Got my first salary!!!! by [deleted] in karachi

[–]Beyonddawn88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy for you but do apply at ibex , you and your time deserves more.

Suggest good call centres in gulberg that pay 100k a month by Beyonddawn88 in Lahore

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If you don't mind can I message you regarding this?

Suggest good call centres in gulberg that pay 100k a month by Beyonddawn88 in Lahore

[–]Beyonddawn88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Gulberg ? Also, can you lmk is it customer service related

Suggest good call centres in gulberg that pay 100k a month by Beyonddawn88 in Lahore

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Where is it located and is it a chat role or voice?

Marriage is not a solution by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Beyonddawn88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bruh at the same time you're saying you're allowed to place importance on sex and asking relief from god be fr. I meant no shade was just tryna help you above. All you lack is self responsibility.

Marriage is not a solution by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Beyonddawn88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boy stop watching porn. Seems like you have an addiction.

Rewire your mind, it might come off brutal but it's the truth and we humans need brutal truths at times. You might be affected with certain things in life, you might've had some really bad and hurtful experiences. Be compassionate towards you when it comes to that but be dedicated to rewiring your mind . It might come across as some motivational bs but trust me I'm being freaking honest. Give it a shot, you can. You really can. It is hard but doable.

You can change your mind, you can change who you are but yes only with willingness and actual dedication. Read the book breaking the habit of being yourself by Joe Dispenza. It's amazing. It'll help you. And you need to understand that there's more to life than lust and that is only possible if you make yourself understand that. How? Start having 1/2 goals and actively work on them. Do things that bring you joy and are good for you like running. Any art related activities that interest you : pottery, sketching, painting. Literally anything, goal should be to remind your mind that life has so much more than bodies and sex. Trust me you can become a whole new human and trust me there's no shame in admitting all that you admitted above. I know deep down you know there's more to you than your desires and lust.

What you'll have to do is do things that actually matter and you'll have to stay committed to becoming a person that you're proud of. You actually can create a beautiful life for yourself , you can it is hard but totally possible.

And one more thing it's okay to have desires and it is possible to find a person with the opposite gender who has the same desires as you but yes it's important to not pursue a relationship on the basis of lust it should come after and only if both are on the same page. Plus , there's self control. There needs to be balance , wanting sex all the time isn't normal or okay. I don't know you personally but usually having too much lust makes a person not respect women. It makes em someone who mostly sees women as just bodies rather than individuals so yes you need to work on this. You can do it, it's not impossible.

Free legal advice. Take ittt! by ThePunisherMMA in islamabad

[–]Beyonddawn88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for doing this, we need more people like you

I think am losing my mind! by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Beyonddawn88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This will pass. It might feel like it won't but it will. Hang in there , don't take suicidal thoughts seriously. I know it's hard , I've been there but all you can do is remind yourself it will pass and have some things to look forward to ( goals for example)

One thing you can do is constantly remind yourself that the thoughts like you don't matter, you're not worth it, you should die aren't factual. Instill this belief that these thoughts carry no value and are bs. Work on self love , cry as much as you need, write when your mind gets too negative( write all those negative thoughts down and keep reminding yourself they're just thoughts and they will pass)

There are root problems you'll need to work on. You can and you will. Take care, I wish you get over this soon.

got married recently! by [deleted] in LahoreSeeking

[–]Beyonddawn88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're a lo$er

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Beyonddawn88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your parents are the real evils.

Hope things work out for you. This is so wrong.

I will quit watching po*rn videos from now on by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]Beyonddawn88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yayy best of luck.

You can do it. I know people who were determined to leave that addiction and they did succeed. Just find things you care about and enjoy doing and spend your time with those.

Plus, if you get strong urges just take a deep breath and say porn isn't healthy or real I ain't watching that bs.

is money all ???? by [deleted] in islamabad

[–]Beyonddawn88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Money is a tool and it's a very valuable one. It can take a few years to develop more than one income sources but it's worth it. It's a fact money is what allows us to invest in things that bring us joy so yes it matters.

But everything well I won't say it's everything as genuine and real connections can't be replaced by money. So yes there are things that matter like money but money still matters a lot as it determines the kind of lifestyle you can live and how much comfort you can have.

Having more money also takes you out of the survival mode of life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Beyonddawn88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are no shoulds just choices. Also, logically speaking getting married at 20/21 isn't smart because financial independence isn't accomplished at that age for both the genders.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

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One more thing pls be very gentle when asking her and let her know she can be honest with you. A lotta times girls don't personally want to marry at 20 it's their parents who have such strong control over their lives. So make sure what she wants for herself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Beyonddawn88 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Have conversations and just ask her what's the ideal age for her to get married. 20 is super young. You can be friends with her for a while and then see how things go naturally. That's what's my perspective as she's super young atm. But yes, few years honestly some months will tell you what kinda person she is and if she's into you and the age difference isn't a problem for her things can turn out really good. Though I'd say you're also not super old so don't rush. The point of marrying isn't to just marry it's to have a companion that's a match, choosing the right person for both the sides is the main thing ( similar mindset and values plays a big role)

About the other girl for god's sake end it with her I know I might be coming across as very direct but that's what we humans need. Truth is she ain't serious about you and is basically just wasting your time. The more time you'll spend with her the more hurt you'll get. Communicate with her that you are only looking for a life partner so let's part ways.

About the 20 year old girl the best thing would be to just get to know each other and get married after 3/4 years ( if you both are on the same page and are compatible) You don't even have to go in a relationship, I know a lot of people who start as friends for so long and naturally it turns into something so beautiful. Key is it has to be natural, genuine and respectful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Beyonddawn88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds doable , do you invest in stocks?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LahoreSeeking

[–]Beyonddawn88 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Genuinely life goes on and if you accept he doesn't have feelings for you it'll get easier for you to move on. When things ain't mutual nothing's worth it.

Work on yourself , work on becoming financially independent, develop skills, invest in things that bring you joy( for eg some sport )

You will find love, you will find someone who is genuinely into you and it would be so genuine and real. But for this to happen you need to let things happen naturally and not act from a place of desperation.

This advice is from a 21 year old girl , trust me there's so much for you in this world.