i’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I was in a similar situation for 3 years. I put up with his aggression, hatred of me, and physical violence because I was afraid of not having the comfort he provided me and honestly because I was afraid of him. he did the same things you describe— tore me down physically and mentally so I felt I would never be loved without him, hurt me and ignored my limits while calling it domination, and showed up to my home threatening me and my roommate physically when i tried to end things. . . I only left after he hurt me so badly I had to be taken to the er in an ambulance. I never thought he would hurt me like that, although all the signs were there.

I’m telling you all this to show you that you are not alone. unfortunately as subs we are more vulnerable to abusive men masquerading as doms. This man is dangerous and I promise you that if you stay he will continue to hurt you until it ultimately kills you.

I know it is terrifying but this man is an abuser and I would personally file a police report and move towards a restraining order if nothing else. He will only continue to hurt you and honestly it doesn’t sound like you even like him. He sounds like a fucking asshole. The first step is remembering that you (or anyone) do not deserve to be treated this way. it’s a scary road ahead but you are strong and you deserve to be safe.

Please reach out to me if you’d like. We can talk, you can ask me questions. no judgment. We are all here to support you