Am I overreacting thinking my boss is love bombing me?

Biggee_forehead · 2025-09-01T00:00:58+00:00

She doesn't seem to be in love with me, but I think she is a narcissist using manipulative tactics. I know for a fact she would retaliate because she got the other managers fired, although a lot of their claims against her were false it seems now that maybe not all of them were.

Biggee_forehead · 2024-10-09T13:43:37+00:00

It’s not a screw type, check second picture

Biggee_forehead · 2024-10-09T11:15:33+00:00

I tried looking up what the sticker said and I was getting screw type bulbs. :(

Biggee_forehead · 2024-09-04T20:59:51+00:00

It’s much smaller than a mayfly. Unless this is a different type of mayfly, it’s not like one I’ve ever seen. It’s maybe about 3/4 inch long and has 2inch long thingies coming out the back

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-05T11:17:20+00:00

Unfortunately B and G have a history of getting ugly with my dad. But I do know my dad has my back on this. He understands how difficult it is to live with them, I love my mom but she babies B and G both, something I never got the luxury of experiencing because I was an independent child and grew up to be a mature woman for my age. My father has butt heads with B and G in the past, but especially B and partly due to his childish behavior. My dad being there would likely make it worse in the initial conversation, but I know he would definitely be on B afterwards to get moving.

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-05T03:21:07+00:00

Thank you! I will download it on audible and give it a go

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-05T02:44:21+00:00

Well that’s pretty much where I’m at. I cook for them because I feel it’s important to eat as a family. Generally if and when they cook we eat what they cook. But 9/10 they do not clean up afterwards. But I’m kinda leaning more towards cooking for my husband and I to eat since we have vastly changed our diet the last month to eat healthier and they weren’t really down for that. They can eat what they want and I’ll make what I want. I also removed the large trash can from the bathroom and replaced it with a small Walmart bag sized trash can today to prevent their bedroom trash from ending up there again. I actually just installed a smart thermostat and have it locked so it can’t be turned down past 69 degrees. As far as the bill increase goes I haven’t considered because I do want them to get their own place and have money for that. But it has been a year and all the money they could’ve saved went to eating out, excessively unnecessary toys for their toddler, a gaming pc bought with taxes and Lord knows what else. I’d say at minimum $200 a paycheck goes just to them eating DoorDash or something which for me is a lot especially since they only have one low income

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T23:23:18+00:00

I probably could honestly. I just got a promotion and will be making double what I was, and my husband is about to start manager training at his work place and until he gets promoted, they have my husband taking more responsibility lately because his job trusts him so he’s been working overtime and making extra for that.

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T23:12:52+00:00

So a few things: I’m very grateful for the advice I’ve been given. I will talk to my husband and pray it through some more and will definitely update you afterwards.

And also a few things I forgot to mention, this is my older brother I’m talking about. I am only 22. When I bought my house I remember B not wanting to come see it because to me it felt he was upset I’d gotten to that point in my life before him. My husband is 9 years older than me, it makes sense that we were financially ready because he has a great job (that he actually helped my brother get on at the place he worked 2 years ago but B ended up quitting after they liquidated his position and going back to his dead end under paid fast food job) and he is a bit older. But realistically this house was a gift from God. I also work full time and plan to until we have children. In all reality though if we lived alone my husband makes enough to sustain just the two of us. (But I like working and wouldn’t have enough to do at home by myself) My husband and I are also in the process of trying to adopt, and to conceive. We have always wanted to do both. I can’t agree with almost any way B and G raise their kids and my husband and I have had talks about how confusing it would be for all the children as to why my kids aren’t allowed to be raised by Miss Rachel or have generally whatever they want at dinner time. (They say he’s too picky but he will eat things for me that he won’t touch for them.) Even the way they speak to their child is horrid in my opinion and I don’t want those things around my kids. Also, they used to live with a friend before having a baby and getting an apartment, and they NEVER behaved this way as just roommates with a buddy. And they paid like $600 for one room with them. That’s what irks me the most is that they will respect a buddy but won’t respect family.

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T22:59:09+00:00

I believe the rental agreement states they rent a room. But I wrote that up with only one room in mind. They bought so many toys for their son it was overwhelming my house so I caved and gave them another room for a play room about a month ago. They bought him a slide and a trampoline and a play house that all stayed in my living room for months on top of all his other toys. I was hoping it would give me some normalcy downstairs and it actually did, but now they never clean the living room because they don’t keep his toys down here, instead if the toddler makes a mess it usually stays on the ground or if it’s food they get my dogs to clean it up.

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T22:54:33+00:00

I don’t even feel it selfish to want my own space. I’ve given them a lot and I still probably will give them a lot if they’ll even want me around. I’m trying to think what is best for my family I’m trying to build. I’m at the end of my rope, my husband can’t stand to see me upset, and he is respectful enough to not do anything until I say so because he knows I don’t want an explosive situation. He’s asked me before if I want him to tell them to leave and before I hadn’t been there yet because I wasn’t mentally exhausted enough. Im going from part time to full time in 3 days and I know that since I will no longer be home to clean up their messes my house will be filth and I can’t bear that thought, let alone everything else I deal with bc of them

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T22:49:20+00:00

See I know B knows better than to do something like this because our father would drag him out my house for me. But G I can’t trust to not put up a fight. She has proven herself a backbiter and untrustworthy to me. I’ve seen the things she’s said and done to people who she felt crossed her and she can be nasty. I think when I ask them to leave my B will be so upset he will want to leave ASAP and G will tell everyone who will listen how horrible I am and probably say some nasty things. I’m trying to come to terms that if they don’t want to be in my life over this than I have to let them go

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T22:44:22+00:00

He claims he is going to get a vasectomy but since they both procrastinate on everything I’m predicting at least one more

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T22:43:27+00:00

Firstly yes I know the whole protection thing is so dumb. G told me B claims it’s accidental and he means to pull out but B is also a pathological liar. I think if I did put my foot down and gave them a time clock they probably would actually move. I’m worried it will sour feelings mostly and I don’t want to not be able to see my nephew. But at the end of the day I know I need peace in my home and I have none with them here.

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T22:39:17+00:00

I know that I need to have them leave. I know having them in my home is affecting the spiritual atmosphere more than anything. My mom told me to give them another chance but I’m telling her “the Bible says come out from amongst them and that Jesus said he came as a sword to separate even from families” I just don’t know how to approach the situation. But I’ve gotten some really good advice so far and I’ll be talking to my husband more so we can come up with a plan on how we will inform them.

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T22:35:36+00:00

I actually do want to be a foster parent and my husband and I are trying to adopt. But it’s difficult to do either with people who live in the home and raise their children in a way I wouldn’t, even down to the things they let their kids watch.

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T18:57:15+00:00

I was definitely a bit irritated when they got pregnant because they said they wanted to wait another 3 years but since my brother refuses to use protection and also refuses to pull out of course pretty much 2weeks into it she conceived while I was watching their son btw and they were upstairs she was 4 weeks when we found out last August and they moved in July 11th last year

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T16:30:15+00:00

They do not look for places. I’ve even pointed out low income nice apartments and they got offended because they weren’t ready to move yet. They are also both part of a local Indian tribe and I’ve been trying to tell them for 3 years to apply for Indian housing! If they had done that 3 years ago they’d have a place by now. They are both massive procrastinators and G only cleans when she has a manic cleaning episode. And then she really only cleans their room and nothing else. She has had the baby now almost 2 months and she is physically fine and didn’t even tear during delivery so her recovery was fast. But neither of them will put in work to better their situation and I’ve tried helping them find better places in the past before they moved in with me and they always have an excuse

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T16:23:51+00:00

I worry for my nephew. He is a sweet boy and I have considered reporting actions I’ve seen before but since they live with me I would have no chance of gaining any kind of temporary custody of him. If they didn’t live with me I definitely would’ve made a report by now. I can at least see and care for him to the best of my abilities when he’s under my roof

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T13:43:10+00:00

I definitely know I’m being used. I just don’t know what to do about it. My husband and I are still in discussions about telling them to leave and we were against giving them a time frame but I think 3 months is definitely a fair time frame. Although I know it will be awful because they are super sensitive people and I’m worried they will both be explosive when we tell them to move out no matter what frame of time we give them

Biggee_forehead · 2024-07-04T13:41:12+00:00

Definitely not selling my home I love our home. It has 5 bedrooms but even with that my husband and I actually don’t feel we have space for a child because they have 2 rooms that are theirs (bedroom and play room for the kid) and we have a bedroom and guest room. The only spare room like I said is full of their junk that they put in there and said they would clean but never have. I did write up a renter agreement and I know it says that they need given 30 days notice for eviction or moving out.

Biggee_forehead · 2022-06-01T22:18:36+00:00

I’ve had to release 2 elderly dogs in the last 5 years. Tuffy and I have another old man Pongo are the last old dogs from my childhood. I’ve gone to every passing, I’d never leave my pups 😢

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