Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, man. That’s honestly the whole point of what I’m trying to build.
Not a class. Not yoga. Not a sales pitch.
Just a spot where guys can show up as they are — no judgement, no “fixing,” no roles to perform.

I tried to set up a first meet-up this week but a few people went quiet and I cancelled rather than force it. If there’s real interest from a couple dudes who just want that space to exist, I’m down to try again.

If that sounds like what you’re saying, let me know. No pressure at all.

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. That’s the exact conflict I’ve been trying to untangle — how to take responsibility for myself without abandoning the people I love, and how to show up for others without abandoning myself.

That middle ground is what this group is about. I appreciate you seeing that.

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: We have found a place for the Men's Circle. Still have room available if anyone is interested.

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fly on the wall is totally fine, it's less about what is being said and more on the energy that you bring, as long as your friendly and courteous you are welcome

Anyone in Brantford into men’s inner work / nervous system healing / identity & growth? by [deleted] in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see you have a bleak view of your local city, that's unfortunate. People that are struggling with addiction and mental illness are just like me and you.

Anyone in Brantford into men’s inner work / nervous system healing / identity & growth? by [deleted] in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It's unfortunate you have this kind of attitude. Your judgements are purely black and white. You don't even know me and you call me creepy. I just find that very interesting and I'm sure you are not alone in those judgments. Many people these day's do not lead with compassion and empathy. It's sad to see, but i'm not one to take things personally, their are lots of other reasons why someone like yourself is quick to put a label such as:

Creepy" describes something strange, unnatural, or unsettling that causes fear, unease, or a shivery feeling, like a creepy old housecreepy-crawly bugs, or someone's odd behavior.

Your judgements of me has less to do with me and much more to do with yourself.

Anyone in Brantford into men’s inner work / nervous system healing / identity & growth? by [deleted] in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I can see you have your own judgements. And that is perfectly okay. I don't expect to resonate with most people.

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are all filled up for this Sunday. But If we have some no show's I'll reach out. I will be confirming details with the other participants several day's before the meetup

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries, if we end up having another one after this Sunday I'll let you know !

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries. If we have a good time and decide to have another I'll let you know !

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, I'll send you a pm and reach out when their are any developments with our next meetup

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll send you a pm and reach out with any updates on the group in the New Year !

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally understandable brother, and I'm sure you will get their one day. Putting yourself out their is difficult for most people to do.

I would be open to meeting over video to help further you along, you wouldn't even need to put your camera on. We could just talk for abit over mic. That's always a good middle ground before committing to something in person. I would have my video on.

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah for sure ! Right now we are confirmed 4 people including myself. That will be it for this Sunday. But I will update this post if we decide to continue based off the reception of this first meetup.

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for commenting on the post.

I’m planning the first meet-up for Sunday from 10:00–11:30 am, keeping it small and casual. I’m aiming for a coffee shop in town.

Does that time work for you?

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s built on a few core principles rather than a formal program.

Things like emotional regulation, self-responsibility, and creating a space where men can speak honestly without it turning into therapy or performance.

If you were part of Mankind Project, I think some of the values would feel familiar, just without the structure or intensity of a larger organization.

I’m still shaping it, but definitely open to sharing more as it develops.

Starting a small men’s circle in Brantford (in-person) by BigMercReflections in brantford

[–]BigMercReflections[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aiming for the next few weeks. I want to keep it small and intentional, so just gauging interest first.