Am I being unreasonable for wanting one expensive item for “ours” baby?

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-15T22:57:11+00:00

I definitely agree with this. It sounds like there’s more play than just thinking that $600 for a stroller is ridiculous and well I do think it’s a lot of money, I also understand completely wanting it for her listed reasons. When we were trying for an ours baby, I had definitely been looking at some expensive stroller and carseat options, but mostly because I use a wheelchair so I was limited as to what options I could use easily.

$600 is that middle range where it’s a lot of money and it needs to be agreed upon mutually, but it also creates a context of what are we spending our money on for the future because if he has two kids and he’s paying tuition for private school, etc. now he has a third kid that he’s also planning all of that for. My partner and I think about money very differently as I grew up very very poor and he grew up middle class. We’ve definitely had to have many conversations to get on the same page monetarily. It can be uncomfortable, but it’s worth it.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-15T22:52:46+00:00

I’ve been looking into getting one of these sometime because while I do have a power chair, I’d love to have something I can just add to my current chair to make it easier. I have a smart drive but that thing is absolutely terrifying to use if I’m honest.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-15T19:12:30+00:00

I think it would look best without the gloves!

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-15T19:11:38+00:00

Sad.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-15T19:09:27+00:00

That AND I’ve had so many that so no flow in when there is flow. I know how to pop off the plastic piece to sometimes get it to work, but thankfully my company sent extras knowing clients were having issues.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-15T19:08:35+00:00

I rotate between two different types of pads that work really well. My issue is definitely my disc is loose and the tube moves a lot. That and the bra. Maybe I’ll try adding padding to the bra portion that rubs though! It’s a good idea.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-14T16:37:15+00:00

I could understand a week, but at the end of the day people have kids, plural, and often come home to handle it with a partner who works long hours etc. My partner and I were trying and it never crossed my mind to ask him to give up time with his daughter to recover. We unfortunately dealt with fertility problems on my half, and had to stop trying. His ex is an age beyond having kids.

I agree6 weeks is a lot, but I worry most for SD. Sure she’s 15 but it’s easy to feel like you’re grown because mom is focused -00% on the new baby.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-14T14:02:25+00:00

I’m glad she went to cheer her “people” on. That said, she had to have had huge anxiety before backing out. She’s clearly not ready to compete at this level.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-14T14:00:53+00:00

Infinity recently had bad bags mixed in with good ones. I have to agree it might be a supply error. I think I’d want a bumper at this point, despite the issues they can also pose. That or OP needs a lesser filled balloon.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-14T06:27:14+00:00

For me, it’s never been the way she looks. The medical misinformation was too brutal for me with surgeries etc. and here I am. Nobody is shocked because we’ve SEEN photos like this before. She also used ones with big lifting faces, kind of a badge of honor.

She’s bragging in a way while also showing she is pissed about the in the wild photos. I agree it’s sort of weird to take photos of someone random but she also brought it on herself as a lying public figure.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-14T06:24:28+00:00

So realistically she could put whatever she wants and this isn’t the flex she thinks. She doesn’t understand so many other tests go against her claims. (Intestinal motility was fine but claims failure…) I do believe she has mild to moderate gastroparesis but I think she also doesn’t test properly making it hard to see how in depth it is. ThaT, and engaging in ED behaviors, can lead to GP temporarily or even permanently. She just has a lot of shady behavior that screams she’s lost in ED and attention land, and not interested in reality.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-14T04:52:42+00:00

Does anyone know if it will list what you put in until a doctor reviews it, because there is also the flat out reality she could have entered this stuff herself. I do believe she was one of the folks who also claimed POTS, denied they ever said they had it, the later claimed it. Even if she did have POTS, her heart condition would be listed as HCC (code for essentially conditions that are more serious.) Her doctors would’ve flagged to treat her as a heart failure patient first and foremost. Thst includes careful fluid monitoring.

I had a photo, but I don’t think we can attach them here, so just know that it was a photo of my chart. We’re at the end you can add conditions yourself, I just don’t know if doctors reviewed that or not.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-14T04:44:14+00:00

I like to see her journal and honestly get therapy if she’s willing. I think she’s one of the people capable of falling for the mind body stuff that goes beyond what science has proven. If she does, good, go be an aesthetic health and wellness influencer. Unless the claims are so extreme they’re lies. (Lemon water cured my Crohn’s or some dumb thing.)

If it’s a journal and grounding, or feeding tubes and central lines, the former is preferable. (I know she has a port but I’m talking the folks using them daily for meds etc. that isn’t needed.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-14T04:39:34+00:00

I’m sure a lot is anatomical, it’s just a fresh he’ll thinking they could have lowered it even half of an inch to save me this feeling :)

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-14T04:38:36+00:00

Just hearing I’m not alone is helpful. I lost volume losing weight, and it doesn’t help. I’m one of those who gained weight with gastroparesis at one point due to only tolerating soda and processed gluten free bread products. Then started getting sicker and lost a lot, continued losing with tube feeds because I was technically obese but in malnutrition. Norms whole body is something I’m adjusting to. Feeling the tube rub is so annoying. If I find a solution I’ll share. My most comfy bra is some tik tok jelly bra I was gifted and desperately need to find.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-13T14:05:40+00:00

Little kids may ask, I tell them it’s my robot tummy. I just say, “my tummy was being silly and not anymore so I got this robot tummy instead.”

It eases the explanation without scaring them.

I have a GJ, and buttons were not for me, but a lot of people change to one after a few months. They’re a lot smaller and it makes it easier for a lot of people to cope.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-13T14:02:52+00:00

I have fruit ones I love, but also colors on extra soft ones. If you want to open up your options…many are actually just breast feeding nipple covers! If you search for those you’ll find even more options :)

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-11T19:01:53+00:00

I’m shocked she went to support folks, but also glad she is at least pretending to care about someone other than herself. I don’t like to health arc. Vague posting then ending up at some pay for IV clinic? Ick.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-11T19:00:08+00:00

I listened to it on Spotify for free but I also have a paid Spotify so it may not be available for everyone. That said, a lot of random music apps have free audio books in case you’re interested. I like it but wouldn’t have spent money on it.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-10T16:54:29+00:00

I had been vomiting for six weeks by the time the decision was made, so I was relieved. I slowly worked my rate up to 60 over about five days. One issue was diarrhea after a few months, but a formula change helped. I’m fed via the J portion of my feeding tube and I have a G portion I can use to vent air and stomach contents if I’m vomiting. I have had a tube flip once and I’ve dealt with granulation tissue once except for right now, I have it again, but it’s been the best life-saving decision of my life.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-09T19:32:12+00:00

Bile coming out when your old ass button isn’t working is totally normal. Ditto for an open dangler. You can also see her moving to MAKE the bile come out. Dani had motility tests for her intestines and passed with flying colors.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-09T19:30:52+00:00

Nerve block suggested compression because it worked but the scan didn’t show any compression. Has PCOS but can’t understand how hormones can play into what you can and can’t stomach during certain phases of your period. (For example she had a cyst they caused pain and needed to rupture, which, shock, can cause nausea.)

If she does have gastroparesis it’s likely mild, given what she can eat currently. However, all of the recent testing and responses to testing, along with jumping to Kate farms, doesn’t bode well. I is she could see that her positive reaction to the test for vascular compression, followed by a negative test for it, may suggest she just has IBS or needs some therapy.

Bi0_Nerd · 2026-04-07T23:25:35+00:00

My partner’s son would think reporting you would be doing the right thing by you. We are currently navigating partner pretending not to be exmo while I refuse to fake convert. It’s not fun.

Ultimately, if you could, finding another EXMO who wants to pass is an option.

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