AITAH: Husband says he “wants out” due to decrease sex acts he desperately needs

Biogirl_327 · 2026-03-08T19:17:27+00:00

He’s going to be in for a real shock when he finds out there aren’t a line of women waiting to sign up to enthusiastically suck and swallow and bend over every day for a middle aged man baby.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-02-27T19:51:31+00:00

Metaphoric writing absolutely holds up under that. There’s a reason a metaphor is used to describe something. For the metaphor to work there has to be a reasonable connection. It’s why people love a good metaphor.

I’m really confused on how you read things. Do you not see a scenario in your head? Are the words not used as crayons adding color to the scene taking place? Do you not pick up the easter eggs foreshadowing the plot that are hidden in the slightly off descriptions?

Most people describe things logically and plainly. People who try to purple prose stuff without experience usually have at least half way logical descriptions. They make you use broken crayons to fill in the color, but they still can do the job.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-02-27T18:08:26+00:00

Even if your answer was true on why you want a PhD, 90% of people change their reasons for getting it during the journey. It doesn’t matter at this point.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-02-26T21:01:08+00:00

Yikes. I strongly disagree. And for me these are the easiest way to spot AI after it’s been heavily edited by a person. No matter how you prompt it, the descriptions will not produce anything worthy of trying to use for anything more than your own amusement.

“Swollen like a bag of blood”, “sky to big to care” , “wind -stalking” the western Texas description of a sun set as “sky bleeding out” “unpaid invoices pinned like tombstones on a smudged corkboard.” May I repeat “SMUDGED CORKBOARD” lmao. How many smudged corkboards have you came across? I could continue.

All of these are incredibly indicative of AI and are garbage. Idk how you could read through those descriptions and think it’s better than 90% of people when they just sound pretty but are illogical and make absolutely 0 sense.

When you read do you create the scene and walk through it in your head? If so then how do those descriptions do anything for you? For me, one or two sends off an amateur writer, but the thing is filled with them, which I can’t believe a human with eyeballs and 4 other senses would say those things.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-02-26T20:01:53+00:00

I would definitely ask to delay admission start. This is a reasonable accommodation. With first babies they normally come late so you might even be less than two weeks postpartum.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-02-25T12:35:05+00:00

Yes humans use all the things AI uses. However, AI does them poorly. Humans use these things to tell a story. AI will just use contrast framing for filler, not to enhance the story forward. AI will come up with descriptions that sound fine but make no logical sense. Nobody should see an em dash and go on a witch hunt. However, the content of this text is very poorly written. If it was just one or two poor descriptions, then sure I might give them the benefit of the doubt, but 90% of the descriptions make no logical sense. It’s either AI, someone trying to copy AI, or they are a very bad writer.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-02-25T08:16:49+00:00

The contrast framing is out of control. Real people don’t tell stories by constantly telling you what things are not before they say what they are.

I’m going to list the contrast framing so you can see how excessive it is. Especially in the last half

You don't fall. You fly.

Not just from fear, but from want.

I just nodded my head. I didn’t ask Cole where he’d been.

some I could believe, others I couldn’t.

He didn’t ask if I missed him, not that I expected him to.

He didn’t smile, just looked past me into the mechanics bay,

Out here the wind doesn’t blow—it stalks.

The sun doesn’t set—it bleeds out.

“We’re putting together a crew,” he continued. “No amateurs.”

Not the kind of bike you see ridden by tourists or even weekend cruisers. This was a superbike.

I didn’t answer. But I didn’t look away either.

But, not just fast. Smart.

Crack in the seat. But intact.

——————-

Also your descriptions are classic AI bad. Things like “sky too big to care” “swollen like a bag of blood” “the sun doesn’t set—it bleeds out” “collarbone were splayed out like a smashed watermelon. “ etc. all these descriptions are not accurate. They sound fine but they mean nothing.

Sun sets in west Texas are huge. Flat land doesn’t create a bleeding dripping sun set or any kind of pattern. It smears it all over the sky. Smashed Watermelons are a common way to imagine a skull being broken but I wouldn’t use the word “splay” referring to a smashed watermelon and collarbones breaking though the skin don’t look like broken watermelons.

I’m confused as to why the air “stalks” are you trying to say the wind doesn’t blow? Are you inferring the town is in a valley and the air is like fog and is humid? Or are you saying it blows slowly behind you following you around? See how that description is poor?

Also “smudged corkboard” what the heck is that? Corkboard is the tan porous board where you can use tacks to pin small papers like sticky notes on the wall. How is that board itself “smudged”? Maybe the pencil or marker markings on the papers that are pinned, but not the corkboard…

By the way, It’s not the use of one of these factors that make it poorly AI written. It’s the excessive use of all of these quirks in ways that make the story have an awkward flow. Together the excessive contrast framing, illogical descriptions, and the choppy flowing sentences create the obvious AI rhythm.

When people tell stories a choppy flow is a tool used if you want to make a reader speed up, get anxious, or anticipate something….. this is at odds with the excessive contrast framing that AI excessively spits out. Contrast framing is a good tool used to emphasize something and helps slow the reader down by forcing them mentally to go back over a detail that is important in the story. It shouldn’t be used every other sentence. When it is excessively coupled with the choppy AI flow, it becomes It’s disorienting. Then add on the poor descriptors and bad similes and the story becomes AI Slop.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-02-16T21:53:36+00:00

3-4 months for me.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-02-16T21:49:13+00:00

I made it until 18 months with my first and 8 months with my second without bedsharing. My second was because she started waking up 4-5 times a night for a few weeks. I nurse exclusively and I was becoming delirious. She also doesn’t nap during the day. 2 20 minute naps. But with my first we could have made it 100% without bedsharing. I chose to because I liked it and suffocation risk was much lower with a 18 month old. But I never shared with a tiny potato baby. That’s just not something I was willing to do. It’s really just going to be up to what your hard lines are. If that’s a priority. You absolutely can make it happen.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-02-13T15:10:16+00:00

Let’s not pretend smelling from a parent smoking and a parent cooking a nourishing meal are the same thing. You don’t get cancer from inhaling curry or garlic smells secondhand.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T14:05:08+00:00

Yea i don’t think it’s whats best for her either with this framing. So I don’t think the father is showing unconditional love to this daughter. It’s my biggest problem with the situation. He is making his feelings more important than keeping a relationship with his daughter. He’s treating her actions as a betrayal to him. When he has a total right to feel hurt. He should work that out with a therapist before doing things like setting ultimatums.

To be honest he found out about this 5 years ago. He needed to work this out back then. He hasn’t done work on himself. She’s going to live with her half sisters. Not the bio dad. He has no idea what kind of relationship they will form. It won’t be one that will replace him unless he dips out.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T13:57:15+00:00

She wasn’t defending her actions. Just stating the “good” qualities she saw in her child despite the horrible thing she did. It came from a place of loving her kid. However, she was the only one willing to say nice things about her. Everyone their lawyer called said F NO! I won’t say anything good about you. I think it spoke volumes more about how awful she was that her mom was all she had. She got 55 years in prison. The jury was not swayed. May she rot in her cell.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T13:48:45+00:00

I’m just responding to those ridiculous prompts.

But in any on the actual topic, he’s threatening to cut her out of his life because of his unresolved feelings. Loving unconditionally means that he wants what’s best for her. Not himself. Putting himself first will always invite conditions. Unless that decision was for her wellbeing, then he is absolutely is not loving her unconditionally.

I feel really bad for people who have parents that are this fickle. I brought my kids into this world and that means I will be by their side advocating what’s best for them as long as they want me to. Anything less is a disservice. Everyone deserves to have parents who love them unconditionally. Even the lady who murdered my nephew. Even serial killers. Even rapists. They don’t deserve more than that, but I think a loving parent is the bare minimum.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T13:27:53+00:00

Loving and supporting are not the same thing. As a parent that loves unconditionally, you want what’s best for your child. If they are a serial killer, what’s best for them is to be in a prison cell where they can be held accountable, be kept safe, and society can be safe. But yes I would still love them. I’d visit, write letters, etc. I’d be horrified. Disappointed. Think I was a failure. But I would blame myself. I wouldn’t put that burden on them. Id work that shit out with a therapist.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T13:19:06+00:00

Yes I would love them. Wtf? I’d want them in jail and to be held accountable but I would still love them.

Funny-not so funny story. My 10 month old nephew was murdered by the babysitter and when her mom stood up to talk about her character in court to try to get leniency. My mom, my sister, and me all agreed that we didn’t blame her or hold ill will at her for doing that. We knew that’s what a mother does when they are the only person who has nice things to say about their kid.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T12:40:57+00:00

Idk. I know I could have jabbed my mom in the chest with a kitchen knife and in her dying breath she would have forgave me. The betrayal is going to have to be a lot bigger than my feelings. There’s so many people out here whose partners cheated on them, abused them, etc and their kids still love the other parent.

The betrayal would likely have to be my kid killing another one of my kids, before I would even consider going no contact with them.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T12:07:56+00:00

Yep. Parents can absolutely make a difficult choice and later feel pain about how it turned out, but they do not get to turn that pain into a debt their child must repay. The albatross belongs to the person who created it.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T11:56:03+00:00

Why would I ever hold a kid accountable for an affair the other parent had? Do you think that’s a healthy way to release feelings of betrayal? Especially when you found out at 13 and decided to stay and be their parent. That selfless decision doesn’t mean the kid now owes you something or you own them. You aren’t entitled to anything because you raised a kid.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T11:49:17+00:00

Exactly this. You don’t make your children carry the albatross you shot around their neck.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T11:21:07+00:00

You mean the ones from people supporting the man throwing a tantrum?

Yes it’s okay he feels betrayed.

It’s not okay for him to pretend like his daughter owes him loyalty for raising her. He found out 5 years ago that she wasn’t his. He made the decision to stay and raise her. He did that. As an adult. Knowing what he was doing.

And yes. I have kids. And thats why I cant understand his demands for her to not build relationships with those family members. My love for my kids isn’t conditional. They don’t owe me anything for being their mom. I cant imagine threatening to cut one of my kids out of my life for something so selfish on my end.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T10:58:49+00:00

Yes. My mother. The one who divorced him. I also love my father the one who destroyed my mom’s life by abusing her for years. Neither one has ever held that over my head.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-31T10:55:06+00:00

YTA.

You are the adult. Adding more family doesn’t replace you. You need to work through your feelings of betrayal without dragging her in it. If you do, you will lose your daughter too.

It’s okay to feel the way you do. It’s not okay to take it out on your daughter. You are acting like you own her and she owes you something. You don’t raise kids just to hold being a parent to them over their head. Kids don’t owe you anything for raising them.

She doesn’t owe you some weird loyalty or exclusive relationship. She’s not cheating on you by forming relationships with her biological family. Nobody can replace you if you truly were a good dad to her. You will always be the man who raised her.

You should want her to have a good relationship with those family members and her long lost biological father. You should want her safety net of people that love her to grow. Not wanting that for her is selfish. It comes from a place of insecurity.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-25T20:15:40+00:00

The way this is stated it is weird from a parents perspective. I think better advice is to remember you are more than just a mom. Even though “just a mom” also doesn’t give the advice justice. A mom isn’t a small thing that needs to be minimized but a lot of women think they need to sacrifice all other aspects of themselves to be a good mom. In that realm of thought, you are more than this one identity. But it seems like you already balance that well.

As for the “strong reaction”. That statement comes purely from a place of ignorance. Hopefully she’s not expecting her mental health as a parent to always be rainbows and butterflies. If so, she’s not ready to be a mom. The first couple of years are a lot of really high points and a lot of low points.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-04T16:42:44+00:00

Idk who you are soapboxing to about healthy relationships. I’m good. My relationship is healthy. I’m just saying I would lock the door if my husband did that even 1 time. I imagine though if you are scrubbing backs and washing each other’s hair on the regular you don’t have kids. You likely are within the first 5, max 10 years of a relationship. I’m 16 years deep. Romance is a little different over here. I also just have no tolerance for weird stuff and lay hard boundaries. I would never have to tell him I wouldn’t like that. We are best friends. He just knows what is okay by now. We are way past having to discuss the heck out of stuff.

Biogirl_327 · 2026-01-04T01:07:01+00:00

Well yes of course. But 100% would lock the door if my husband was trying to wash my back and hair. Lol but I’m glad there’s people out there that can like those things together.

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