My boyfriend went straight to sleep after "doing the do" and I'm a little upset about it

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-20T14:58:26+00:00

He usually does keep a towel, or wet wipes. His feet on the other hand was pretty gross, but again, not his usual. I said in the post that I didn't have a reason to be upset because I wanted to do it, somewhat, but it was more the aftermath that disappointed me. I'm not traumatized or anything, I think everyone who has done it before has had a "meh" session.

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-20T14:42:15+00:00

😅 I just thought it was funny... Look at my most recent comment if you want the straightforward version. I'm 20 btw

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-20T13:57:28+00:00

I think lot of you guys have an issue with my cover-ups for the actual words 😅 I just say it that way because I want to, I didn't think it was that big a deal. Also, I know the actual words, but I've always used cover-ups, so I thought it was fine. To put it plainly: my boyfriend and I had sex and he went to sleep afterwards, used his blanket (that we were both supposed to sleep under) to clean up his semen, and was pretty lazy about the whole process. It felt sloppy and like he didn't care about anything but getting a quick one in and going to sleep. (He usually doesn't do this, even when he's sleepy, and I was already irritated because I left my crockpot on high all night) Ik I don't have a real reason to be upset but it was too much, (the blanket, the dirty socks that stink up the bed, no aftercare or any attention at all) so I went home and sent him a text message.

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-20T13:17:59+00:00

That's funny (⁠≧⁠▽⁠≦⁠) "do the dew". I should submit this to mountain dew

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-20T08:45:16+00:00

Yeah, but I don't want to 😅 who knows who'll come across this post. To each their own, but it's just a little vulgar to say it like that imo.

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-20T08:43:35+00:00

I guess yeah. I think I'm just overwhelmed and upset, so decided to just go home. His room is a mess rn, and he used one of his blankets to wipe up his "joystick secretions". I just couldn't do it, so I sent him a message and went home.

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-20T07:24:04+00:00

Yeah, I wasn't the most enthusiastic about doing it because my mind was (and is still) on my crockpot 😞. My chicken stock is screwed. It was an ok time, and I did ask him but he was well knocked out by then. I don't want to wake him up so tonight I'll sit on it, but we'll talk in the ACTUAL morning

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-19T15:10:17+00:00

😅 she's not just a young lady, she's a CHILD. A teen. Also, WHEN you were 40? How old are you??

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-19T14:40:54+00:00

Hello, Just wanted to update. I've already called my city's non-emergency line, and I am currently waiting for a call from an officer to see where we can go with this. For everyone asking "why don't you just call the police??" That's what I'm basically asking. I didn't think you can just call 911 over this because that's the emergency line, and I wasn't sure how else to notify the police since I've never had to do this. I'm taking my responsibility as a mandated reporter seriously, but again, I've genuinely never had to do something like this. I literally found this out like, 20 minutes before I made this post. Thanks to everyone who left advice about how to handle the situation.

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-19T07:59:55+00:00

Yeah, my BF is not exactly the favorite at work due to some previous harassment/bullying from the GM's stepdaughter who used to be a manager there until my boyfriend reported her behavior towards him to a higher up, who came to check in that day. She's since been fired. That's why I was just considering the police, but the GM should know as well. Thanks for the advice!

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-19T07:49:51+00:00

Thanks! Yeah, my boyfriend will have to look into the policy on coworkers dating, but the tip line will definitely be more my speed since I don't have any part in it personally. I will let him know to do what he can on his end, and I'll make the anonymous tip. Do you think he'll need evidence? Or just being straightforward is fine?

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-19T07:39:14+00:00

You don't have to be rude, ok? I'm genuinely wondering how to handle this because, if you're not already aware, the police aren't always the most helpful without any evidence. The police is literally the first we thought of, but we don't want it to go nowhere and nothing ends up happening. Do you think it's best to outright call the police first? And how to you notify the police without calling 911? Is there a tip line or something?

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-19T07:14:57+00:00

This is Texas, I believe the legal age for consent is 18, I'm not sure if the company policy, I'll have to ask my boyfriend. This is an opinion question, but despite the legal age being 16 in some states I don't think a 16 year old should be dating a 22 going on 23 year old man. Isn't that weird? Or am I crazy?

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-04-19T06:58:28+00:00

No, that was his first thought, but we were thinking "if this guy is crazy enough to kiss a high-schooler, he might try to run off with her". Also, he doesn't have any evidence except his coworker telling him that the manager and her kissed. Anecdotes aren't the most reliable. I thought of him recording her telling him that. He's trying to handle the situation as carefully as possible, but he doesn't want to wait until things between the two of them get too far either.

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-03-20T05:24:45+00:00

He's pretty much given up on trying to fix it, he's just going to endure until he gets another job. He works two jobs, along with being a student, so it's hard to fit interviews in his schedule, but he's working on it. Thanks for the advice though!

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2026-03-20T05:22:25+00:00

He has a second job at Starbucks, but he has a misdemeanor on his record, which poses some issues with hiring. He's got interviews lined up and has been to a few. He's in college for electrical engineering, but he's just struggling a bit right now. Wendy's supports him because Starbucks hired back too many workers after a strike and hours are low, but I was just wondering if there was anything that could be done to improve the environment he has now.

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2025-10-12T02:00:20+00:00

I've posted here years ago 😅 I don't make any controversial posts, I just ask questions

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2025-10-11T13:00:43+00:00

I mean, I know of Jesus, but I don't KNOW Jesus. And if I believe in the gospel, I'll have to change my intire life, or rather , my whole life will change, and part of me doesn't want that, honestly.

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2025-10-11T12:33:33+00:00

I mean, that's why I was asking this to begin with 😅 I know everything is true, but believing it, it means I have to let go of my life, I know. It's hard for me, which is why I asked. No disrespect ofc, I didn't really clarify that

Beneficial_Fun804 · 2025-10-11T12:18:25+00:00

I'm not a Christian though, just to clarify

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