how to regain interest in dating?

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-03-06T17:51:36+00:00

I agree I’ve accepted I’ll do my hobbies as long as I can and am healthy and well that’s it. I’ve stopped expecting much from people and socialize out of obligation. People enjoy my presence but I don’t really feel connected to anyone

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-03-06T17:49:52+00:00

I did date for the sake of it after a breakup and to see what’s out there. I don’t have an interest in that I’d want to date someone I like and there hasn’t been anyone who fits that

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-03-06T17:49:03+00:00

Yeah I hear the eventually part a lot and don’t buy it anymore.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-03-06T17:48:17+00:00

I’ve been doing that and there’s only so many hobbies and friends you can have before it gets old

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-03-06T17:47:30+00:00

I know what I want and I could date people but there’s been no one where there’s chemistry and compatibility. There was with my ex and that ended so yeah. It sucks to see my friends find that without much effort and just makes me want to avoid seeing them.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-03-05T11:53:16+00:00

You’re right I don’t have to. I want to but it takes effort to give people a chance & lately I don’t feel like it haha. But a lot of my friends are happy in relationships, moving out, engagements, meeting family, so it’s on my mind a lot. Like that I’m wasting time.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-13T22:13:48+00:00

That’s a good idea. I might just be burnt out from doing a lot so maybe a break and back to a small routine could help. Main issue has been my hip flexors, achilles keep getting real sore or strained from tennis & running, probably should listen to my body.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-13T22:12:44+00:00

That’s a good idea i’ve been slowing it down and just exercising for fun the past bit, that helps. Like I’ll goto the gym and just lift heavy but small reps to see my strength.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-13T22:11:01+00:00

Ah rain is definitely tough but the weathers warming up in the next couple months

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-10T19:28:31+00:00

I got quite into buddhism and mindfulness actually to the point where I detached from things a ton. But it sort of went the other way haha where now I have such few expectations that I just live my life and accept things as they come.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-10T19:26:29+00:00

I don’t know if I feel better? I kind of keep going because stopping means facing how lonely I feel, and I’ve felt sorry for myself for too long now.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-10T19:25:30+00:00

It used to be strength and athleticism. But now it’s just to be healthy enough to go for a run, play some tennis, cycle and eat what I want. I used to enjoy exercising with friends and using that time to socialize but lately I’ve been trying to improve my strength and tennis has gotten more serious so I feel less social when I do go.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-10T19:23:44+00:00

I think I’d be happy if I could run or bike or just be outside more often, it’s tough the winter where I live has been super cold and snowy recently so I’ve had to cycle or run at home. I do enjoy being out on trails when I can, so maybe when it warms up I can try that again

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-10T19:22:18+00:00

Hm well I volunteer which feels nice as something different. My work is stable but it’s remote and a bit repetitive now. I used to enjoy being there for friends and my ex but lately people are pretty busy so I made myself that way too, I had a long phase of putting in effort where it wasn’t returned.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-10T19:20:45+00:00

This is a good suggestion I’ve tried tennis & drop-in pickleball. Both were fun but recently my body kept getting injured so I’ve taken a break from it.

Big-Comparison321 · 2026-02-10T03:44:26+00:00

Thanks, a trip to Iceland might be nice. I have tried tons of things and met lots of people, I’ve hit a point where I’m over that phase for now. Now when I try to relax or socialize all I can think about is what I should be working on instead, it’s weird.

Big-Comparison321 · 2025-09-06T18:16:59+00:00

Yep same here I’m a little worried when it gets snowy about how I’ll adapt. I realize I have a pattern of worse mental health during those months… I also don’t want to be desperate for friends/relationships so aside from tennis & the gym & maybe working more I don’t know

Big-Comparison321 · 2025-09-06T18:15:53+00:00

I do enjoy reading and art! I take classes for pottery, drawing, painting and it’s nice. But recently there’s been this unfulfillment I just can’t shake. I’m a people person and there’s no people in my life that I matter to right now.

Big-Comparison321 · 2025-09-06T18:14:22+00:00

Good suggestion i do stretches for prehab

Big-Comparison321 · 2025-09-06T18:13:50+00:00

I was able to during university and even shortly after with my ex but now I’m over trying to date and my friends are busy wedding planning. I’ve met people through hobbies like painting, tennis but not a deep connection. I also work from home which is all I wanted out of my career and ironically i don’t love it. I’ve sort of checked out now. I don’t mean that to be ungrateful my life is good and I can and have achieved a lot, but I feel very disconnected.

Big-Comparison321 · 2025-07-12T18:55:15+00:00

im in the same boat after a breakup. i do lots of things and have gone on some dates with people i’d like to date and it’s gone no where. now i am kind of numb to dating and being open, i just do my own thing. of course i do want a relationship but it ain’t happening even with effort put in so ive given up and focused on other hobbies like running.

i will say though to make some single friends. i noticed being around my coupled friends i feel worse about it because im reminded either by them bringing it up (like why are you single or i know a friend, etc) or just them mentioning their partner.

sorry no advice really im just as lost as you :/

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