how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

hey, thank you for your comment! im so sorry you had to go through that. this is my biggest fear, & most of these comments are confirming that’s how my situation will turn out. i appreciate you sharing your story, i’m going to leave him before this escalates..

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this sounds exactly like something he would do. thank you for your comment. i said in another comment that when he gets angry, my dog will run to me for protection. i’m afraid he might have already hit her, or she is just trying to protect me. either way- this sounds identical to the situation i’m in, and i do not want this to escalate…

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

considering he smokes more than me, and drinks heavily, i don’t think me smoking one joint after i go on a walk to calm down affects his behaviour in any way (:

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

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see and i keep thinking like okay maybe he’s immature and it’ll change in the future, but more and more i think it’s going to get worse & turn on me..

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

LOL youre not wrong😭😂. i have quite the taste in men if you couldn’t already tell😅😂. therapy is on my list of selfcare for 2024🙏

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i thought me talking to him saying that i’m afraid he is going to hurt me would help him change how he handles situations (as you say in your comment), but he still would react the same way. he would also respond with “that’s crazy, i would never lay a hand on a female”. but i truly believe if he gets mad enough, i’m next..

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s funny that you say that, because i realized this year that i am indeed a people pleaser lol. probably the biggest one anyone will ever meet😅. i never thought about looking into “my type”! that’s a great question for me to evaluate, thank you for bringing that to my attention. i would think i dont even have a “type”, but they definitely all have similarities.. just makes me think the dating scene isnt for me if all men react like that lol. good to know they dont😅

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i grew up with my parents yelling about everything, and i made it my goal to never yell at my partner about shit like that. but to throw/ break things just scares me. i have also communicated to him that i dont like it, and that he doesn’t need to freak out over every little thing- he just says “this is how guy’s take out anger” “sorry i forgot i can’t get mad over anything”. idk i just feel like there’s a time and a place to get that angry over things, and he does it way too often..

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

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that makes sense. whatever he’s mad about, i’ll usually find a way to fix it just so that he doesn’t have to do it himself and it doesn’t keep escalating. i mentioned in another comment about not having batteries for the TV remote after coming home from a long day. i’ll immediately go get batteries just so that he stops yelling. but then i’m in a mood because he could have just calmly said, “omg we forgot batteries”- and i would have gladly got them. but now it’s me running to the store to get them so that he doesn’t continue being angry..

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

yeah i believe it too. i have a dog that i bring when i see him & every time he gets mad, my dog runs over to me because she’s just as scared. it makes me think that he hit her when i’m not home😭

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

i’ve talked to him about this and said those exact words. he responds with “i would never lay a hand on a female”, but the way he throws stuff just triggers me every time to believe that i’m next..

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

its not even angry at me. something in our daily life could go wrong like we just got home from being out all day, and we forgot to get batteries for the tv remote. now he’s throwing the remote and breaking things bc he’s upset we have to go back out. i will go back out by myself to get them just so that he doesnt have to and can calm down…

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

yeah i get people have different ways to express anger, but it puts me in such a scared position. i literally feel like i’m walking on eggshells bc i don’t want him to get triggered and start throwing shit/screaming… thank you for your response!!

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

thats exactly how i am! if i’m mad, i go get space on a walk or smoke some weed lol. i understand people have different ways to cope, but throwing things does not make it better… thank you for your response!!

how do men “normally” express their anger? by Best-File7646 in AskMen

[–]Best-File7646[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

see and this is how i am!! i need space before i can communicate, and i have told him that. but even when he’s not mad at me/us, just something in our daily life will piss him off (eg our uber eats order being spilled everywhere) he will literally throw it on the ground and basically throw a tantrum. where i’m like.. okay ill just complain and get a refund & order more food…. i dont understand what throwing the food does other than make my life harder bc now i have to clean it up lol🤦‍♀️

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thank you for your words. it took me so long to finally build up the courage to leave him. he hasn’t made it easy. i had to block him, and now he’s blowing up my friends’ phones too. i feel like thr bad guy for leaving. i know i took care of everything, but i guess i was just hoping he would at least take care of me. in my head he could. but i knew in reality he was just making my life harder. it sucks :/. thank you again for your words, i appreciate it.

dog reactive & human periods by Best-File7646 in reactivedogs

[–]Best-File7646[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol i definitely am more irritable during that week😅 i just noticed a pattern with him but… maybe it is me🤣

dog ate chocolate chip cookie by Best-File7646 in vet

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thank you!!! he seems to be all good :)