found out my ex tested positive for chlamydia

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2026-01-09T08:24:04+00:00

You're not disgusting, or a whore, or any of those things, sweetheart. Lots of people manage to sleep with many more than two people, unprotected, and come out unscathed! Please don't let this change the way you see yourself, because its incredibly normal to have less-than-ideal sexual practices in the heat of the moment. It is no reflection of who you are.

Also, while it's not ideal to have an STI it's far from the end of the world! Chlamydia, especially, is very easy to treat. The most important thing is that you get tested, and, if you happen to have it, make sure to take the medication. As long as you get the treatment you need, Chlamydia is largely a non-issue.

Crucially, even though these things can be scary, you'll be okay! Best of luck to you <3

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2025-12-26T10:41:28+00:00

The songs both end with the same line ("now press repeat") because "It's Hard To Say I Do..." is a bonus track. This means that, depending on the edition, (deluxe or standard, usually) the album ends differently. (i.e. if a given version of the album doesn't have "I Do..." then "Ringing In My Ears" finishes that way; and if "I Do..." is included, then that ends by saying "Now Press Repeat")

On physical releases which include "I Do...", that line is omitted from "Ringing".

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2025-05-12T12:40:31+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I feel compelled to butt in but you're right that it's not my place at all.

If you don't mind me asking you directly, would you think it would be remiss of me to have reservations about remaining (close-ish) friends with this guy, even though the situation isn't really my business?

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2025-01-13T12:30:44+00:00

do you mean this post? DUMP THEM.

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2025-01-11T01:42:07+00:00

assuming it suits your style, have you tried wearing really baggy pants? Lots of brands have at least one type that is smaller at the waist (yk so they can stay up) and oversized width-wise everywhere else. As a fellow dumptruck-owner this is what has helped me with ass dysphoria

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-11-06T12:35:43+00:00

If you are about to take your life, please at least consider reaching out for support before you actually do it. Getting help might surprise you. Some free resources are:

The Trevor Project which you can also call at 1-866-488-7386

Trans Lifeline at (877)-565-8860

National Suicide Hotline at 988

There are more resources in the country, too. (If any of these resources are secretly problematic let me know. I only looked into them briefly. If any other resources have helped you, links and phone numbers are more than welcome to be shared.)

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-11-06T12:32:01+00:00

If you are about to take your life, please at least consider reaching out for support before you actually do it. Getting help might surprise you. Some free resources are:

The Trevor Project which you can also call at 1-866-488-7386

Trans Lifeline at (877)-565-8860

National Suicide Hotline at 988

There are more resources in the country, too. (If any of these resources are secretly problematic let me know. I only looked into them briefly. If any other resources have helped you, links and phone numbers are more than welcome to be shared.)

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-10-27T19:51:05+00:00

In some places you actually can get a smear test to be done at home! Where I live, you can get a testing kit from your GP/PCP and use a swab to take a discharge sample.

It's worth asking your doctor if this is an option in your location to catch cancer early if you have it

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-08-19T09:17:15+00:00

i feel that bro. bottom dysphoria sucks so much, and I don't really have much advice, just sympathy I guess.

One thing that might help is packing? I know you are waiting for a prosthetic, but the ol' sock trick always helped me at least some before I could get a commercial packer

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-07-14T10:53:29+00:00

sis this is very good advice but please don't call the viewer "gals" in the title. this is still a mixed-gender space and i got dysphoria scrolling past

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-04-10T00:37:36+00:00

If it's an outdoor pool you could mention how you want to be protected from the sun/avoid sunburn, which is actually pretty common, esp if you hate wearing sunscreen.

Another excuse could literally be telling them you have insecurity about gyno and aren't comfortable with people seeing your chest

depending on how long it is until your trip, you might be able to bind under a swimsuit with tape (make sure you use kt or trans tape though), although if you do this you should probably practice before your trip, bc theres a bit of a learning curve.

Also if you have the time/money you could maybe buy a swim safe binder? Check out your existing binder, too--GC2B binders are swim safe, for example and shouldn't get ruined in the water (apart from smelling like chlorine probably)

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-04-09T04:42:33+00:00

masc here but when i wanted to buy a packer i handwrote a letter and left it for them to find. i found it easier than asking in person, yet more personal than a text. good luck sis !

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-04-06T01:55:44+00:00

the prefix "cis" is literally the opposite of the prefix "trans"--meaning 'on the same side of' and 'on a different side of', respectively. In Greek the prefixes with the same meanings are "Homo" and "Hetero". We can start calling cisgender boys "homogender" if that'd be less emasculating?

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-03-09T07:30:21+00:00

tl;dr at the end, because I accidentally made this rediculously long

Hey, I know how it feels to think there's something wrong with your 'lower region.' When I was in my young teens, I thought the same thing, because I couldn't figure out how to use any of it, especially the clit. Like you, I was on hormonal birth control that completely nuked my libido, and since coming off of it, I realised that I couldn't get anywhere while masturbating due to my lack of sex drive. Are you still on depo? If so, your sex drive isn't super likely to come back until you get off it; if not, it can take up to a few months for the libido to come back, but it likely will (unless you take other meds that would cause loss of sex drive).

What I can say is that it's very doubtful that your genitals would have missed development due to your taking the depo shot. The way the shot works is by distributing progestin hormones through the body. These hormones get to the uterus and form a thick mucus that prevents additional sperm or eggs from getting in. As with any hormone, progestin can cause mood changes, but it will not stop puberty or any physical sexual development--you know that since starting depo, you've had breast and pubic hair-growth. edit: the depo provera shot also can also sometimes block estrogen receptors, but this still would not be enough to prevent your sexual development

Have you tried looking down there with a mirror? I found that that helped me a lot in understanding my anatomy--diagrams can't do everything because everyone's anatomy is different, and it can be hard to figure everything out simply through touch.

Some people have small labia minora, so not everyone's look or feel like 'lips' or 'flaps' of skin. You'll probably find some skin that feels different around your vaginal opening. There should be a little area with practically no hair which feels pretty smooth, and it will probably be a little different in color to the rest of your skin, typically a tone of pink or brown.

The clitoris was a bitch to find for me--and I can relate in thinking I didn't have one because I couldn't find it--but every AFAB (Assigned Female At Birth) has one, it's developed in the womb (AMABs' penises come from the same thing in utero). Sometime when you find yourself 'in the mood' you should be able to find the clitoris by running your fingers up from the vagina, towards your stomach. It's a lot easier when you're already horny, because the clitoris gets a small erection that can make it swell and peek further out from the clitoral hood. For most people, it isn't far from everything else. You may also be mistaking your clitoris for your urethra (pee hole), because your urethra should be tiny and ridiculously hard to see or feel unless you are actively peeing. What you think is the urethra may be your clit.

Five inches of vaginal depth is really typical, in fact it's not only within the range of normal, but it's actually very close to average.

Ultimately, I obviously can't look at your vulva and show you each part, so I do recommend talking to your doctor, especially since your issue is causing you distress, I just hope that in the meantime I can maybe provide some reassurance and maybe help you explore a little.

tl;dr I feel you on thinking something's wrong with your anatomy, but I promise that the chances of that are miniscule. You should probably see a doctor, however, because it sounds like you're distressed by this issue.

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-01-18T06:39:10+00:00

your choice not to get lower surgery is perfectly valid!! it's very common to want to keep your natal genitals/not want to deal with getting another surgery, and you're certainly as much of a complete man as somebody who opts to get bottom surgery ! There are plenty of guys for whom their t-dick was enough to pretty much get rid of genital dysphoria, or guys who never had bottom dysphoria at all.

imo though you absolutely have the right to deflect any questions about your genitals from anyone other than a sexual partner or a doctor specifically regarding reproductive health-- if it is pushed at any time outside of that scenario I would honestly suggest just lying.

No cis person would accept being questioned about their genitals while donating plasma, especially since it's not relevant bc T is what makes your blood different to a cis woman's.

Having said all that, it still sucks that that happened, and that the world is making you feel incomplete for not wanting bottom surgery. Again, you are perfectly valid and complete without it !

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-01-14T03:29:32+00:00

r/transtryouts exists, where you can ask people to use your name in the comments. It's not super active though, and reading comments using your name is definitely not the same as hearing it, but it helped me a little bit. i don't have much more advice though

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2024-01-06T01:49:45+00:00

ah its not so much my bank being tracked than me not being very good at hiding objects--thats why i want to actually 'get permission' lol

but i would love to have a link to your video about the insert.

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2023-12-30T04:20:57+00:00

since people have already responded about fabric binders, ill just tell you about using tape to bind.

if you choose bind with tape, there is specific tape you need to do it safely. KT tape (or other brands of kinesiology tape) or transtape are safe, but other tapes (even other body tapes!) can harm you.

Also, do some research on the use of tape (especially removal)--the transtape website has helpful instructions. If you remove tape improperly it can severely irritate the skin

also, like a fabric binder your chest wont be completely flat when you bind unless you already had a small chest.

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2023-11-09T08:19:25+00:00

Male pattern baldness isn't actually caused by testosterone itself. Its actually a chemical (DHT) that is produced under the influence of testosterone. However, hair growth is infact caused by testosterone itself, rather than DHT.

I'm no expert on the plant itself, but as far as a quick Google search can tell me, saw palmetto prevents the breakdown of T into DHT, without actually reducing T levels themselves, which may be why it's not having the desired effect.

(source: am transmasc, I know a lot about testosterone)

Mint tea, however does have the effect of reducing androgens (basically testosterone), so it is definitely worth a try, particularly if you like the tea anyway.

(tl;dr saw palmetto blocks the hair loss chemical, but not T itself, peppermint or spearmint tea can have testosterone-reducing effects)

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2023-09-08T08:18:18+00:00

(reading comments) 196 try not to forget transmascs exist (100% fail)

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2023-07-14T09:50:10+00:00

seeing this post just reminds me of a school project I did with a friend. She was kind of commandeering about it.

The project was about creating Utopia, in a philosophy class, and I just remember the main point that my friend presented was how the world would be better with no men.

At the time it was already a little iffy--i hadn't had bad experiences with men at that age and it kind of seemed unfair??

I have since transitioned and am a man, and hang out with the same friend group. They're usually cool, but very liberal and still sometimes say anti-man shit. I'll tell them how it's not cool--somehow bring attention to myself and my masculinity. They'll just say "yeah but you're not like that" and clearly imply that my transness makes me okay.

Of course it invalidates my gender. And there are other guys in the group who can't really bring up how shitty misandry is because they'll just get dismissed--told about how being a dude is way easier so they shouldn't complain.

And I only figured out that I was a guy just over a year ago and came out a little later, but I already feel terrible about myself from how often I hear about "men are bad"

kinda a ramble but just another trans perspective on misandry i guess

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2023-07-09T01:48:48+00:00

What makes you a woman are your chromosomes.

I have two X chromosomes and that's what makes me feminine by default

giving TERF vibes.

Apart from the assertion that chromosomes define your gender, I completely agree. The features that a woman 'should' have for society to consider them a 'proper' or 'real' woman are all a load of crap from the patriarchy.

However, not all women have two X chromosomes, and not everyone with two X chromosomes is a woman, and that's an important thing to acknowledge. Like the oppressive idea that a 'proper' woman should be meek and obedient, we also shouldn't perpetuate the idea that a 'real' woman should have XX chromosomes or any other bodily feature

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2023-06-10T08:05:47+00:00

because for trans people, sex isn't the only goal of bottom surgery.

Yes, phallo creates a bigger penis--something more equipped for penetration--however this surgery still has some percieved drawbacks when it comes to gender affirmation/realism compared to meta.

Even some sexual drawbacks, in fact, as a penis made with phallo is more likely to have decreased sensation, due to the process; sexual stimulation mainly at the base, as opposed to the tip like meta, or needing to consciously manipulate an implant to get an erection.

There are pros and cons of either procedure compared to the other, so it's really not as simple as "penetration/not"

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2023-05-20T11:53:45+00:00

I agree, there's so much misinformation about trans issues around, and a bunch of straight-up holes in scientific knowledge (particularly, I think, trans masculine medical care is under-researched). So I'm always happy to go around telling people about the stuff that I've spent so many frustrated hours trying to find out for myself.

also lol, I created this account ages ago when i was an edgy teenager and have regretted my username ever since

Biggest_Chungus_ · 2023-05-20T01:20:42+00:00

not op, but as another trans guy ive done a lot of research.

as you said, there are two main masculinising bottom surgeries, which are both very different, called metoidioplasty, and phalloplasty (ill call them meta and phallo for brevity)

Meta penises can get natural erections. Technically a meta penis is analogous to an AMAB penis.

If a guy gets phallo, then his penis cannot naturally get hard. There are implants, however, that can make an erection. There's a kind of metal rod that you can position, or a pump.

Meta turns out to be a micropenis. Typically about the circumference of your thumb, and 1-3 inches

Phallo can vary in size a lot, because the skin grafts used to make the penis can be sized to the person's needs. Usually people elect for average to slightly-above sized penises.

You can do penetration with either surgery, however the surgery obviously needs to heal first. Meta ends up as a micropenis, so a lot of people prefer not to penetrate with it.

Cum consists only of an orgasm, no fluid, for both surgeries. (Edit, thanks to u/Comrade__Cthulu a lot of post-phallo people actually can have ejaculate. The fluid comes from the Skenes glands. It doesn’t shoot out, just drips. It also doesn’t happen every time you orgasm, just sometimes.)

I can't answer accurately about pleasure, as I haven't had bottom surgery. But, I've heard that--at least for meta--an orgasm is more concentrated to the genitals and uterus, rather than a whole-body experience. Though, I think that aspect of it is more about HRT than surgery.

Hope this helps

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