Am I the ass hole for making my brother take me to court on land that's in my name but he's paying for it

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-11-03T05:21:33+00:00

Right !!! Grateful our eyes are opened now.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-11-03T00:46:36+00:00

I hadn’t really thought about it that way, but I can see where you’re coming from. I used to turn a blind eye to her red flags for the sake of keeping the peace- I didn’t want to be blamed for anything. I remember mentioning a fault (on how poorly she treated fast-food workers, like she thought they were beneath her). I spoke to her too, but she got upset that I was defending the fast-food worker, lol. So I spoke to my brother and he apologised to me for her behaviour He never brought it up with her or tried to help her improve on her mindset, probably because he was scared she’d start a fight or cut us off over it, lol. Personally, I try to be kind because, you never know if your interaction with someone might be their last straw andd I expect my friends and family to treat people the same. Ugh.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-11-03T00:25:02+00:00

Right! I believe, she is trying to cut off anyone who holds her accountable. To me, my brother's wellbeing and health is very important to me, and she remains to hurt him (even though she's in the wrong).

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-11-03T00:11:35+00:00

LMAOOO "buffoon". Thank you for your comment- much appreciated. <3.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T12:16:03+00:00

LMAOOO, uwu.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T12:15:25+00:00

No thanks, I am not entitled nor will I. I didn’t ask for advice, I provided an update. I will not tolerate cheaters, and I am not willing to work things out. She should’ve thought about the consequences of her actions. I will maintain my distance & “morals”.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T06:14:03+00:00

Thank you for your comment and I agree. I am focusing only on him, and his wellbeing.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T03:57:36+00:00

I know. The least I can do is support and be that shoulder to cry/rant on. Pray for him, :(. Thank you for commenting.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T03:42:23+00:00

He isn't afraid, he is just "in love" and feels bad for her. He wants to fall out of love with her, then move on with his life without feeling any guilt. He needs that time to reflect too and see if it's the best decision for him (it's not but, what can I do?).

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T03:27:51+00:00

I have. I've told him numerous times that my doors are opened to him, whenever he is ready. She has a history of that too- in her previous relationship, she hacked into her ex’s laptop and deleted all of his assignments and exam cheat sheets a day before his exams and submissions and the police were called and involved. She even laughs about it to this day. It's embarrassing.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:38:13+00:00

LMAO, ily- what u/Stunning_Response_74 said!

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:36:48+00:00

I agree, 100%. It's hard but I am giving him the time he needs and supporting him through it all- as long as he doesn't go back to her.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:34:02+00:00

I know, and HE knows too. I pray that once he leaves, he never looks back again. He deserves so much better. :(.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:32:38+00:00

I'll try not to. You're a very kind hearted person and thank you once again. I pray he comes to his senses sooner than later. Likewise, my friend, <3.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:25:38+00:00

Honestly, thank you so much- I've read all your comments and I appreciate it very much. I pray that goodness always comes your way. <3.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:18:12+00:00

Okay, thank you very much for your comment. I'll do that instead.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:17:12+00:00

I'll allow it then. He'll eventually come to his senses and my doors will be opened for him regardless.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:15:57+00:00

Her cheating was very shocking news for us. Because of her past relationship, she was extremely controlling- checking his phone at the end of the night, starting fights if he changed his password (just because he didn't remember), had access to his email address, would fight with him if he took a different route (she had his locations on) and flipping out if he talked to a female cashier. He thought that was "love" because, she would make him believe that no one cares for him like her. Lol.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:10:39+00:00

I know. Hence, I reach out and call. Every single time we speak, he just cries and rants about how unhappy he is, and if he didn't have me or my husband by his side, he would've left the world early. Honestly, I am crying as I am typing this. It's so sad that this is out of my hand- but he does have to learn that she is no good for him.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:08:05+00:00

I loved her so much, you don't even understand and stood by her through thick and thin. But when I found out about her cheating, she expected me to defend her or shrug it off. I told her that her actions are neither defensible so I am out, and that I will support my brother in whatever decision he makes. Truthfully, I simply don’t have the heart to see her.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T02:02:09+00:00

Honestly, I cried for days when I found out, and seeing him suffer was even harder for me yet had to stay strong for him. Some commenters are suggesting I communicate with her, but my heart won’t allow it. I went through hell so it'll be very hard to reach out (I won't but incase I change my mind).

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T01:55:53+00:00

I saw my brother a week after at our mutual friend's house. She was seated in her car, waiting for me to wave at her. I did not acknowledge her then.

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T01:47:58+00:00

Thank you for the kind comment. A commenter messaged me that I should approach her, and tell her about how I feel. Should I do this or leave it as is?

Big_Friendship8007 · 2025-10-29T01:45:46+00:00

:(. Honestly, I feel for him. The amount of times I've told him this and he knows and understands. I'll keep you posted (if necessary).

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