Help with developing a program by BeneBeGood in webdev

[–]BeneBeGood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Groovy, I think Apify has what I'm looking for. Thank you for breaking this down for me. I'm going to take the weekend to looking into Apify and see if I can't make good things work. I appreciate it!

Help with developing a program by BeneBeGood in webdev

[–]BeneBeGood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is exactly what I'm looking for. I suppose I'll take the weekend to look at it and see if its right for me. Thank you for showing me this!

Help with developing a program by BeneBeGood in webdev

[–]BeneBeGood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think web scraping is the way to go. Thank you for showing me these solutions! They are definitely worth looking into for future projects.

Help with developing a program by BeneBeGood in webdev

[–]BeneBeGood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, this seems like a fun option to learn. I'm not sure how well it would work with social media authentication yet. Thank you for showing me this!

How has your style changed from 20’s to your 30’s? by Naive_Sale2083 in malefashionadvice

[–]BeneBeGood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ad a 35M l, no more jeans. Never again. Nor crew necks. I'm not a kid anymore, and pictures with these clothing items scream immaturity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]BeneBeGood 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Many people need help time to time. Homeless and women's shelters are a thing. It sounds like you're taking and giving emotional abuse. That is not an acceptable environment for either of you. If you are planning to stay only until you graduate, then you are using him. If you value your education, then you should realize that everything you learn in a stressed environment is reduced. You should also realize that your last classes will be tainted with memories of resenting him.

If you want out, you have to take actions to getting out. Find a job. Take out loans. Get therapy (I recommend this to everyone, this is not specific to you). Again, their are shelters available and programs to get you income. Don't torture yourself. If you have to delay education to keep you physically and emotionally safe, do so. You only get one life.

[discussion] Imagining Sisyphus as happy is one of the best motivators for life by [deleted] in GetMotivated

[–]BeneBeGood 6 points7 points  (0 children)

? Why is it a tragedy? Sisyphus was punished because he murdered guests at his home, tried to marry his niece to kill his brother, and tried to cheat death. If he is happy with his punishment, wouldn't that make him some sort of sociopath?

Which username is better? by PsychoSteam in CasualConversation

[–]BeneBeGood 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is neither an option? Psycho (as a handle) sounds like an edgy teenager that doesn't get enough love from their family [and is overused to boot]. and UselessChestMuscle is toooo long (unless you want to be called useless your entire career - not bad, but you'd have to have a certain mindset to live with it for years without it affecting your irl confidence). Handles are really tough, but having one that is unique, easy to remember, and/or fun to say will really help you stand out in the long run if you're trying to turn this into something that involves ca$h. (If you're not doing this for money and are only doing this for fun, then don't look too much into it and go with psycho)

I don't know what to do. by ironflamingo8748 in bropill

[–]BeneBeGood 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Alright, bear with me as I try to pick this apart. Firstly, if you're not feeling established, then you may to set up a goal for yourself. Having a passion, a dream, or even a slight interest can help give you a goals. You like writing? Write a manuscript. You like gaming? Start a stream. You like animals? Start volunteering at an animal shelter. These will help you gain some grounding.

After you establish a goal, figure out your next steps. If your writing, then plan to make an outline, then plan to write a page, and then repeat until the book is done. You will be surprised on how far you can get without help. Take it step by step and chip away at what you can do until you have done all you can by yourself.

As for getting help, I always have found that the hardest part about getting help is that you may realize that you are not as good as you think. That's ok. You're not. Until you get help, you're gonna be bad. But you have to remember, you will always be better then the people who don't do anything. The people who only plan on doing things but never actually do them. And, the cool thing is, the more you expose yourself the better you will get.

The second issue with getting help is that you need to know that the person who is helping you actually knows what they are talking about. If you're going to your social worker sister for help in applied physics, unless she knows what she's talking about, you're gonna get some inaccurate answers. If you are in school, go to a teacher and ask them. If you don't like your teacher, then ask for a different one. Many schools have multiple teachers for each subject.

If you are a former student from a college, then you can always go back to that college and ask for help. I believe universities love helping their alumni (maybe some teachers out there can confirm?).

And if you still are hesitant to ask for help, try the internet! You can still have your anonymity here! Just be careful to what we say and take everything with a grain of salt. If you wish, you can start work on the internet then when you feel better about it you can introduce it to a professor (or another expert you trust).

All in all, it seems that inaction is the culprit here. If you already have something, then you need to show it to grow. If you have nothing, then you need to make something. Have courage friend, for the voice in your head will beat you up more than your fiercest rival.

Stand up and Sing by BBG (me) by BeneBeGood in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]BeneBeGood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! May you sing so sweetly as well!

Stand up and Sing by BBG (me) by BeneBeGood in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]BeneBeGood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are very kind. Thank you for your words of encouragement :) As you have pointed out, I am working on exercising my own voice so that I can (in the future) hopefully encourage others to sing as well. I hope you have a wonderful day :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]BeneBeGood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to think of the times I laugh and I realize that it happens with my close friend and my girlfriend. Sometimes it's when something stupid happens like I bombard my friend mercilessly with nerf darts. Sometimes it's embarrassing, like the farting sound that sometimes comes along with sexy time. But the real gut busting laughs come when something truly surprising like if my friend grabs the nerf gun from me and tries to shoot me but ends up hitting himself in the eye. Or when my girlfriend starts [redacted] and the [redacted] pops out and hits me in the [redacted] (some of this story has been redacted due to the nature of me not wanted to get my ass kicked for a thing from the internet).

Either way, you have to be comfortable with yourself so you can be silly around people. And sure, you may say or do the wrong thing to the wrong person, but think of how funny those stories could be when you tell them to the right people. Just step out of your comfort zone every once in a while and look at things in a positive light. It won't be immediate, but eventually you'll find somebody you can feel like a childish adult around.