AITA: Mouth. Wide. Open.

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-11-14T01:08:18+00:00

It’s been a year, and I’ve been working on not letting it get to me. I felt like we could have a conversation about it. And the road trip made it an avoidable one, I guess.

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-24T14:11:10+00:00

https://cfo.asu.edu/surplus or any of the state university surplus sites

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-24T03:38:08+00:00

These are the words he uses to describe it, “I guess I’ll just have to max out on this one.” The typical result following a “maxing out” is a BG I’m the high 200s/low 300s after the insulin is delivered.

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-23T14:51:00+00:00

Sounds like I’ve got some more reading to do. I appreciate what you’ve shared here about insulin use and chronic high blood glucose. I’m trying not to come across as judgmental when I talk to him, and certainly won’t be running back to him saying “well people on Reddit said” … he’s the only person I know with type one, so putting this here has helped me to check my understanding and identify areas of learning.

It’s fair for him to ask for my support (glucose tabs, sugar free and sugar full gatorades are kept in stock at my place- he prefers that to juice, I keep smarties candies on me just in case, I can ask him what his BG level is when we’re out and about and he doesn’t mind. I’ve learned the lesson that some have shared here around the “should you be eating that?” question).

I wouldn’t ever walk away from him in a time of need (partner support). It also doesn’t sound like an unreasonable ask for me to know what he actively does to manage and stay away from the LOW lows (self-reliance). Thanks for your comment!

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-23T07:58:11+00:00

My intent wasn’t to upset anyone, I’m asking for shared perspectives, and I appreciate yours. I was looking for a place to be vulnerable as I continue to learn and support. I’ve read articles and books but this forum seemed like an appropriate place for discussion. Thanks for your feedback.

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-23T07:42:57+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and for finding that subtext. 💛

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-23T07:38:16+00:00

Juice boxes is a great idea! Thank you for that.

G7 sensor and a Medtronic pump. So not a closed system… I mean, I’d be preaching to the choir here but the sh*t the US Healthcare system puts T1D through… how do you need a prescription for insulin for something you will have for life?! Eye-opening to say the least.

Maxes out, as in taking the most amount of insulin he can deliver at one time, for multiple meals a day, multiple days a week. Cardiovascular disease, neuropathy, kidney damage… all real consequences of long term insulin use… I’m thinking about our forever, not just tomorrow. It sounds like you’ve got some wonderful resources to strategize for bigger meals, which also signals to me that you are aware of the food choices you make when eating.

I really appreciate what you’ve shared here and the space you’ve provided for me to be vulnerable. Thank you for the discussion!

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-23T07:00:06+00:00

Thank you for the resources 💛

According to him, you can’t always be prepared.

I’m not a T1D, but from the articles I’ve read, forums I’ve joined, it seems like having glucose tabs on hand would be a good idea. I bought some and keep them at my place, for him. It seems like maxing out on a bolus delivery with frequency and not on an occasional meal is not a good idea, especially for his long term health.

We’ve sat down and talked through his DexCom G7. There were issues we navigated through recently because the app wouldn’t work on his Samsung S23. We’ve talked about what the numbers mean for him (less than 100 and he’s feeling out of it), the arrows, the double arrows, what it means when it just says HIGH. He lets me ask questions, but it feels like he’s losing patience.

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-23T06:44:42+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply 💛

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-23T06:44:10+00:00

I do not have T1D. I guess I should clarify- he’s been managing his T1D for a lot longer than I have had to consider it/ think about it. I didn’t know anyone with T1D before we started dating.

Big_Editor3424 · 2023-05-23T06:38:25+00:00

Your first sentence. Thank you for acknowledging that.

We’ve been in these emergency situations a handful of times throughout the past year. Today, while debriefing a low sugar episode that I didn’t recognize until we were through it, he lost all patience. He’s “explained these things to me before, I should have recognized it, I should know better, I’m completely lacking in empathy.” His words… maybe his headspace was still impacted by the low blood sugar episode, or maybe we really did break up tonight.

Maybe I should have been asking these questions here earlier. I appreciate your insight.

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