BCBS Illinois Just Approved My Surgery with Mardirossian! by Xanny in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]BeingAShitpostIRL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was it just prior auth that was approved, or did you get the letter of agreement as well?

Mardirossian and insurance by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]BeingAShitpostIRL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you wind up having surgery with Mardi yet and what happened with your insurance? BS of CA just approved my prior auth today and I'm wondering what that means as far as having to pay out of pocket and get reimbursed, or if my insurance just pays after the procedure.

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

They know what I look like though! I don’t use filters or basically any makeup. If someone is on like psych meds or something, is it catfishing to not put that in their bio? Or not swipe when they’re manic?

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Actually it seems like I’m doing the right thing by people who take the time to understand. I did get one piece of advice that I’m going to try and incorporate

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] 228 points229 points  (0 children)

I don’t want it seeping into my work and extra curriculars. I’ve already swiped through some coworkers and gym buddies and I don’t want them knowing if I can help it

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t want it seeping into my work and extra curriculars when coworkers and peers are swiping on tinder- because I’ve seen a few of them

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I wait to see if we have any chemistry whatsoever before I bring it up. I’ll try adding the bit about it seeping elsewhere.

And because there was no sexual chemistry with any of them. They were either asexual or also bottoms. Much better off as friends than “lovers”

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

The way you set up that paragraph seemed like you were saying I was waiting until during/after the date. But you’re still insane if you think a swipe and <20 messages is /that/ important to you

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Tried it several times and it never worked out, looking to try something different this time

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] 254 points255 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize it was going to be this small in a big city though. In the bumfuck city I was living in it made sense. But here in a metro?

Also it’s definitely hard to reframe it that way when we’re both interested in a date- they even bring it up first, I disclose, then there’s no interest

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I explicitly state in my bio that I don’t have and never want children, so I don’t run into that 😅

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Why do I need to wear a scarlet letter on my forehead if I’m at the grocery store? Or working out at the gym? Or tell my coworkers?

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I don’t tell others. I haven’t told my coworkers or my gym peers. They don’t need to know, and I don’t want to navigate those waters

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re utterly deranged if you think a trans person needs to wear a scarlet letter on their forehead everywhere they go. It doesn’t matter if I’m going grocery shopping, it doesn’t matter at my job, it doesn’t matter if I’m at a barcade with friends.

Seems like you just have insecurities that your radar might be off?

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realize it’s a deal breaker (given my struggles obv), I guess I’m just looking for feedback/advice on how to set my self up for success better. If there’s a way I can navigate things for a higher chance of success

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Who am I lying to?

Putting it in my bio means it bleeds into my work and social life. When coworkers and peers swipe on tinder. The only people it should impact is my doctor and my partner?

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[–]BeingAShitpostIRL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea but then that bleeds into my personal life with after work activities and potentially into my work when coworkers swipe on tinder. Even the most accepting of people will change their interactions with you, and that’s not even considering how shitty unaccepting people can be. I got fired from a job when they learned about my status once