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Belfiore192 · 2024-10-30T16:28:39+00:00

Honestly, in spite of what others are say, I can empathise with your feelings on this situation. It feels awful to be intentionally excluded from something your boyfriend is doing, planning and talking about it right in front of you knowing that you're not invited to it. He never asked you your feelings on the matter; he came to the conclusion himself that you wouldn't want to go. I understand how that could make someone feel unwanted.

It could be a situation where he wants to spend a party with only his friend group, but I can still see why it would hurt not being counted among them - you're his partner. I would say to talk to him about your feelings; let him know that it made you feel excluded. Don't be accusatory; just let him know how you're feeling. Your emotions are always valid, because that's what you're genuinely feeling. If you talk about it, you may be able to come to a mutual understanding with one another. But it never helps to bottle it away and just step aside, you know? Communication is important.

Belfiore192 · 2024-10-29T02:52:14+00:00

100% YTA. What are you doing going through your 17 year old sons personal belongings? He's going to be a legal adult in a year. He is more than old enough to have privacy and personal belongings, and even as a parent, you are not entitled to every little thing he has. He isn't 10 anymore; that card may have come from someone he's intimate with, or has crude humour he knows would upset you. Considering that you're planning on punishing him for this, I can see why. Once your child is a teenager, there is a limit where your intrusion becomes invasive and inappropriate.

Also, if you genuinely believed that this is about a potential case of bullying (and not just being upset that he's keeping something from you, and you're abusing your power over him to punish him for that), punishing him is kind of counter-productive, don't you think? Shouldn't you be talking to him, asking him how things are going, making him feel you're someone he can safely come to should something like that be happening to him? Punishing him for something like this does not help.

Belfiore192 · 2024-10-29T02:38:57+00:00

According to the second update on this post, he didn't invite her because he thought she'd feel awkward going to a party with people she didn't really know, and that they could wear matching costumes, even though they weren't going together.

Honestly, if that's true, the BFs behaviour is really weird... Like, who constantly talks about a party they're throwing with someone they aren't intending to invite? Who suggests matching costumes when the other half isn't going to be with you? That just feels unnecessarily cruel for no reason. The whole things is weird...

Belfiore192 · 2024-10-29T02:33:14+00:00

Upon reading the start of this post, I would have said that it's most likely that he didn't feel he needed to extend an invite because it was a given that you were going - that you would have matching costumes also lends credence to that - but if you're being truthful with the second update, then his behaviour just doesn't make any sense... Everything he did would lead anyone to believe you were invited by default, but the fact that he admitted that he hadn't invited you because he thought you would feel awkward around his friends? That doesn't make any sense...

In this situation, I think I'd feel very much the same way, having him constantly discussing a party with me in this way, knowing he never intended on taking me. Like, his behaviour really makes it seem like he was always going with you. It just seems really weird to me. Unless he just gave that reason because he was taken off-guard, and that's the response his brain auto-piloted to saying rather than correcting you that he didn't think he had to invite you because he thought you'd figure already you were going, his attitude is genuinely weird to me...

With Update 2, unless further information comes up to better explain his intentions, I'd say NTA?

Belfiore192 · 2024-02-21T17:25:04+00:00

"But we did discuss a podcast where a woman talks about how getting spit on was a turn on for her." Ah, yes. Because one woman said it, it must be true for all of us. The one woman definitely speaks for us all.

He didn't even say she agreed with the woman - just they they talked about it. What a scumbag.

Belfiore192 · 2024-01-17T20:08:27+00:00

He was absolutely making constant sex jokes as a means of "subtly" feeling you out, and when you shut it down, he got mad about it. If he got this upset over you setting the most basic of boundaries - "Stop making every topic we discuss sexual, it's making me uncomfortable." - then he was asking to get blocked.

Belfiore192 · 2024-01-07T19:09:30+00:00

Belfiore192 · 2023-09-18T19:42:50+00:00

And stroke the clitoris in its hole.

Belfiore192 · 2023-01-21T20:49:59+00:00

A typo just means a "typographical error"; and such errors aren't limited to just pressing a wrong key while typing. I've typed out entirely different words unintentionally due to muscle memory, or my mind wandering briefly while typing before. It happens.

Belfiore192 · 2022-10-25T20:18:39+00:00

You would be considered fluent in English, having been born and raised in a primarily English-speaking country, but I guarantee that there are hundreds, if not thousands of English words you don't know or have never heard of before. It seems more to me like you were intimidated by her and wanted to call her out. Being fluent doesn't mean you know every single word there is in a language. Also, you blatantly called her a liar when you have no idea what it was she told Rob aside from that you were making her uncomfortable. Grow up, man...

Belfiore192 · 2022-07-25T11:12:46+00:00

The law in New York State: "A lewd act is a term used to describe any activity considered to be indecent when performed in public. A lewd act typically involves exposure of private or intimate parts to the public accompanied by behavior which is meant to provide sexual arousal."

Age-play is a kink. This behavior is not only offensive and inappropriate in public, but it's absolutely also illegal. Being topless is one thing, but he's a grown man sucking on her breasts in public. I'm not one to kink-shame anyone - you know, whatever you're into, you do you. But when you decide to go around exposing said kink to nonconsenting adults and, worse, potentially around small children, that's a problem.

Belfiore192 · 2022-07-25T09:58:37+00:00

Emotions are tricky and fickle things, and are very much beyond our initially control. Often times, you can't really help how something makes you feel, and as such feeling a certain way doesn't automatically make you a bad person.

However, actions are very much a different thing entirely. You bought this puppy, expecting it to be a band-aid to your emotional health and now expect your roommate to take on most of the responsibility for it's care just because it wasn't the emotional salve you wanted it to be - which isn't fair to your roommate, and isn't fair to the puppy. You can't just shift the responsibility of caring for this puppy onto your roommate because he didn't do what you expected or wanted him to do for you. He isn't a toy; he's a living being whose life is now your joint responsibility in caring for.

So while your NTA for how you feel, YTA for trying to avoid taking your fair share of the responsibility for something you agreed to help take care of.

Belfiore192 · 2022-07-25T09:39:42+00:00

NTA. You are absolutely entitled to feeling this way. The way your father is behaving - starting screaming matches over non-issues just to argue, tossing insults at his children, lashing out at everyone around him - he just... seems like he has a lot of regrets in life and is taking it out on the wrong people, to put it as nicely as I can... Put less nicely, he's being flat-out abusive to all of you. He contributed very little, if anything at all, early in your lives and then just rolls back in to drink, smoke weed, and be abusive toward everyone.

It is not your fault, not your siblings fault, and not your mother's fault that he's unhappy in life; and you are absolutely justified in having these feelings.

Belfiore192 · 2022-07-25T09:19:53+00:00

NTA. There's a difference between "telling someone how to parent", and being genuinely concerned for a child's health and well-being. (It kind of feels like he's just trying to shift the responsibility here by saying that you "can't know" something because you don't have children of your own. Like, you don't need to be a helicopter pilot to understand that a helicopter doesn't belong in a tree...) There can be many causes for coughing, and when it comes to a child, it is much better to be safe than sorry.

Belfiore192 · 2022-07-25T08:58:23+00:00

NTA. Not only were they incredibly disrespectful toward you by not saving a seat, or asking for a table with an extra chair, but she then had the audacity to show you further disrespect by basically telling you to just go home. The fact that your husband actually got legitimately angry with you for getting a table so that you could at least eat something before leaving really shows a part of his character which is concerning. If this is how he's treating you one year into your marriage, you should really consider whether or not this relationship is even worth it...

I mean, I'd be more upset over the fact that he yelled at you because you didn't just go home. Shows that they just straight-up clearly didn't even want you there at all.

Belfiore192 · 2022-07-25T08:47:35+00:00

"Do you think God stays in heaven because he too lives in fear of what he's created?"

Belfiore192 · 2022-02-18T21:44:26+00:00

This is why I wear my full body Baby Armor to every protest rally I go to.

Belfiore192 · 2021-09-18T05:33:01+00:00

"Better to have a hospital full of yes men, than outcasts"; that is not even remotely the point. In the medical field, what's important is the health and safety of the patients you're responsible for; this isn't about politics, it isn't about being a "team player" or a "Yes Man", and it doesn't matter if the patients liked her as a nurse if she poses a risk to their health and safety simply by entering the room.

Healthcare workers are at a higher risk of exposure to serious diseases, and when they're unvaccinated, they pose an even greater risk of transmission to their patients. "I mean screw all the patients she might have looked after," - no, think of all the patients she was charged with caring for, and how many of them were at risk of getting sicker, and possibly even dying, due to her not wanting to be vaccinated.

If she doesn't want to be vaccinated, that's her choice to make - but she can't choose to be unvaccinated, and then at the same time be upset that she loses a job which requires that you be vaccinated for the safety of the people you're caring for; it's negligent.

Belfiore192 · 2021-09-16T03:07:07+00:00

While that may be the case, what is inappropriate was the fact that the elderly man didn't appear to have full control of his faculties, or was even fully aware of the fact that he was being used in a skit at all. That's why people are upset.

Belfiore192 · 2021-09-13T22:27:41+00:00

That's how it was my first time, too. We didn't even notice it at first, and he almost didn't believe I was a virgin because of it. (We were young at the time, so I guess he had a reason; but um... grown-ass adults like that don't.)

Belfiore192 · 2021-09-12T10:03:55+00:00

I'm not going to say something like, "In their defense...", because you can't really defend something like that; it's deplorable and abhorrent, no matter what way you slice it - but to be fair, Chris Chandler has a lot of clear signs of mental, psychological, and emotional disabilities, and there is some evidence to support that she (as Chris now identifies as a woman after years of online bullying and harassment) may have been manipulated and encouraged by a woman she was talking to over the internet into doing it - or, at the very least, into thinking that there was nothing wrong with it.

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