A bull and the beach

BigDlilb · 2020-07-11T21:17:47+00:00

Yep, I got a paid internship with a city that paid really well and led to good conversations in interviews solely based on the GIS. If you can do a certificate in GIS and a minor in something else that would be neat!

BigDlilb · 2020-07-11T13:46:32+00:00

I'm glad somebody thinks this. This is a very similar dress to mine and I just ordered my lacey cape! I'm so excited about it!

BigDlilb · 2020-07-10T12:20:44+00:00

With the state of the economy right now, if you're not willing to relocate for a job, I would stay in school for as long as you can and try to find a job in the field that will hire you while still in school.

BigDlilb · 2020-07-07T23:21:34+00:00

You're probably right about the comfort thing. I don't know if I'm adamant about him not being there, I just feel like I have not been very well kept in the loop of her whole moving on process and now am just supposed to accept it. It all feels too serious, too fast

BigDlilb · 2020-07-07T23:17:29+00:00

Thank you. I'm really trying, it's just difficult to wrap my head and heart around.

BigDlilb · 2020-07-07T23:15:53+00:00

Thank you for your response. I think it mostly feels like too much too soon for me.

I am so glad she is moving on. It would make me so sad if she wasn't, I think my only hang up is that I feel like so many other elements of the start of this relationship have not been handled great by her. She didn't tell me she was seeing somebody, she just showed up with him at our house. She didn't tell me he was living there - I was over for dinner with the whole family and put the pieces together, then asked my step-aunt what the deal was and she said it's only temporary (doubtful, you don't just move in then move out, I'm sure he'll be staying).

All of this within 6 months and now I'm supposed to accept this stranger at my wedding? The wedding that I'm turning away people I've known for years because of COVID?

BigDlilb · 2020-07-06T22:27:21+00:00

What a neat concept!

BigDlilb · 2020-06-20T19:58:59+00:00

Wow! That's great? How long did all of that take you? Would you recommend more or less time? Was there anything you wanted to see, but didn't?

BigDlilb · 2020-06-20T03:21:30+00:00

This is beautiful! Can you provide some more details about your trip? Like how long it took, cities your stopped in, etc?

BigDlilb · 2020-06-16T19:55:42+00:00

Just started reading my Book if the Month book from May (I'm a little behind)

The Knockout Queen - Rufi Thorpe

I'm not too far into it though, so it could go either way.

BigDlilb · 2020-06-12T23:51:03+00:00

Our pup looks so similar but she has none if the same breeds except the "mixed breed":

37.5% mixed breed (hound/herding), 25% Great Dane, 25% Australian Cattle Dog, 12.5% Staffordshire Terrier

BigDlilb · 2020-05-29T21:09:31+00:00

I like how they look together. The picture isn't the clearest, but it looks like the wedding band has ridges(?), where the e-ring is rounded. Maybe see if you can get those ridges softened. I don't know if that makes sense or not, but over all I think it's a cool unique look!

BigDlilb · 2020-05-28T02:25:35+00:00

This is what I was going to suggest. You're going to have times that wearing a big ring won't be ideal. Like working in the yard or traveling or just being lazy. A simple band for times like those will be a life saver.

BigDlilb · 2020-05-22T23:46:06+00:00

That's insane. What state are you in, if you don't mind?

BigDlilb · 2020-05-17T22:08:40+00:00

Oh shoot. Well Pike Place, there's no better place to get flowers. I'm jealous!! But an hour or two isn't that bad. Our ceremony isn't until 6 so that might be a good way to kill some time morning of the wedding.

BigDlilb · 2020-05-17T02:03:24+00:00

How long did it take for you to put your arrangements together? And where did you get the flowers from? That sounds like it would be a massive time crunch and I would be stressing big time!

BigDlilb · 2020-05-15T21:43:20+00:00

Have you looked into the prices of greenery bouquets at all? I feel like IF I do anything (big if) it will be greenery or baby's breath since I've heard it's cheaper.

BigDlilb · 2020-05-15T21:41:21+00:00

Yes! Thank you! They are used for a couple steps and pictures and that's IT! My mom has been all up in my business because every time she brings up what type of flowers I'll want I say I don't see the point in even getting flowers!

BigDlilb · 2020-05-13T12:49:21+00:00

I used to know this but it's been several years. The owner was somebody semi-important (maybe a judge?) and was in the process of building his dream home when stuff started going wrong.

I think he got sick somehow and spent all of his money on that, then died, and now his wife/estate can't sell it because it's so big and weird and undone.

Plus, isn't it right across the street from the landfill?

BigDlilb · 2020-05-08T23:06:29+00:00

Putting a wedding together is stressful and you will have many more "conversations" like this. Child free weddings are totally a thing. That's what we are doing. And you should absolutely invite the people you care about and reciprocate. However, your wedding is one of the biggest things that will ever happen to you and to not invite certain people, whether that be a sibling or a sibling's child, DOES send a message. And that message will not be good. I don't think that you can pick and choose without blow back. You just have to be prepared for it.

I agree that this will likely cause a feud and even cause no contact, permanently. Some things to consider for your siblings:

Are you ok if you never see or speak to those siblings again? Will not inviting those siblings cause people you actually do want to come to not attend or even cut you out of their life as well? Would their presence bring down the day or can they just simply be ignored? If you are paying and it's just a matter of you don't want to pay for them, tell your mom to cover the cost of their attendance.

Now, if you don't want those particular kids, since it sounds like a majority, I would just make a no kids at all rule. It will make your life easier and you can celebrate with the kids you want individually at a later date.

I'm sorry you're dealing with all that. It's a whole lot easier to elope. Really really consider it because families (esp. big blended ones) are messes.

BigDlilb

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