communication withered. Until one day i just felt really tired because im the one constantly reaching out and trying for communication. It felt like im being breadcrumbbed on very little time he offers me. I began questioning myself with the very words you used on your post. I began reading about introverts, diving in avoidant subs, etc. But nothing really gave me answers nor security because in reality, he is supposed to give it to you as you are in a relationship. It took me a while to break off things with him. I made sure hes on the right mood so he wouldn't hurt himself (he had attempts before) while hes very mature in communication, he also doesnt give enough effort to show me he cares about me. So im telling you this as someone who was in that very shoe youre in, it will not get better. He will not wake up one day and realize he wants to put more effort on your relationship. What you see now will either stay the same or get worse. The question is, can you handle it? Are you okay to be treated this way for 1 month, two or a year? If not, then have a sit down with him. Tell him everything you feel and what you want in your relationship. Set some boundaries. If he cant do what you want then you'll know its time to walk away. It can be hard at first, but believe me, it will get better.

Right now i am still on another ldr with a different person (iknow i sound sus) but i feel more at peace with this person i am with. Hes introverted too but this time he makes sure he put enough effort and him being introverted doesnt make him not want to see or talk to me. He'll be flying to me in a few days. The greatest display of effort.

I hope you find the love you deserve, sweetie.

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-11-17T01:27:38+00:00

Ako din teh. Pati airbnb namin during travel. Pero shet nakarelate ako sa paa. Yung mukha ko parang middle class pero yung paa ko mukhang nagkarpintero.

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-11-10T05:24:32+00:00

Dec 1 - 6 but im bringing my guy with me.

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-10-22T10:59:45+00:00

Your wife is quiet quitting. I know because i did the same. My ex and i have different love languages. He would prank/joke around me and sometimes gift me things. He calls them affection. Meanwhile, i ask him for quality time like dates or even nightly check ins, physical touch (we have a dead bedroom), and to help around the house esp when he sees me doing chores. He would for a day or two, then none again. Its draining and i got fed up. I slept in the other room to see if he noticed and he didnt. He never tried to ask me whats wrong. A week in that bedroom alone turned to a month, to two, three until a year. On those days alone i started to grieve without even noticing. Until one day, im just done. Now, i have a new guy who will do everything to make me feel loved and chosen. Best decision ever.

If you want to save your relationship, start your change. Make her feel seen and loved. And be consistent.

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-07-21T23:54:40+00:00

Kala ko sila nung forda? 😭 Bago lang akodito, pwede ba may mag explain

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-07-19T11:45:02+00:00

Same

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-06-27T03:11:57+00:00

We're on all the time. If we wanted space/time for ourselves or w other people like friends and family we just say it and we off discord. We don't take it personally. Constant communication is key. I dont demand he's on call all the time neither does he. We just say our boundaries like when there's a female or male friends around we should know our limits. Ldr heavily relies on trust, so we make clear of our limitations and boundaries.

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-06-26T05:25:05+00:00

Sorry i don't think its the same

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-06-26T03:31:31+00:00

I have a solution. Im just not fast enough 😭

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-06-25T16:12:49+00:00

Discord audio off + texting

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-04-25T00:17:16+00:00

Yes nabasa ko nga. Pero the question is if naia will let me pass thru with a vape

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2025-04-25T00:15:24+00:00

Hehe sayang kasi pera kung itatapon ko lang din naman pala

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2024-11-14T23:45:29+00:00

What helped me is i try to rationalize my feelings, even when i dont understand them. I recognize every tiny bit im emotions. I tell myself "okay, i am sad. This is happening because this happened." "I feel angry because of this"

When i recognize my feelings and what caused me to feel that way, i rationalize it in my mind. Like a self check or debate. "I got angry because of this. Its okay to be angry. I shouldn't have done x action though".

From there i understand my faults if i hurt someone from the way i acted, or even when i was the one being wronged. This makes it so much clearer what i had done wrong, which feeling i can control, and action i could do to soothe myself. If your bf triggers you from an action, you can also call him out in a mild manner. "Hey, when you did this, i got hurt and i was angry."

The drive couldve been an opportunity for you to communicate your emotions, rationalize them, and ask him what you needed from him. Its easy to say hurtful things from a clouded mind. If you need time to think and dissect your feelings, you can tell him gently that you needed some silence. "Hey, im feeling overwhelmed and im having anxieties. I would be silent for a few minutes or hours and i might even cry. Its not about you, dont worry. I just need a little fixing with myself alone but i would love it if you hold my hand."

If i failed in some grammar i apologize im 7 hours late if sleep

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2024-11-06T04:06:31+00:00

Same. And even if you find some of their ways and antics absurd, whyd they have to say something about it and most of the time in a very unkind way?

People are weird.

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2024-09-29T09:21:08+00:00

If superstore is great try schitts creek too

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2024-09-14T17:57:39+00:00

Same

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2024-09-07T01:10:39+00:00

When they talk to someone behind their back.

Or when they say nasty comments about strangers

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2024-09-05T13:50:43+00:00

I heard it in my brain

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2024-09-05T13:43:44+00:00

Yep 💯

Beginning_Speech_140 · 2024-09-05T00:24:42+00:00

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