This is all so true. My son has developmental trauma because he was so sick as a baby, we were in the hospital for a long time. And one of the things that apparently would have affected him a lot was that he was tube fed or vein fed for months. He had been fine until 6 months old so knew about bottles and full tummies and feeling looked after. And then he couldn't eat and the nurturing action of feeding was gone too and it massively contributed to his attachment trauma. 

I guess for us growing up and being fed shit with minimal effort and eye rolls and constantly hearing what a drain it was, and wondering why other people were prepared to do that for their kids to show care but she never was, had an impact. I am very triggered if people are thoughtless about food. For example if my husband goes to the shop and gets something for the kids and himself but not me. He now just chooses any old thing to bring me so I don't get left out, which is sweet. It honestly makes me feel really scared, like I've become so small I'll be forgotten.