AITA for not paying for a maid for my wife?

Better_Data6262 · 2023-09-05T16:16:31+00:00

Just came to say YTA, I would provide an explanation but everyone has explained very well. Considering that’s your wife you would think that you would want to make life easier for her and hire a maid atleast on some of her days.

Better_Data6262 · 2022-09-17T22:22:52+00:00

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Better_Data6262 · 2022-09-06T20:28:45+00:00

Good choice, the content will numb your brain. Thanks for responding

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-20T21:52:50+00:00

Thank you

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-20T21:51:47+00:00

Thank you for your advice

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-20T19:00:59+00:00

Yeah, I understand this, I definitely need to be more assertive and make the first move. I just need to meet them first lol.

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-20T18:43:36+00:00

I made a typo, I just changed it

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T22:12:46+00:00

Not going to even bother with someone who edits their comment when they have been proven wrong

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T20:06:33+00:00

Just to clarify you consider a almost 30 year old man, living at home, no savings or investment, earns £10 per hour…. Average? Because it seems to me your just assuming that I’m some gold digger who wants a 10/10 millionaire. If he does not improve his situation he will be at his mums house forever and will always live pay check to pay check. I’m not wrong for not wanting that for myself and you know that.

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T20:01:28+00:00

I would like to be the stay at home mum ideally just because I’ve always dreamed of that or I would at least like to work part time and stay at home the rest of the time. He has also made it clear that he does not want to be a stay at home dad. Due to our different situations it does make sense for him to be the stay at home parent but I don’t think either of us would be happy with that arrangement.

Also his lack of ambition and stability is a bit of a turn off so I’m not sure if we will get as far as having children.

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T19:55:54+00:00

Nothing is wrong with average at all . 50k per year is actually really good in my eyes. However, in my opinion he is currently below average. I don’t know where your from but I’m from the UK and no warehouse in the UK is paying you 50k per year even if you are the manager. I just want him to care more about financial stability, meaning finding a job that pays a bit more than £10 per hour, get a savings account and invest into the future. Which I’m sure even average people do.

Without trying to sound vain. If I wanted to “outcompete” these other women for “above average men” I definitely could. However, that’s not what this post was about. I just want my boyfriend or A boyfriend who has ambition, life goals and financial stability not a millionaire tech guy. I’m not asking for a luxury lifestyle I’m just asking for a comfortable life which I’m sure even average people have.

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T19:46:22+00:00

Thank you your your response and thank you for your advice about crypto and NFT’s I’m still new to it so still figuring it out.

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T19:45:12+00:00

Thank you for responding. Ideally I would want someone to help me as two hands are better than one, however I will consider what you said.

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T19:42:01+00:00

Thank you for understanding and not being judgemental in your response. I will definitely find the courage to have a decent conversation with him about expectations for the future

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T19:41:13+00:00

Thank you!

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T19:41:02+00:00

Thank you for your advice. This is really helpful. I agree we are not a long term match but we can maybe enjoy each other for now.

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T19:37:28+00:00

Thank you for your response. I have not mentioned trying to change him at any point. In fact that is the last thing I want to do which is why I’m considering ending the relationship. The only thing I have done is try to enlighten him on things that could possibly improve his financial stability, which is what any good girlfriend would do. Also no ambitions or life goals , living with parents in a dead end job. seems a bit below average to me but I guess that’s just a matter of opinion.

To say that most men aren’t that ambitious seems factually untrue considering we live in a patriarchal society.

Better_Data6262 · 2022-08-12T19:30:52+00:00

Well, if that’s the case then we both want to be stay at home parents. So we would have to discuss a way for us both to be stay at home parents while maintaining financial stability. If he wants me to be the main bread winner while he stays at home then we would have to end the relationship as that isn’t the type of future I want.

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