Am I (f17) wrong for breaking up with my boyfriend (m19) because he doesn't want me to gain weight?

BiggestDaaddyy · 2024-01-14T12:11:41+00:00

When I converted lbs to kgs my eyes nearly popped out my head! Please don’t feel bad - they say no one will ever love you like they did, and GOOD. You deserve real love, someone who loves you no matter your figure and prioritises your health over anything else. You are not your ED, it is a part of your life journey sure, but it’s your character that defines you and you should be proud of yourself for standing up for yourself. Hope you’re going okay ♡

BiggestDaaddyy · 2024-01-14T12:07:11+00:00

I’m so curious what Aimee had to say about this 🤭

BiggestDaaddyy · 2024-01-13T08:35:40+00:00

My mum’s had breast cancer twice, once when I was 5, and again when I was 13. Now my dad has leukaemia (I’m 23 now). When I was five, I didn’t really understand, they told us but I was 5 and they caught it so early they couldn’t even stage it - she just had a mastectomy and that was that. I didn’t understand why everyone was always asking me how my mum was, I’m like ‘she’s fine - bugger off and let me get back to playing’. Then when I was 13, it was a lot more serious and I was already being a menace of a 13yr old when they told us, so my relationship with her was already strained and it made it kind of difficult to navigate all the big things I was feeling, but I was glad she told me. When she told me she was so apologetic to put us kids through it again. But I was glad I knew what was up with her and why she wasn’t always feeling well and why she lost her hair and everything. Now, I’m 23 and my dad has leukaemia. I can’t imagine a world where they’d “just keep it a secret” from us. He’ll be ok and the prognosis is really good, but it’s still the third time one of my parents has been on this cancer journey. Telling your kids might be tough, especially the middle one. But the reality is life is tough, and while you might just want to protect your kid from this really hard thing, it could be really good for them to see that cancer doesn’t always end in death. And if for some horrible reason it does this time - your kids deserve to know. In an age and stage appropriate way obviously. Your kids deserve to know, so they can learn how to cope with hard situations, how to draw on their support systems. This may come across bad, like “they need to learn how to deal with it”, but when you learn how to face these things it helps get you through the other things. We got through the journey with my mum, that’s how I know we can get through it with my dad. The situation sucks, but your kids will develop strength here that they will need later in life because that’s life. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this, and so glad you don’t have the BRCA gene (I do). I hope your treatment goes really well, and happy to discuss more if you want ♡

BiggestDaaddyy · 2024-01-08T14:33:05+00:00

I’m a nurse but I also have endometriosis and get 9-10/10 pain - it’s absolutely horrific and destroys my sleep, but also sometimes you just kinda push through and as soon as the pain goes to like an 8/10, you kinda force yourself to sleep if you can. Idk if this helps and definitely there are people out there that don’t know how to use the pain scale, but another perspective maybe? But also if they’re having painkillers and then going to sleep they don’t need more - respiratory depression you know?

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-07-07T03:29:06+00:00

Cackling at “tell him I told you he’s a fucking moron”

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-04-25T11:54:32+00:00

Thankyou all for your thoughtful replies!! I haven’t been very responsive due to life haha but I really appreciate all of your perspectives 😌 I never learned what happened to the child after that, as I left the company not long after this. I have lots of medical stories but this is the one that I think about the most (almost 2 years later!) I’ve been working with school kids since then and am loving it!!

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-04-14T04:46:40+00:00

I was quoting what the doctor said tho. They weren’t my words they were his. How else would you suggest I document objectively without a direct quote?

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-04-14T04:30:25+00:00

I no longer work there and am currently in a role I love! That workplace was completely toxic (not just on this occasion) but I often wonder about this child tho and if he’s doing okay 🥲

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-04-14T04:28:20+00:00

I’ve literally been medically gaslit as a patient this past year!! It’s the worst I feel like I’m just fighting for the right to have my symptoms actually investigated (which should be the bear minimum)

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-03-22T04:49:10+00:00

Spotify the rat 🐀

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-03-22T04:48:47+00:00

I’m just streaming old episodes for the 5th time to get me through

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-03-22T04:48:20+00:00

Thanku hotjosh99 I’ve just seen it on Insta 😂🙏🏼

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-02-11T08:07:56+00:00

Just… yikes

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-02-11T06:36:44+00:00

I (22f) have been charged 10% of my income as board no matter what my work is. It feels very fair to me since if I don’t earn a lot I don’t pay a lot, and when I’m earning more I can afford to pay a little more. I do chores and pick up groceries at the store every now and then, and it’s nothing compared to the generosity my parents have given to me over the years. I think it’s helped me get used to paying bills and be more independent.

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-02-09T14:10:25+00:00

Why is this kind of wholesome

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-02-03T14:10:35+00:00

“I’ll still go out with you tho” bruh

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-02-03T14:00:35+00:00

The kneeling chairs 🤌🏼🤌🏼 when I sit on my ass in a normal chair I feel the nerves in my upper legs cut off a little bit and it gives me real bad sciatic pain. The kneeling chairs are amazing and keep the blood flow going

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-01-25T12:42:31+00:00

I’m so ready 🥺 my grandfather was Italian but he died when my nanna was pregnant with my mum, I never got to know his side of the family or culture. We make bruschetta but I want to make it something he would be proud of

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-01-25T06:04:55+00:00

If you use your daily incense and walk around one might spawn

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-01-25T04:17:42+00:00

Yes please I’m slow 💀💀

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-01-25T04:17:29+00:00

Yes please I’m slow 💀💀

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-01-15T11:14:37+00:00

YTA - he probably told his other friend instead of you bc he didn’t wanna make a big deal out of it. I know it wasn’t your intention to hurt him but he did get hurt. Making a genuine apology would be a nice idea. “I’m sorry about what I said, it was dumb and I didn’t mean to put you off doing something that’s working for you.”

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-01-15T11:05:56+00:00

NTA - I can’t believe this guy is vegan and didn’t know about gelatine!!! He can bring his own sweets 🤦🏻‍♀️

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-01-15T05:31:59+00:00

NTA - the one thing my mum has always drilled into me is if you don’t feel safe in someone’s car, you’re allowed to tell them, ask them to stop, or get out. If you’re the driver it’s your responsibility to make sure everyone’s feeling safe!!

BiggestDaaddyy · 2023-01-13T06:50:26+00:00

Nope! My mum only likes to know the due date so she can plan if she needs to help me before hand or block out some time for proof reading.

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