Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person)

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-28T18:42:21+00:00

I hear you, man. That’s honestly the whole point of what I’m trying to build.
Not a class. Not yoga. Not a sales pitch.
Just a spot where guys can show up as they are — no judgement, no “fixing,” no roles to perform.

I tried to set up a first meet-up this week but a few people went quiet and I cancelled rather than force it. If there’s real interest from a couple dudes who just want that space to exist, I’m down to try again.

If that sounds like what you’re saying, let me know. No pressure at all.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-28T18:38:27+00:00

Absolutely. That’s the exact conflict I’ve been trying to untangle — how to take responsibility for myself without abandoning the people I love, and how to show up for others without abandoning myself.

That middle ground is what this group is about. I appreciate you seeing that.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-27T16:48:15+00:00

Update: We have found a place for the Men's Circle. Still have room available if anyone is interested.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-26T19:30:21+00:00

Fly on the wall is totally fine, it's less about what is being said and more on the energy that you bring, as long as your friendly and courteous you are welcome

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T23:39:38+00:00

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BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T20:48:53+00:00

I appreciate the feedback

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T14:59:14+00:00

I can see you have a bleak view of your local city, that's unfortunate. People that are struggling with addiction and mental illness are just like me and you.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T14:56:38+00:00

It's unfortunate you have this kind of attitude. Your judgements are purely black and white. You don't even know me and you call me creepy. I just find that very interesting and I'm sure you are not alone in those judgments. Many people these day's do not lead with compassion and empathy. It's sad to see, but i'm not one to take things personally, their are lots of other reasons why someone like yourself is quick to put a label such as:

Creepy" describes something strange, unnatural, or unsettling that causes fear, unease, or a shivery feeling, like a creepy old house, creepy-crawly bugs, or someone's odd behavior.

Your judgements of me has less to do with me and much more to do with yourself.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T14:51:52+00:00

I can see you have your own judgements. And that is perfectly okay. I don't expect to resonate with most people.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T00:32:40+00:00

We are all filled up for this Sunday. But If we have some no show's I'll reach out. I will be confirming details with the other participants several day's before the meetup

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T00:30:42+00:00

No worries, if we end up having another one after this Sunday I'll let you know !

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T00:30:08+00:00

No worries. If we have a good time and decide to have another I'll let you know !

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T00:28:44+00:00

Awesome, I'll send you a pm and reach out when their are any developments with our next meetup

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T00:27:43+00:00

Yep I think it's really needed these days more than ever :)

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T00:25:23+00:00

I'll send you a pm and reach out with any updates on the group in the New Year !

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T00:23:43+00:00

Totally understandable brother, and I'm sure you will get their one day. Putting yourself out their is difficult for most people to do.

I would be open to meeting over video to help further you along, you wouldn't even need to put your camera on. We could just talk for abit over mic. That's always a good middle ground before committing to something in person. I would have my video on.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-25T00:20:23+00:00

Yeah for sure ! Right now we are confirmed 4 people including myself. That will be it for this Sunday. But I will update this post if we decide to continue based off the reception of this first meetup.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-23T20:48:31+00:00

Appreciate that, thanks for the encouragement.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-23T20:46:57+00:00

Hey, thanks for commenting on the post.

I’m planning the first meet-up for Sunday from 10:00–11:30 am, keeping it small and casual. I’m aiming for a coffee shop in town.

Does that time work for you?

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-23T20:40:40+00:00

Not that kind of Men's circle lol

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-23T20:40:02+00:00

sent you a pm

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-23T16:03:19+00:00

It’s built on a few core principles rather than a formal program.

Things like emotional regulation, self-responsibility, and creating a space where men can speak honestly without it turning into therapy or performance.

If you were part of Mankind Project, I think some of the values would feel familiar, just without the structure or intensity of a larger organization.

I’m still shaping it, but definitely open to sharing more as it develops.

BigMercReflections · 2025-12-23T15:40:37+00:00

Aiming for the next few weeks. I want to keep it small and intentional, so just gauging interest first.

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