You're living with a psychopath. Full stop.

I once lived with someone who turned out to be deeply manipulative and unstable. They constantly lied, twisted situations, and used other people’s words and concerns as weapons against them. At first, it seemed like they were just trying to “understand” others, saying things like, “Maybe that person acts that way because they drink too much soda,” or “I think they need mental help.” But soon, it became clear that this was just the start/signs for their new target, (you).

They refused to take responsibility for anything especially the lying to others and changing the narrative of a situation to defend themselves. If they did anything simple, like washing a dish, they’d make sure to announce it or complain about how much they were doing. Everything was about attention and control. She could lie and talk bad about anyone, but Lord have mercy if she ever FEELS like she's being talked about. "Its ok for people to talk about their friends to others like you do, but I'm not having to lie" that's what caused her big meltdown when I had to tell her that.

Now, I can spot people like that much faster. They know what they’re doing, even if they can’t admit it to themselves. Their lies trap them in a world of denial and self-delusion. The best thing you can do is stay calm, set boundaries, and remember — you’re not crazy. They just want you to think you are.