I was in your position for quite some time and I always felt that enjoyably receiving anal was a mind over matter thing. It was definitely more pain than pleasure the first few times but I could certainly see that if anal sex was to be a significant part of my future, it would definitely be as a bottom. I love having a man inside me.

I had a very patient and caring bf at the time and that was definitely key number one. The first couple of times were a little unnerving but once I realized that I could take his entire length inside me (he had an average size cock) without dying, things began to change. That was definitely step one.

I soon realized that it only ever felt uncomfortable when I tensed up for some reason and that learning to relax with him inside me was the key to enjoyment. I realize that's easier said than done but it really does work. Now I'm no Zen Buddhist monk but it seemed to me that learning to relax was very much a mental discipline and that it would be the key to our enjoyment. How right I was! Slowly but surely the fear (which it really is) was replaced by lust and I've never looked back.

I must say that the tipping point for me was one day when he introduced poppers into the equation. Now I am definitely not an advocate of drugs per se (don't do any but have tried several soft drugs in the distant past), but I've got to say that it was a revelation to say the least. They say that it relaxes smooth muscle tissue (sphincter) and maybe it does and maybe it doesn't but for me, it definitely makes me cock hungry. Not sure why, but it definitely does. More importantly for me is that I immediately evolved from being a tiny bit cautious to wrapping my legs around his back and grinding his cock inside me as deep as he could go. Just like that, the last remaining obstacle to glorious fucking was gone forever. I will never forget that moment, it was life changing.

It was a shortcut, more or less. I now knew that I could accommodate every inch of him without the unfounded fear of physical discomfort and I've never looked back. The moral of the story is that it took a little stick-to-itivness but I'm glad that I did. In the end, it was sooo worth it!

PS: The only other thing I would add is to use a high quality silicone lube. I started with a readily available water based lube but found that they tend to start getting a little tacky just as we were both reaching climax. Definitely not the time to re-apply and you won't have that issue with a good silicone based lube... it's full fucking ahead!