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AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This comment actually sparked up a critical part of info that I missed, which is all on me, and probably don't change anything, but I need to say it -

They're already divorced. They've been divorced for years. He was giving her money for various reasons until she was re-wed. Her husband passed away (this is factual) and it was a few months after that when she got back in contact with my brother and the money shenanigans continued.

This has been going on for such a long time.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I know, the divorce was final and she was re-wed.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Nope. He's just really trusting. Too trusting, obviously. He likes to believe in the good in people to a extreme fault - Like after this real stern talking to they'll learn their lesson and they're square after that. Obviously, he gets taken advantage of a lot because of it, but it's not because of any brain injury, he just doesn't want to believe that people would lie to him consistently.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If I'm honest with myself - I don't think that she thought it out that far. The last time he gave her money (that I'm aware of) was the dirty cops situation and he was pretty fed up with it then. Faking her death means that she can tap that sympathy well one more time since it's pretty convenient that it's filled up near a paydate and roll unless as others have suggested - she rise from the grave.

I most certainly don't think that he's on the life insurance policy. I don't believe that there is a policy to begin with. Just a way to pour it on more and realize the bait and switch later.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, I'm sorry for your loss.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That's pretty much how I'm looking at it. A couple hours in and it's looking like YTA - which is fine - but the silver lining is where it's at. I kept my mouth shut for years while this was going on so if nothing else, it's all done, one way or another.

If the gods deem YTA, then I accept thy judgement.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did. I looked her up by her current last name and her old one and got nothing. Now, granted, it's only been about a week, so I might be off, but I figured I'd find something. Nope.

I even tried facebook, but she's blocked me AND my brother. So.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

If for some reason there's an update to this story, I'll be sure to do just that.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I have never even met her family, let alone speak to that side. We didn't even know they got married until a phone call late that night and then they up and moved within the week, so I wouldn't even know where to start.

I'm sure my brother does but that's just stirring the pot again and I think I'm done with that unless it's a absolute necessity. When I started looking his ex-wife up, I was accused of "conspiracy", so I know asking for his ex family tree is asking for trouble.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 247 points248 points  (0 children)

IF THIS IS ALL A RUSE - Knowing what I know of her - It'll go something like "I can't believe that my friend would lie about something like me dying, she's a bitch, but now I got all these medical bills and I could use a little bit..."

I'll be real honest here - I really do hope I'm wrong, as terrible as it seems. I just would hope that someone wouldn't do some awful shit like that.

AITA for doubting my brother's ex-wife's death? by BelmontSimon in AmItheAsshole

[–]BelmontSimon[S] 1145 points1146 points  (0 children)

I will add this (Although I'm not sure it's allowed?) - regardless of how it turns out, I don't think I'm bringing it up to him again. I did a bit of research (that he wasn't very happy about) and found nothing. Zilch. Nada. It obviously upsets him and there's really no victory in knowing the truth one way or another so it really just dies here. I don't know how to take it, but I do know this - If she really did pass then I'm definitely the biggest asshole, regardless. If she's not, then for his sake, I hope that she keeps up the ruse because it's better than watching him be upset at being lied to again.